We started asking our son who is almost 18yrs old for board to which hes not happy with ( i dont want a debate on if he should pay board). He works part time (8 hours a week sat / sun) and earns about £130 pm for a flat month so we decided he should pay £20 board per month min with the condition that the amount he pays depends on what he earns any particular month. He has absolutley no get up and go or any aspirations what so ever. Whats more he has a baby on the way due in july and so far has only bought 3 items of clothing for it ! - he would rather spend his money on games. He spends upto 12hrs a day on his xbox so we decided today to up his board to a quarter of his pay but capped at £100 and to limit his game playing/computer time to 5hours a day. We are doing this to try and give a kick up the backside to get out and look for a better job. An example, he finds a job in a local paper last night, circles it and then leaves the paper in full view for us to find - when i ask him what hes done about it to day his reply is "nothing" !
He actually thinks that we are being harsh as he has to pay "loads of money" to us for board - this month he earned £280 so i put this question to him " so if i take £70 board and leave you with £210 to spend on nothing as you never go out other than to work twice a week (costs him about £25pm in travel ) and you have nothing else to pay how can that be harsh !?"
We dont need the board he pays (we are putting it aside for the baby but he doesnt know that) but at the same time we've tried talking to him and explaining that at the age of 18 with a kid on the way he should be doing more than just working 8hrs and spending 12hrs a day on his xbox - we are just trying to give that push to do something. We wouldnt even mind if he went to college to try and better himself as he has no excuse cos he only works weekends.
Anyone else been in a similar situation and any solutions that may have worked for you ?
He actually thinks that we are being harsh as he has to pay "loads of money" to us for board - this month he earned £280 so i put this question to him " so if i take £70 board and leave you with £210 to spend on nothing as you never go out other than to work twice a week (costs him about £25pm in travel ) and you have nothing else to pay how can that be harsh !?"
We dont need the board he pays (we are putting it aside for the baby but he doesnt know that) but at the same time we've tried talking to him and explaining that at the age of 18 with a kid on the way he should be doing more than just working 8hrs and spending 12hrs a day on his xbox - we are just trying to give that push to do something. We wouldnt even mind if he went to college to try and better himself as he has no excuse cos he only works weekends.
Anyone else been in a similar situation and any solutions that may have worked for you ?
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