What to do with a drug addict

[LabR@t]

My brother had been fleecing money out of my mum we have just found out. 30k so far he's had of her, she has spent her life savings and more. She is due to retire in a couple of years. We confronted her and she said she would stop funding him. She hasn't and he is threatening suicide all the time unless she hands over more money.

What do I do, give him a kicking? It will make me feel better, but wont stop it will it?

Anyone had to deal with similar?
It's making her Ill but she won't listen to me, she thinks she can/is helping him.

 

[Slam62]

No advice as I would have no idea what to do, terrible situation for all of you, good luck sorting it out.

 

[Duke]

I think we had a very similar thread on here a few years ago? Hope you can get him sorted.

 

[Yadda]

It sounds like your brother needs help. What drug(s) is(are) he addicted to?

 

[Lartyconshayo]

Are there any services that could help your brother with his mental health / addiction issues ?

 

[Resident]

Speak with police. Pretty sure they could go down some form of extortion route.

Failing that. Wooded area, a noose and previous threats of suicide ......

 

[Stumble Bum]

I think we had a very similar thread on here a few years ago? Hope you can get him sorted.

First thing I thought.... Deja vu???

 

[LabR@t]

It sounds like your brother needs help. What drug(s) is(are) he addicted to?

Heroin, crack, cocaibe as far as I know.

I have no time for him, it's mum I am worried
About

 

[LabR@t]

First thing I thought.... Deja vu???

Yes i tried searching for its

 

[Tek81]

I think we had a very similar thread on here a few years ago? Hope you can get him sorted.

That was my first thought as well. Group Deja vu?

 

[Housey]

Tough one but mum first and work with brother to get proper help is all I have.

If he won't help himself, protect mum and if needs be, get social services or police involved if he is becoming a menace.

 

[mollymoo]

Heroin, crack, cocaibe as far as I know.

I have no time for him, it's mum I am worried
About

The solution is to get him help, regardless of how loathsome he has become. He won't stop getting money from your Mum or kick the habit on his own and your Mum will likely never stop helping him score.

This comes from first hand experience.

 

[darkgen]

Addiction is a terrible thing. Get him on-board and get him help; forcibly or otherwise. If he rejects; cut ties. It’s harsh and cold but life is short, whether they’re blood or otherwise. Coach your mother, bluntly if needs be.

The drugs aspect is somewhat irrelevant; addiction blights all it touches.

 

[DarrenM343]

Your mum is doing more harm than good to be honest and she needs to see that.
I feel sorry for OP and their mum but the brother sounds like a real idiot. I mean sucked away all that money and threatens suicide to get more? Have they no shame, consideration for their mum?I realise drug addicts are run by the addiction but for gawd's sake. If he was serious about suicide probably would have done it by now.
Put them on a guilt trip, push them as far as they'll go and this will sounds like a movie but make them choose life not death. You and your mum need to focus on getting them professional help, not a drip feed of money.
With drug addition comes with a self-imposed risk to life. harsh but mum needs to realise her son is half-dead already - getting out of the addiction is the only way.
I wish you all well with the situation, including your brother.

 

[FloppyPoppy]

Have him arrested.

Prison is great for addicts.

 

[Tek81]

My brother had been fleecing money out of my mum we have just found out. 30k so far he's had of her, she has spent her life savings and more. She is due to retire in a couple of years. We confronted her and she said she would stop funding him. She hasn't and he is threatening suicide all the time unless she hands over more money.

What do I do, give him a kicking? It will make me feel better, but wont stop it will it?

Anyone had to deal with similar?
It's making her Ill but she won't listen to me, she thinks she can/is helping him.

I've not dealt with anything like that personally, however I have had friends who were drug addicts. Both used to steal from friends and family to fund their heroin habit. One of them got clean after a family intervention, but soon returned to his old habits. Ultimately, an addict has to want to get clean. If there's even a modicum of reservation, it's just not going to happen; at least not on a permantant basis. Both are now deceased, and as morbid as it may seem, there was an element of relief expressed by both families.

 

[explicit4u]

Get your mum to talk to someone too unless you have a way with words. No matter how much you try some people just can't see that they're being taken advantage of and if you try to point this out you can really ruin your relationship with them.

Not sure about your local area, but there's tonnes of services for mental health, addiction, carers etc etc. It's usually best to safeguard the people around an addict first, then try and get them to seek help, it's a long and slow process and you need to be very level headed and patient to get them to start helping themselves. If you're the only one trying to help maybe speak to someone yourself cause it can take it's toll on you.

 

[LabR@t]

I have told her to change her number and cut ties

 

[Ayahuasca]

I have told her to change her number and cut ties

Bad idea, it will affect her mental health even more not knowing how he is or if he dies without months/years of contact.

He needs help and whilst it's a very long process it benefits all three of you if he makes it out of the other side.

 

[.Lethal]

I have told her to change her number and cut ties

Jesus you know how to help in a dire situation.