What would you do in this situation....

Last friday I was invited by 15 ex work colleagues to go out for a curry & beer and at the end of the night they told me I owed £21 :eek:
I just walked out because they invited me.
 
As above - meal at a restaurant with 20-30 people, expect to pay! (unless of course they are known to be very well off / generous)

The only time this is an exception - weddings / christenings I guess.

(Edit: Although if it was me making the invite, I would have specified 'it's likely to be £x but I will be putting £x towards the meal / behind the bar)
 
daven1986 said:
Even if you expected to pay, I never pay an equal share of the bill. I always pay for what I have eaten / drunk and the service for that. I order my food according to what I can afford / want to spend - don't want to be paying for someone else's expensive taste!
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People who do this really grind my gears for some reason. Especially if you go out with the same people regularly. Its all swings and roundabouts at the end of the day, sometimes you'll pay more, sometimes you'll pay less.
 
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johnny6 said:
People who do this really grind my gears for some reason. Especially if you go out with the same people regularly. Its all swings and roundabouts at the end of the day, sometimes you'll pay more, sometimes you'll pay less.
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Nope, I always order less than everyone else at the table - because I don't drink much. I'd always be paying more.
 
its not wrong to expect it, HOWEVER, it is stupid to not take some just incase.

And tbh with 20-30 people there nobody i know would foot that bill. But even if it was 10 people you would still take cash just incase
 
daven1986 said:
Even if you expected to pay, I never pay an equal share of the bill. I always pay for what I have eaten / drunk and the service for that. I order my food according to what I can afford / want to spend - don't want to be paying for someone else's expensive taste!

And I would have been in 2 minds, probably have thought it would be pay for yourself - hope it would be paid for, but take money anyway.
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johnny6 said:
People who do this really grind my gears for some reason. Especially if you go out with the same people regularly. Its all swings and roundabouts at the end of the day, sometimes you'll pay more, sometimes you'll pay less.
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Agreed johnny. Man up and accept that working the bill out to the nearest fraction is just being a pillock. Pay for the share, not necessarily your share, life evens out in the end.

And remember Daven, do this a few times and people will remember how petty you are.


I would expect to pay my share when invited out to a birthday meal. In fact I would expect my share to include that of the meal for the birthday boy or girl. Maybe some of us are more generous than others eh.
 
daven1986 said:
Even if you expected to pay, I never pay an equal share of the bill. I always pay for what I have eaten / drunk and the service for that. I order my food according to what I can afford / want to spend - don't want to be paying for someone else's expensive taste!
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Whenever I have been invited somewhere for a meal for a birthday it has been paid for by the host. You buy them a present perhaps in return.

If it is a more casual affair and you get a phone call saying it is someone birthday and they are going for a meal you shouldn't assume anything.

Who goes out anywhere without their wallet these days, any money or at least a card anyway? How did you pay the taxi and did you also expect free drinks?

Yes they are quite often free but to assume is a bit stupid.
 
the thing that gets me is that say the bill is divided between 30 people so works out at 30 quid per person......u cud of only had a meal for say 15 quid....n have to pay for sumone else having caviar, as an example.....i wud just say im only paying for wot i orderd.....i dont have starter and dessert but others do,so im not payin for there 3 course meal....i wudnt expect others to pay for my al a carte if they only had sausage n chips.....
 
johnny6 said:
People who do this really grind my gears for some reason. Especially if you go out with the same people regularly. Its all swings and roundabouts at the end of the day, sometimes you'll pay more, sometimes you'll pay less.
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That really depends who you're going out with. I'm a vegetarian and don't eat huge meals or drink much, so my meal is almost always the cheapest. If other people want to order steaks and several bottles of wine then that's fine, but I refuse to subsidise that and I wouldn't expect others to pay if I decided to do something similar.
 
In a pub/burger place/take away situation you pay for your own, but if you're going for a proper sit down meal its equal share as far as I am concerned.

If you insist on getting a calculator out at the end of your meal to work out exactly what you owe then sorry I personally wouldn't go out for a meal with you or anyone that does (in fact I have a friend who does this and I refuse to go out for meals with him)

I'm not just saying this either because I'm always on the winning side. Last meal I went out for all I got was a toasted BLT and a pint of pepsi (not that hungry and driving) and I still chucked in an equal share, which was about 6 quid more than my meal was worth.
 
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