What would you do? life changing decision ... genuine posts only please !!

Toryglen-boy

Toryglen-boy

Toryglen-boy

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As most of you know, i am a Brit, but live in Australia with my partner. I have a good job doing Citrix, Netware, Lotus notes trouble shooting for a large software company. Again, as most of you know, i was recently diagnosed as being ill (dont ask) but i am on medication, and its helping.

My partner and myself have recently split up, we have a wee girl (11 months old) and my partner, being Australian, is staying here. I handed in my notice and work, and this friday is due to be my last day, and was set to fly out to good 'ol blighty next Monday morning.

I was in a meeting today with the head of personell, and my office manager, and they told me they want me to stay, i called immigration today in Sydney, and they told me i could probably stay as i would have joint custody of my daughter, and she is Australian. The payroll is being done tommorow, and i have to let them know by 9am tommorow morning (midnight your time!) they are happy to help me stay, as they dont want to lose me, it would be hard at first, but i would enjoy my little girls company and have my good job, although i would be living alone on the other side of the world on my own, and i miss the UK. i miss a half decent pint and MoTD :)

so there are my choices.

Stay in Australia, on the other side of the world on my own, good job etc, and i get to see my daughter, althought i dont really know anyone or anything here,

or

Come home, see my family and friends, with the chunk of money i have saved (10K) and start again ... on my own, and i will probably never see my ex or my daughter again.

sorry to lay all this on you, but i know seeing things from someone else point of view can often help.

please dont take the ****

thanks
 
I guess it comes down to how you feel about it, but I'm not sure I'd be able to leave knowing i'd probably never see my daughter again.
 
Stay here :D

We need more Australians on this forum! :)


And you still have to travel around here a bit first :)
 
stay, you'll meet new people. If it doesn't work out you can always come home later on. Surly it's worth a try to stay in contact with your daughter.
 
I would stay it would be much better seeing your daughter grow up and be near her for her bad or good times.
 
Stay for sure, you will meet people everywhere and soon make friends, also you can be with your daughter, id stay for sure dude, go for it, lifes gonna be better there than the UK ,I can tell you the UK sucks
 
If you stay you could always decide to leave in the future if things don't work out, and you get to see your daughter in the meantime.

If you leave now it will be a lot harder to go back to Australia if things don't work out back in the UK and you'll have wasted the money you saved up.
 
Stay in Australia for sure. You have a stable job, your daughter is there and in time you will meet new people. If you came home you would have to find a job would not see your daugher often at all. If you moved back to the uk you would regret not seeing your daughter most I would guess.
 
SoliD said:
Stay in Australia for sure. You have a stable job, your daughter is there and in time you will meet new people. If you came home you would have to find a job would not see your daugher often at all. If you moved back to the uk you would regret not seeing your daughter most I would guess.
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i have a flat, and a job waiting for me if i go back !!

:confused:
 
As hard as it might be give it another year, then if you do decide to come home you can always say you tried.

What you dont want is to come back & always having that WHAT IF every morning you wake up.

I can imagine you having a worse time with immigration/ex partner if you do decide to return in the future.

Good luck either way.
 
If I were in your shoes and it was a choise of being on my own ( in the beginning!!! ) and being able to see my son Daniel ( he's nearly 4 )
Or come home to my family and friends etc but never see him grow up, never hear his laugh etc I know exactly what I would chose!
I am not trying to make your mind up for you dude but if I was put in a position where I had to chose as you do, I would chose my son without hesitation! I'm his dad and he needs me more than anyone else does!!;)
 
Is it not possible to postpone this decision until you are off the medication, assuming you do come off it:)
 
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