i hear you, and in general i agree ...
but if there is one thing i have learned ... you cant live your life for anyone else...
I think that is more applicable in the context of other adults than with your own children.
What would you do? life changing decision ... genuine posts only please !!
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I think that is more applicable in the context of other adults than with your own children.
i hear you, and in general i agree ...
but if there is one thing i have learned ... you cant live your life for anyone else...
So you would be quite happy to leave your daughter behind and not ever visit her again??. Seems to me that you sound kinda down/depressed about this whole thing..possibly due to your illness.
If not then i apologise but from where im sitting and reading...it comes across as that way ie your narked off with life so much so that now you have become selfish. Nothing wrong in that i suppose but when it comes to your kids, its not exactly the right attitude to have imho.
i hear you, and in general i agree ...
but if there is one thing i have learned ... you cant live your life for anyone else...
Sure.. other adults but not your own children. Look at it this way, I bet you will have loads of regrets about leaving your daughter and coming back to the UK. Your daughter will probably resent you for leaving her. I am no expert (don't have kids) but I would think that not having her farther figure in her life is going to impact her psychologically.
Sounds like you will have a decent job and the oppotunity to come back to the UK to visit. Is OZ really that bad?
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Stay. You'll get to see your daughter, and as you say you have a good job. You'll soon make friends!
If in a few months you decide you want to return home, at least you've given it a go.
Good Luck!!
If in a few months you decide you want to return home, at least you've given it a go.
Good Luck!!
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Your daughter's life will surely be better with your active participation financially and emotionally. While you shouldn't go about living life to please others, your young daughter is only around because of a choice you and your partner made. I reckon you have a responsibility to be nearby. If you leave, in your partner's eyes, you'll forefit most of your right to have an influence over her upbringing.
As others said, you can leave at a later date if the experience is really getting you down. It doesn't sound like you significantly dislike the place though. You'd have to be trying pretty hard not to made new friends and form a new network if you hang around long enough. I doubt you'd be lonely to too long!
As others said, you can leave at a later date if the experience is really getting you down. It doesn't sound like you significantly dislike the place though. You'd have to be trying pretty hard not to made new friends and form a new network if you hang around long enough. I doubt you'd be lonely to too long!
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Do whatever it takes to stay with your daughter unless medical reasons seriously prevent that.
i hear you, and in general i agree ...
but if there is one thing i have learned ... you cant live your life for anyone else...
You can't live your life for anyone else? what the...... It is your daughter, your world is supposed to revolved around your children, if not you shouldn't have had one tbh. (Also am i the only person who finds that statement ironic when you are asking an internet forum of strangers how you should live your life? you value them more than your daughter?)
I wouldn't leave my child on the other side of the world tbh. It could be argued it may be different if she was closer, even than that would be bad enough, but Australia is too far away.
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To be perfectly honest, you don't really have a decision to make. I have a 15 month old daughter, and while sometimes she can drive me nuts, I love her more than anything. I am American, living the UK, and if my wife and I were to split, my first choice is to take my daughter to America, but failing that, I would stay here without a doubt. It's sortof a no-brainer. She is a part of you man, you can't walk (or fly) away from that.
