What would you do? life changing decision ... genuine posts only please !!

When your daughter is old enough to understand all this, she will thank you for staying :)

All the best :)
 
DreXeL said:
I do sympathise with your situation regarding your illness, and wish you all the best in the world with regards to that, but I just cannot understand for a moment how you could even consider never seeing your daughter again. The very thought of not seeing my kids again would tear my heart out, I couldn't even contemplate it.
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exactly how i feel, i would give up everything for my son without even thinking twice about it. he's the reason i get up in the morning.
 
I've not bothered reading everyone elses replies but in answer to your origional post: Stay, stick that 10k in bond for the wee bairn and maybe ask for a month unpaid leave to go see your family. Bring your daughter up or at least try it so you have no regrets. I think its probably been said but you can always come back at another point if you change your mind. It'd be harder to come back and then change your mind and go back to aus though.

hope its worth something. Oh and good luck with the illness, whatever it is :)

edit: A descision! Good luck with all :)
 
Toryglen-boy said:
As most of you know, i am a Brit, but live in Australia with my partner. I have a good job doing Citrix, Netware, Lotus notes trouble shooting for a large software company. Again, as most of you know, i was recently diagnosed as being ill (dont ask) but i am on medication, and its helping.

My partner and myself have recently split up, we have a wee girl (11 months old) and my partner, being Australian, is staying here. I handed in my notice and work, and this friday is due to be my last day, and was set to fly out to good 'ol blighty next Monday morning.

I was in a meeting today with the head of personell, and my office manager, and they told me they want me to stay, i called immigration today in Sydney, and they told me i could probably stay as i would have joint custody of my daughter, and she is Australian. The payroll is being done tommorow, and i have to let them know by 9am tommorow morning (midnight your time!) they are happy to help me stay, as they dont want to lose me, it would be hard at first, but i would enjoy my little girls company and have my good job, although i would be living alone on the other side of the world on my own, and i miss the UK. i miss a half decent pint and MoTD :)

so there are my choices.

Stay in Australia, on the other side of the world on my own, good job etc, and i get to see my daughter, althought i dont really know anyone or anything here,

or

Come home, see my family and friends, with the chunk of money i have saved (10K) and start again ... on my own, and i will probably never see my ex or my daughter again.

sorry to lay all this on you, but i know seeing things from someone else point of view can often help.

please dont take the ****

thanks
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Stay.

I moved over here a year ago without knowing anyone and Im getting by pretty well.
You will know fine well the benefits and lifestyle here over the UK.

MOTD is no problem , there are more matches on TV here than in the UK and the beer is great - just stay away from VB or anything made by Carlton.
 
Toryglen-boy said:
thanks to all for posting, and thanks to everyone for not judging me !!

You dont know it, but you have helped me make a decision, and you have helped to make a little girl very happy, infact you have helped to shape my life.

i was wary of posting here, but its a place i have come to enjoy spending time in, and a place where people are of a like mind to discuss it sensibly (most of the time!)

again people, thank you very very much ...

just going through to personell to let them know i am staying .. :p


then i am going to the doctors, and hopefully to the hospital.



peace out

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good for you mate that is the correct decision
in a few years when your watching her in her first play at school with a big lump in your throught
or just after you tought her to ride a bike/learn to swim/beat her first boyfreind :D
you'll know you made the correct decision
my daughter is nearly 16 and ive enjoyed every moment
 
Toryglen-boy said:
thanks to all for posting, and thanks to everyone for not judging me !!

You dont know it, but you have helped me make a decision, and you have helped to make a little girl very happy, infact you have helped to shape my life.

i was wary of posting here, but its a place i have come to enjoy spending time in, and a place where people are of a like mind to discuss it sensibly (most of the time!)

again people, thank you very very much ...

just going through to personell to let them know i am staying .. :p


then i am going to the doctors, and hopefully to the hospital.



peace out

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Now that you are staying, is the many interesting things around Bendigo and Ballarat and that part of Victoria?

Me and the Girlfriend could be going there in a few months and i have never been over there so i dont know were to go and what to avoid.

Anyway, Enjoy becoming an Australian:cool:
 
Well done TGB!!
You'll not regret a moment of it!
And your daughter will respect you for more than you know!!
Good luck over there and enjoy it! our summers are getting ******r all the time anyway:p
 
DreXeL said:
As a father of four I am stunned that anyone can even ask the question to be honest. In my mind there is no option, you stay where your daughter is.

I do sympathise with your situation regarding your illness, and wish you all the best in the world with regards to that, but I just cannot understand for a moment how you could even consider never seeing your daughter again. The very thought of not seeing my kids again would tear my heart out, I couldn't even contemplate it.
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Aye, but he misses a pint and match of the day, you can see the dilemma :p

Edit: didnt see how old this thread was, ooopa.
 
Combat squirrel said:
Stay for sure, you will meet people everywhere and soon make friends, also you can be with your daughter, id stay for sure dude, go for it, lifes gonna be better there than the UK ,I can tell you the UK sucks
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I agree, that would be my way of thinking too! :) You can still come back to blighty if things don't work out. Worth a go for the bairn.

As I'm sure everyone in the UK on thiese forums will agree, I'll leave you with this outburst mate......

Leave Oz.....AFTER THE SUMMER THE UK HAS JUST HAD......ARE YOU NUTS???!!!!:D:D
 
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