What would you do? life changing decision ... genuine posts only please !!
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Well he refused to mention it in this thread, so no I don't think they have. I did though. But does it matter? Surly his daughter is more important than anything no matter what?
Well he refused to mention it in this thread, so no I don't think they have. I did though. But does it matter? Surly his daughter is more important than anything no matter what?
I was just pointing out that suggestions to wait it out a few years and see how things pan out, and getting to know his daughter as she grows up, might not be the most appropriate or useful comments given the circumstances.
I'm not for a moment suggesting he shouldn't care about his daughter, you'd know that if you read my first post.
Daughter aside, I'd stay in Oz. Every time I leave the UK, after a week I start to miss aspects of it. But it normally only takes an hour of being back here that I realise how tired I am of it.
Stay, come back to the UK for a holiday and you may realise that it's only small habits you miss, that take your mind off the rubbish. Which, for the most part, are quite easy to replace with other things.
Now, factoring your daughter into the equation - there's no question in my view. If you go now, you'll maybe miss the opportunity forever. If you stay and things change, or you want to come back to the UK - it'll still be here and they let anyone in these days
Stay, come back to the UK for a holiday and you may realise that it's only small habits you miss, that take your mind off the rubbish. Which, for the most part, are quite easy to replace with other things.
Now, factoring your daughter into the equation - there's no question in my view. If you go now, you'll maybe miss the opportunity forever. If you stay and things change, or you want to come back to the UK - it'll still be here and they let anyone in these days
dbmzk1, thanks for the heads up there!
Well after reading that thread TGB I can understand the difficulty in your dissision!
I now have a hightened level of respect for you and believe you will follow your heart and do what is right!
However, Personally I would find at a time like this I would want to stay with my child even more so, "my family and friends have had their fare share of me, now its my childs turn!!"
I hope I have put that across as I meant to and haven't offended you!
Best of luck and keep that celtic spirit up!!
Well after reading that thread TGB I can understand the difficulty in your dissision!
I now have a hightened level of respect for you and believe you will follow your heart and do what is right!
However, Personally I would find at a time like this I would want to stay with my child even more so, "my family and friends have had their fare share of me, now its my childs turn!!"
I hope I have put that across as I meant to and haven't offended you!
Best of luck and keep that celtic spirit up!!
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How you can even question this is beyond me. Your daughter should be your absolute priority and to think that you could live with not ever seeing her again disgusts me, frankly.
I couldn't imagine it would be easy leaving your daughter behind, you'd miss out on so much watching her grow up.
You can always join a club - ozzies are the most outgoing people I've met, I doubt you'd have trouble making friends if you put yourself out there.
Then again you could come home and take 3 or 4 holidays a year to Oz - unless money is too tight, if a few flights over a year would be too much for the wallet maybe it's best to stay and see what you can make of it.
You can always join a club - ozzies are the most outgoing people I've met, I doubt you'd have trouble making friends if you put yourself out there.
Then again you could come home and take 3 or 4 holidays a year to Oz - unless money is too tight, if a few flights over a year would be too much for the wallet maybe it's best to stay and see what you can make of it.
Put it this way, how are you going to feel in 20 years time, when your Daughter turns up on your doorstep and says "Why didnt you bother with me Dad?"
My Mum has never met her dad, he left her Mum before she was born, and it has affected my mum in more ways than I can mention.
My Mum has never met her dad, he left her Mum before she was born, and it has affected my mum in more ways than I can mention.
As a father of four I am stunned that anyone can even ask the question to be honest. In my mind there is no option, you stay where your daughter is.
I do sympathise with your situation regarding your illness, and wish you all the best in the world with regards to that, but I just cannot understand for a moment how you could even consider never seeing your daughter again. The very thought of not seeing my kids again would tear my heart out, I couldn't even contemplate it.
I do sympathise with your situation regarding your illness, and wish you all the best in the world with regards to that, but I just cannot understand for a moment how you could even consider never seeing your daughter again. The very thought of not seeing my kids again would tear my heart out, I couldn't even contemplate it.
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thanks to all for posting, and thanks to everyone for not judging me !!
You dont know it, but you have helped me make a decision, and you have helped to make a little girl very happy, infact you have helped to shape my life.
i was wary of posting here, but its a place i have come to enjoy spending time in, and a place where people are of a like mind to discuss it sensibly (most of the time!)
again people, thank you very very much ...
just going through to personell to let them know i am staying ..
then i am going to the doctors, and hopefully to the hospital.
peace out
You dont know it, but you have helped me make a decision, and you have helped to make a little girl very happy, infact you have helped to shape my life.
i was wary of posting here, but its a place i have come to enjoy spending time in, and a place where people are of a like mind to discuss it sensibly (most of the time!)
again people, thank you very very much ...
just going through to personell to let them know i am staying ..
then i am going to the doctors, and hopefully to the hospital.
peace out
