What would you do? (relationship)

[Geckovich]

If she truly believes in no sex before marriage, and you don't, then she isn't perfect for you. Either you force her to break something she's lived by her whole life or she forces you into a blind and ill advised marriage - sounds wonderful.

What stage are you at with her?

Is it staring longingly across the workplace dreaming of what could be if only it weren't for that rumour about her and marraige...

Or

You've been close friends for ages, have talked to her about taking things further and both confessed your love for each other, but are haunted by the white elephant of her virginity.

I don't mean either of those to sound rude but knowing how serious things are would give a better basis for serious advice.

 

[Nix]

How can you know she's perfect for you if you've never had physical relations with her?


Personally I'd get out. Way out. Fast.

Exactly. Whip it out, way out. Fast.

Helpful Nix, away!

 

[Hades]

If she truly believes in no sex before marriage, and you don't, then she isn't perfect for you. Either you force her to break something she's lived by her whole life or she forces you into a blind and ill advised marriage - sounds wonderful.

What stage are you at with her?

Is it staring longingly across the workplace dreaming of what could be if only it weren't for that rumour about her and marraige...

Or

You've been close friends for ages, have talked to her about taking things further and both confessed your love for each other, but are haunted by the white elephant of her virginity.

I don't mean either of those to sound rude but knowing how serious things are would give a better basis for serious advice.

Good question.

 

[CaptainComedy]

How can you know she's perfect for you if you've never had physical relations with her?


Personally I'd get out. Way out. Fast.

physical relations? dude I have touched her ya know

I've done everything **to her** appart from sex. But personality to me is more important than all the sex in the world and she has that... I think I will just put up with the frustration but it's hard man... I mean I get cramping pains from the frustration, mood swings and all that **** and I really hate that.... I really really hate that.

 

[Van Hellseek]

physical relations? dude I have touched her ya know

Not exactly what I meant...

 

[E61 Grouphead]

One up the bum, no harm done.

This

Smash her pasty and tell her that its not rape, its surprise sex.

 

[WARHURYEAH]

One up the bum, no harm done.

This.

 

[.Lethal]

Sex is a "big big deal" to you and you can't have one of the key things you want unless you get married and lets be real here that is miles off if it will ever happend.

You've answered your own question.

I dont care about the other **** you pointed out, everyone feels like "she is the one" when your in an amazing relationship, so let it go and find someone else who will make you happy.

Eaither that or drag it out and let your "mood swings" ruin it.

 

[Hades]

I just don't want to wait 4 or 5 years, get married and then find out it wasn't worth the wait I guess....

Then you have answered the question. If she really were the one for you, you wouldn't be talking about waiting 4 years. In the example I gave above I'd have married her the next day if I could (ok, slight exaduration but you get the point). If you're still thinking about waiting several years then it's probably lust rather than true love.

 

[V4NT0M]

I would post on OcUK.

 

[Morba]

I just don't want to wait 4 or 5 years, get married and then find out it wasn't worth the wait I guess.... Sex is a big thing for me, I get "frustrated" and act out of character etc etc. And if thats what I marry into I would end up getting divorced pretty quickly...

I don't want to waste my time... but I don't want to say I didn't take a chance...

im the same, need to be close physically. some people are good, some people are bad, id rather know the woman im going to marry and be with for the rest of my life is good!

though, as a virgin you get to teach her

 

[shifty_uk]

Always try before you buy.

 

[Nitefly]

I think sex is a huge part of relationships. I don't think I could wait, but it will obviously depend on your extant relationship with her - every person is different, yourself and her included. What might sound like a horror to me now could make sense if I meet a particular girl.

 

[krooton]

Sex is only not a huge aspect of certain relationships.

And those are called platonic friendships.

 

[Angilion]

You've met the love of your life, your soul mate, the perfect opposite of you... but she was brought up a christian so no sex before marriage.... what would you do? stay or go?

Before anyone says I'm not being shallow, it's a big thing for me. A very big thing.

It depends on your religious beliefs, or lack thereof. Unless you're also a devout Christian in the same or similar denomination, there will probably be other major incompatibilities.

 

[geekyEd]

It very much depends on you. I personally couldn't do it. Just by having doubts and posting on here I'm guessing that you are the same.

 

[zooankski]

andy: marrying for sex isn't the best reason to get married.

You are right. I got married for the first time at 18 and having looked back to that point in my life-i would say sex played a very large part in that decision. WORST THING I EVER DID!!!!

 

[Fuzz]

What would I do...
Tell her she's a wrong un and walk away

 

[ivrytwr3]

while you're being Mr Nice, she is no doubt getting her pasty smashed at every available opportunity by Mr Bad Boy (if not, no doubt pretty soon).

 

[^TANK^]

I'd wait till she fell asleep.

Chloroform?

Toss her salad!