What would you do?

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If you cared about a person a lot and you saw them going back down the same self-destructive path they've been down before, making the same mistakes, and they had told you they're not happy, but they got angry every time you tried to help them- would you leave them to it, and just hope they are able to sort it out on their own, or would you try everything you could to make them see they deserve better, and are able to achieve it, in the hope that they'd finally be really happy, even if it meant you risked losing them for good?
 
I'd tell them exactly what I thought. I'd tell them that I wasn't trying to upset them just help them because I care for them but if they don't want to hear it then I'd promise to never raise the issue again. Then I'd be as supportive and non-judgemental as possible.
 
Leave them to their own devices and get on with my own life.

It happened to my best friend RIP, you can only help people so much.
 
jp_bl_68 said:
I'd tell them exactly what I thought. I'd tell them that I wasn't trying to upset them just help them because I care for them but if they don't want to hear it then I'd promise to never raise the issue again. Then I'd be as supportive and non-judgemental as possible.
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well said
 
Basically this is a girl thread you want to nail her but haven't got out of the friends zone?

KaHn
 
geeklight said:
If you cared about a person a lot and you saw them going back down the same self-destructive path they've been down before, making the same mistakes, and they had told you they're not happy, but they got angry every time you tried to help them- would you leave them to it, and just hope they are able to sort it out on their own, or would you try everything you could to make them see they deserve better, and are able to achieve it, in the hope that they'd finally be really happy, even if it meant you risked losing them for good?
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quoting Garibaldi from babylon 5 here....

Sometimes people walk away because they want to be alone. Sometimes they walk away because they want to see if you care enough to follow them into hell.....
 
If it starts having a negative effect on you - walk away.

Up until that point - do whatever you can to offer advice and support for them to get back to normal. Just remember - some people just can't be saved or reasoned with - and unfortunately we nearly all know someone like that.
 
Infam0us said:
I never watched it, I was just being stupid :p Did'nt it end in a big film or something?
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bah :p no it ended kinda weird. Everybody left, was very sad :( great series (dont count crusade in that!) Was kindoff a space soap opera really...unfortunately nothing lasts forever and they all move on.
 
KaHn said:
Basically this is a girl thread you want to nail her but haven't got out of the friends zone?

KaHn
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No, I'm a girl, not lesbian, and it's a friend I care deeply about, who has spent a long time being miserable and who I would really love to see happy finally. I just don't really know what's the best way to help them and it's driving me nuts.
 
There is only so much you can do, especially when it comes to depressed people.

I've had to be strict with one of my friends before. Sometimes people need a push rather than comfort.

But it all depends on what the person is like and the things that's making her depressed.
 
1 Paragraph = 104 words + loads of commas = a really hard read.

Also, to hard to call on the answer with only one side of the story, but you could be right ;)
 
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