Whatever happened to the British "Gentleman"?
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Personally I think being a "gentleman" or a "lady" is irrelevant as there are lots of so called ladies and gentlemen with no real manners, who look down on others and who have no empathy for other people. I think as long as you're a nice and kind person then that's all that matters. I don't like it when people think they are better than others because they're not, we're all the same and no one is above someone else just because they like to think they are a "gentleman" or a "lady".
People should just try to get along and be nice and considerate to each other and then the world would be a better place, there's no need to label people imo.
People should just try to get along and be nice and considerate to each other and then the world would be a better place, there's no need to label people imo.
Dunno, give it a go, send me the photo and I'll tell you
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Twas me getting jealous.
Indeed. Those who perceive themselves as ladies or gentlemen but are too far up their own arse to display any proper manners or respect for others are far from genuine ladies or gentlemen. They are the opposite and they always eventually show themselves to be the follies that they are.JodieG said:
A lady or a gentleman doesn't need to dress up in expensive clothes, drive a Rolls and drink rare brandies. A display of manners, respect and etiquette are all that is required from a well rounded individual.
Exactly! But then there are so many mis-informed people who believe you have to be upperclass to have gentlemanly manners.
I blame homosexuals, in countries where it is banned the men get much more respect.
Er. Actually no, I'll quote it but not comment on it.
Agreed Jodie but I like to know what people mean when they lament the lack of real ladies. If we're talking Mr Chumondley-Warner (sp?!)'s preference of how women should act - there are indeed precious few!
However as a geeky, short-haired, ale-drinking and rarely dress-donning woman, I have been called a lady several times (by men I would consider to be gentlemen) - and would like to tell these lamenting men to keep their eyes open - there are wonderful and interesting people everywhere, just not always in the usual guises
Oh sir!
If I was born a good 100 years ago and actually did carry a pretty little monogrammed hanky up my sleeve, I may pretend to drop it now in order to ascertain your intentions...
I don't believe that it's anything to do with whether or not there are any Ladies left or whether anyone is watching; it's just a natural state for some people.
I have a friend (late thirties) who is always immaculately turned out with the cuffs of his shirt just "shot" enough, shoes you can see your face in, silk tie and 3 piece suit, cufflinks etc etc and he is a gentleman. (deffo not gay either) He presents himself in the way that he does because he feels unconfortable in casual clothes; it's not for other people, it's for him. I often sit and chat with him in our local bar whilst I am dressed in my grotty, dog walking clothes and he treats me with the same innate courtesy that he always offers.
I have also known a senior barrister who was public school educated, very well spoken etc; he was brought up to treat people with respect and courtesy and his demeanor was totally natural and not "put on" in any way.
I think that a true Gentleman is quite a rare thing but there are still a number of people who believe in good, honest and true things; it's just a shame that they are in the minority.
I could never be described as a gentleman but I usually make an effort to treat people well until they demonstrate that they don't deserve it.
ramble, ramble ......... when I was a lad ......... anyone for a Werthers?
I have a friend (late thirties) who is always immaculately turned out with the cuffs of his shirt just "shot" enough, shoes you can see your face in, silk tie and 3 piece suit, cufflinks etc etc and he is a gentleman. (deffo not gay either) He presents himself in the way that he does because he feels unconfortable in casual clothes; it's not for other people, it's for him. I often sit and chat with him in our local bar whilst I am dressed in my grotty, dog walking clothes and he treats me with the same innate courtesy that he always offers.
I have also known a senior barrister who was public school educated, very well spoken etc; he was brought up to treat people with respect and courtesy and his demeanor was totally natural and not "put on" in any way.
I think that a true Gentleman is quite a rare thing but there are still a number of people who believe in good, honest and true things; it's just a shame that they are in the minority.
I could never be described as a gentleman but I usually make an effort to treat people well until they demonstrate that they don't deserve it.
ramble, ramble ......... when I was a lad ......... anyone for a Werthers?