When you get cancer how are you going to handle it?

G-MAN2004 said:
I'd lock it away in the back of my mind and get on with my days. I also wouldn't tell anyone I have it - not even my parents.
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This.

marc2003 said:
if i was diagnosed with something terminal with no chance of remission, there's quite a few people i'd like to take out before i go. :p
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Probably coupled with this. There's a lovely stretch of road near my house where plenty of chavs from the local hive do laps on their hairdryer powered mopeds at all hours of the night. A high-powered rifle with a night vision scope would certainly make my last few nights far more satisfying.

Of course, knowing my luck I'd get caught and the cancer would magically disappear over night...
 
Initial reaction - gibbering, blubbering wreck coupled with wallowing in self-pity and wailing various pleas about "I'm too young", "why me" etc etc. This lasted a while.

Then, for some reason, I caught sight of my daughter looking at me with complete desolation in her eyes and, whilst things were going to be bad for me, it would be far worse for those left behind if I were to spend what could be my last days behaving in that way. From that point onwards I made a conscious decision to be positive and upbeat - to simply not dignify the ******* disease by allowing it to destroy me. It was ****ing hard at times but a strength came from somewhere that carried us all through.
 
I've had it twice already. I see the third time as being inevitable: its a matter of when I get it, not if.

Saying that, I'll probably cry for a bit, then book myself into the nearest hospital sharpish...
 
Mother died of cancer at 39 when I was 9. Pancreatic cancer but she had it all over eventually, she had 3 operations over the years and it just spread and spread. Thing is she didn't drink much and hated smoking, she ate well... I don't know. She worked for Shell at the refinery for years and a lot of them got cancer there but she was mainly office staff. I don't know TBH. Maybe I could get it as well. There's no family history of it though.
 
I think I would be pretty brave and have a bit of humour about it. But I think I would be a big baby during treatment as it sounds nasty.
If I was told I only had a certain amount of time to live. I would do lots of things like visit countries I always wanted to see, maybe see most of Europe on my motorbike. Quite possible make up with a family member, and maybe buy another Titan black.
I hear quite a lot of people say what they would do if they only had so much time to live. The funny thing is they could and me, do it all now.But we most probably wont and just put it off.
 
My own death has never been a worry or a big issue and I suppose now at age 62 I will be on the downward slope. Negatives, I have smoked and still enjoy a couple of cigars a day, very moderate drinker couple of pints a week. Positives 5' 10" and 10 stone wet same as at age 18.

Personally I would be fatalistic about it and not push to be the longest survivor if it meant long term ill health. I would be more concerned with dementia.
 
Theophany said:
Give up my job as a high school chemistry teacher, buy an RV and make methamphetamines with one of my old students so that I can leave behind enough money for my family to be taken care of after I die.
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Just avoid fast food outlets and avoid any brother-in-laws and you'll be fine :D

To be honest I don't know how I would react, I fear that I wouldn’t be strong for my family or simply fall apart, in fact my worst fear wouldn’t be going through the illness but to not see my children growing up.

Ultimately though, if it did happen, I could only trust God for the strength for each day and not worry about my own situation but be strong for my family... they are what it all boils down to in the end.

I must confess, as much as I would hate to go through a terminal illness, I am not afraid of death itself.
 
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bakes0310 said:
I hear quite a lot of people say what they would do if they only had so much time to live. The funny thing is they could and me, do it all now.But we most probably wont and just put it off.
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I think the money issue factors a lot into this. Sure you could buy that Titan Black now, but what about the car you're saving for, or if the boiler needs repaired in a few months etc. If you've only got a few months to live, then who cares?
 
Probably wouldn't react too much, I'd understand the mavity of the situation but things that only affect me I usually ignore.

My reason to fight it would be so that my family, especially my mum, would not have to have my funeral before its time. I wouldn't fight it for me but I'd fight it and remain positive for my family.
 
Well this thread is kinda relevant to me right now.

I had swollen lymph nodes in my groin for about 8 months. During the time I had them I had ultrasound scans which showed them as reactive (normal) and they didn't really get any larger. As far as I know all of my blood tests were normal. I then had an ultrasound guided core needle biopsy which came back negative for cancer but I'm told these aren't always as reliable.

My consultant then told me he wanted to take the nodes away by biopsy. This was done on Wednesday and I'm now awaiting results.

The surgeon sound one of the nodes was matted with a other one and apparently this is a sign of malignancy.

So it's looking like lymphoma.

To say that I'm scared is an understatement. I have been a nervous wreck since I came out of hospital and I'm getting about 3 hours of sleep a night.
 
I reckon some sort of memory issue for me

If you have no control I'm not quite good at just accepting things
Cancer.. Apart from getting check ups etc.. Is quite like this. Once you got it.. It's out of your hands
 
Idk, Mum's Mum died of Lupus when she was very young and my Dad is a coeliac, granted Lupus doesn't pass down and is mainly a problem found in women the coeliacs is a worry. Although in all my life I've only ever been properly sick once when I had the flu when I was about 10, it lasted 3-5 days I think. Only other times I've been ill are when I have drunk too much, which is very rarely was just a phase I'm sure everyone went through when they just turned 18.

End of the day we're all gonna die and it does not matter what you do in life because ultimately everything's going to explode and die out. Doesn't matter how famous you are how much your children love you etc. your name will erode away in time and you will be forgotten. Life is kind of pointless but we all love living so just do what you gotta do, enjoy what you do and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
 
G-MAN2004 said:
I'd lock it away in the back of my mind and get on with my days. I also wouldn't tell anyone I have it - not even my parents.
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Personally think it's quite selfish to keep it to yourself.

The people around you need time to prepare themselves and come to terms with it. The advantage of knowing your mortality is that you can help prepare for it.

If everything was the equivalent of going under a bus I'm not sure how people could cope!
 
I for one plan not to get cancer !

If it happens though, I don't think any amount of "planning" would help. The variables are far too complex to comprehend, it also would depend on my circumstances at the time. Now I don't have children, but if later in life I do have children. My reaction now without children compared to with children will be vastly different. You can’t plan for these sorts of things in my opinion. Personally I’d rather not think about getting cancer either.

I’ve lost two friends to cancer (RIP) and that was hard enough.
 
When?

Considering how low the chance is I haven't really planned for it XD

You have to remember the big "1 in 3" thrown about by cancer charities is a statistic and can be manipulated, what it means is that one in three people will get cancer (fatal or non fatal) provided they don't die of anything else first! Cancer isn't in the top three causes of death for any male age range:

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It's also that 1 in 3 will be affected by cancer. Not that they, specifically, will get cancer, but could be affected by a loved one getting cancer.
 
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