When your child wants to move home.....

I have a step-daughter who lives half her time at our house and half at her dads on a week on week off basis, this works out for us all very well. Last year she decided she wanted to live at our house all the time, so we arranged for this to happen. After a month she started missing her dad (although there were no restraints as to when she could see him and he regularly took her out for the afternoon or for tea after school) and decided she wanted back to the way it was. Then she decided she wanted to live at her dads all the time which we arranged and once again this lasted about a month till she wanted it back the way it was.

The moral of the story is kids don't always know what they want, they always see the grass as being greener, it's a big upheaval swapping their lives about and for the OP this may involve moving schools.

At 13 though and a female she probably has a good idea of what she wants, and I would be more than happy to find a way to make this work.
 
I am just happy for you :) You should be racking your brain like crazy trying to get this to happen. If you say she's mature any chance she could live by her self in your house?
Huge responsibility jump and sense of freedom there for any teenager. The other obvious choice is (i take it you live alone) either grandparents move in or you acquire a family friend who can pay rent (or not) and live in the house with her when you're off on your job.
In my honest opinion if I was as responsible as your child at that age I would love living alone and having dad visit me for a change.
 
Although not a parent myself with her being 13 in a few years she's going to be doing GCSE's etc

So you have to ask the question will you be around enough to help/support her ?
 
I was in a similar situation as your daughter is. Parents split and was given no choice who i lived with, think is was around 10-11 though. On my 14th birthday I chose to move in with my dad, he did shift work so at times i wouldn't really see him for 3-4 days and had to look after myself. Its a lot of responsibility to have that young and it could be hard at times but i still think i made the right decision. I was a lot happier when i moved and i definitely think it befitted me.

As for the moving across to the other side of the city, i moved from london to northern ireland so i could live with my dad. Made friends again easily enough and ended up in a better school.
 
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