Why are YOU single?

I'm initially shy and awkward, then I break down a wall in my head and it's the opposite and don't shut up. I get hung up on particular girls then don't pay attention to any others, which just ends in fail.
 
Why not let it wash over you (the No Swearing! taking that is)
I get it all the time, my hair is cause of concern again at the moment as I'm growing it again.
Last time the boss took great pleasure in saying to the customers "excuse my colleagues hair style" wont you, don't want to scare anyone off"

Just laugh with them, they give up eventually ;)
 
Kell_ee001 said:
I don't think I'm high maintenance but I'm open with how I feel (I'm not a "it's fine!" girl, I'm a "you promised you'd be here an hour ago and so I'm ****ed off" kinda girl :p ) so I don't know why :(
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Dont see a problem aslong as you dont nag at stuff like leaving cups on the table without at coaster. Id rather a girl be like that than be a pushover.
 
It grates me when people say, just go out. Yeah, maybe that happens to you, but it doesnt happen to me, and besides, who wants to look the sad loaner in the corner on his own because all their other mates are shacked up in bed giving it to their mrs?

Wow, Im angry today. Must have been that crap ref at Loftus Road earlier. wow, he was pap.
 
I'm strangely comforted by the amount of people like myself (not enjoying getting drunk, going out to clubs, low self esteem) on here lol

And yes I have been to clubs after much hassle from the few friends i do have, and I hated every second of it!
 
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.:MBK:. said:
cos im lazy, have no self confidence, generally don't care about the way i appear, and am about as interesting as a spec of dust
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This quote will do tbh, though there were many throughout the thread that equally accurately described myself. Also do not enjoy going to clubs, I probably pay more attention to the soundsystem if I am in one than anything else (and it's usually shocking :p). A cross between James May, Mark from Peep show and Sheldon from Big bang theory might sum things up? I don't think I'd want one anyway honestly.
 
Too independent and set in my ways to be in a relationship atm, I've always enjoyed my own company and prefer doing my own thing, when I want, and how I want, I don't like to compromise, I do enough of that in work as it is, I don't want to come home to more if it, My past relationships were never really successful becuase I would feel almost claustrophobic in them, I don't want an entity of unpredictable emotions in my life relying on me to make compromises, spend time with them etc to keep them in check, why ?, becuase my life would be so fulfilling with that person if I did, no, I've never been in a relationship where I've really felt that way.

I've never really needed anyone tbh, when I was younger the main reason I chose to seek out companionship was becuase it was the 'normal' thing to do I suppose, I did it to fit in, but while in those relationships I was never really happy, not truly.

From quite a young age I was practising and studying astral projection and meditation, I think I was about 12, anyway, a few times I had some very amazing surreal experiences that filled me a feeling that I could never really express fully in words, I think those experiences and feelings though tarnished the feelings I got in relationships, they never lived up to the feelings and emotions that I had already experienced on my own, it was strange, at such a young age I felt I didn't need anyone to be happy, I knew could I just be happy within myself, I knew no matter how hard I tried no woman could give me true contentment, well, I don't believe so, but I guess you never know for sure how you feel about someone before you've ever met them, I could bump into someone in the street tomorrow and fall in love.


*With regards to the astral projection and meditation to this day I am not sure whether my experiences where spiritual/biological etc, I just observed, it could've been either, even as a child I was always open to accepting that everything I was experiencing could be my mind playing tricks, and even if it was, I would find that equally amazing.
 
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I really don;t know, probably jsut havn't met the right woman yet. WAs chattin to a rahter nice lady earlier, but that's as far as it went!

Don't ask you don't get i suppose.


Damn igotta be up in less than 5hrs and i'm ****** as No Swearing! :D
 
As much as a lot of people would just laugh this question off, I'd personally love to know why I was single :o I don't actively go looking for a boyfriend and I really hadn't given it that much though before the thread - but now I'm intrigued! :p
 
I'm a reformed fatty and because I worked my arse off to get where I am now, which is to say, nice and athletic, I think I owe it to myself to spend the rest of my life with a bit more than the manky mutton that is common place. It really is disheartening in that as I went from fat to fit everyone else appears to be going from fit to fat. I suppose being a reformed fat arse is a bit like being a reformed smoker. I reckon one word sums it up: zealots. I take my fitness and health pretty seriously now. Cherie Lunghi is my dream woman. I hope by the time I'm 50 I'm with a woman like that. I think good looking women are quite common place but I can count on 1 hand the number of girls who really made my heart pound and really took my breath away with a combo of looks and personality. Also, I find 99% of girls I like at a glance to be incredibly shy. It found it quite cute and endearing to begin with when they turn away when you make eye contact with them and then catch them looking at you as you walk away but eventually you start to think, jesus, do they really have no confidence at all? It quite sad, these hot girls, with zero confidence, and no way am I prepared to continue baby sitting and hand hold these girls in the opening stages of 'getting to know you' or more apt I think 'TRYING to get to know you but you make it so f'ing hard cos you're shy'. Its a painful experience. I'm even prepared to give fatties a go so long as they are making genuine efforts to improve their health. Nothing would bring a smile to my face more and really inspire me than to see a potentially stunning woman say, yeah, I'm going to the Gym, I'm getting my life in order, I'm really finding a thirst and passion for life once again that I thought I had lost and I really look forward to being a more energetic and exciting person in the future. Wow, that would really take my breath away and attract me. Do they exist? Do they heck I bloody well haven't come across any lately !!
 
I am single because the last gf I had made me lose all trust in anything female.

I *have* met someone new though who might change this. The only problem is that if things get serious, I will have to introduce her to my (partly xenophobic) family. :(
 
Kell_ee001 said:
As much as a lot of people would just laugh this question off, I'd personally love to know why I was single :o I don't actively go looking for a boyfriend and I really hadn't given it that much though before the thread - but now I'm intrigued! :p
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Perhaps you've answered your own question.

Have a good chat with your close friends, they should be able give you some reasons, friends are normally good at seeing personality traits in us that we don't always recognise ourselves, The main thing is whether it really bothers you being single, if not then I really wouldn't worry about it.

But if your still wondering, and I'm going to have a pre-emptive guess here that you'll say that your not really that concerned why your single but still intrigued, then I'd probably guess it's just becuase you haven't found anyone that's taken your fancy or interested you lately, you said in your post 'that you don't actively go looking for a boyfriend' so that could well be a factor, also it could just be that your quite content being single atm, perhaps you just don't have the 'need' to be with someone right now, it could be any number of reasons, that's why I think it's best to ask someone that knows you personally best.

But what I will say is that if there is a part of you that would like to be in a relationship then don't leave it too long, becuase sometimes you can get too used to your independence and you may find it harder to make compromises in a future relationship/s, or you may be put off entering into a relationship for fear of losing your independence but at the same time feel lonely, just speculating mind.
 
I even remember turning one woman down at college who wanted it all so it's not the approach thing, it's weird I just totally can't be bothered with them full stop unless it's on a friendly basis. A relationship always seems like it has to be too much effort but then again I am only 19 and I don't need to settle down for a long time in my own mind and I'm living for myself at the moment. :)

EDIT : Good thread btw, I always wondered why now I've actually put some thought into it :p
 
I'm single due to the fact I split up with my wife a while back and became a single parent to my eldest. My daughter was twelve when we seperated so I couldn't just go out an leave her on her own. She's seventeen now but I still wouldn't go out and leave her at home.

I did a few years of shift work and worked odd hours that pretty well killed my social life. Whenever I've been out it's been to work do's or concerts and holidays where I've taken my kids (I have two others).

I have had the odd relationship but only with girls a lot younger than me and I just can't seem to commit to them. I can't say I'm not happy being single but I would probably prefer not to be.
 
lowrider007 said:
Perhaps you've answered your own question.
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Very possibly, which is why I thought I'd make sure I got it in there first :p

lowrider007 said:
Have a good chat with your close friends, they should be able give you some reasons, friends are normally good at seeing personality traits in us that we don't always recognise ourselves, The main thing is whether it really bothers you being single, if not then I really wouldn't worry about it.

But if your still wondering, and I'm going to have a pre-emptive guess here that you'll say that your not really that concerned why your single but still intrigued, then I'd probably guess it's just becuase you haven't found anyone that's taken your fancy or interested you lately, you said in your post 'that you don't actively go looking for a boyfriend' so that could well be a factor, also it could just be that your quite content being single atm, perhaps you just don't have the 'need' to be with someone right now, it could be any number of reasons, that's why I think it's best to ask someone that knows you personally best.
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They're mainly male and suck at this kind of thing! But it might be something to look into anyway. And I've met a few guys that I quite like but haven't pursued for one reason or another...

lowrider007 said:
But what I will say is that if there is a part of you that would like to be in a relationship then don't leave it too long, becuase sometimes you can get too used to your independence and you may find it harder to make compromises in a future relationship/s, or you may be put off entering into a relationship for fear of losing your independence but at the same time feel lonely, just speculating mind.
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... and maybe this is part of it. I do sometimes wonder how I fit in everything now without adding someone else to the equation. :p

Good post and I appreciate the thought you put into it :)
 
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