Why do I Screw Myself Over?

D.P. · 3 Dec 2007 at 20:45

Yes, this is another boring, meaningless, rambling post from a resident depressed geek.
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Why do I screw myself over with girls?
I always get a crush for the girls I can't get. Either too far away, not single, destined to move away, etc.

Done it again this weekend. A girl I have met a couple of times skiing. Really is perfect for me, except she lives in Montana (switerzerland), i live in Lausanne- 2 hours away, in a few weeks she goes home to Bavaria, Germany. She moves back to switerland in April, but like 5-6 hours away.
Utterly impossible considering I haven't kissed or dated her.

Why is it that it is impossible to find the right kind of girl where I live and who isn't already taken?

In the summer I met a very interesting and pretty girl form Lebanon who lives in Grenoble, 6 hours away. At easter I met and amazing girl in Krakov, Poland. My last girlfriend was from California, things were great but the distance killed things.

Rarely do I find a girl I like near at hand, when I do they are all in a relationship. This seems to get worse as I get older. Heck, half my friends are either married, engaged, or have childen.

Dunks · 3 Dec 2007 at 20:54

Can't say i'm quite sure.

ChoÞÞer · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:02

DunK1 said:
Can't say i'm quite sure.

same, if you cant find a lass.... turn gay?

KNiVES · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:04

I think you have two choices:

1. Turn homosexual
2. Get plastic surgery

Now naturally you can keep trying of course - relationships aren't just something you can go outside and simply start, they need effort. See all those couples? They were in your situation once.

_PD_ · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:05

You'll get over her. And the others.

Keep looking, your time will come.

gumbald · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:06

Get a caravan, move places.

Cupra · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:06

stop looking then she will come

Tom0 · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:08

Love yourself first.

KNiVES · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:08

Cupra said:
stop looking then she will come

What's your secret? I have to do a lot more than just look to make her come.

Cupra · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:09

KNiVES said:
What's your secret? I have to do a lot more than just look to make her come.

GreenMint · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:09

Maybe he's so ugly that him looking away makes her....nevermind.

To the OP don't drag yourself down so much, head out to local places meet local girls, was your last girlfriend over there with you? you with her? or online only?

There's always going Emo...

twistedheat · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:10

Learn some game. As long as you aren't super ugly facially, staying fairly lean/athletic built and having confidence (and not saying anything stupid) means you can pretty much get laid/into a relationship when and where you want.

As for finding the 'right' girl amongst those...well, that is a different task unto itself.

yhack · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:11

Go into a bar, get really alpha and beat the crap out of all the other guys. Suddenly... hundreds of girls.
I haven't tried this yet though.

Vita · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:11

Look in the mirror and say to yourself.

I'm A Stud Muffin.

Then go out on the pull.

Win.

GreenMint · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:11

Main thing you need to do, really:

Stop trying so hard.

peetee · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:27

stop tryin, get some confidence, give girls more of a chance, if you dont think you have a chance try anyway, just for the sake of it.

4p · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:29

Cobra said:
You'll get over her. And the others.

Keep looking, your time will come.

z0mbi3 · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:30

D.P. said:
Why do I screw myself over with girls?

Sounds like some one needs a trip up the oxo tower

Tom0 said:
Love yourself first.

fap fap fap

Seriously though just keep looking and don't get too attached to the ones that you know aren't going to work.

yer_averagejoe · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:49

DunK1 said:
Can't say i'm quite sure.

We live in Dundee. Ugliest girls in britain. Fact.

el_dazza · 3 Dec 2007 at 21:50

D.P. said:
Why do I screw myself over with girls?
I always get a crush for the girls I can't get. Either too far away, not single, destined to move away, etc.

I'm currently having the same problem, was on about it to a mate on saturday night. I always seem to do this, but I have no idea why, and tbh, someone said love yourself first.. it's so true, but for some people it's actually quite hard to do, like myself.