Why do I Screw Myself Over?

el_dazza said:
I'm currently having the same problem, was on about it to a mate on saturday night. I always seem to do this, but I have no idea why, and tbh, someone said love yourself first.. it's so true, but for some people it's actually quite hard to do, like myself. :(
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I like you :)
 
D.P. said:
Yes, this is another boring, meaningless, rambling post from a resident depressed geek.
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Why do I screw myself over with girls?
I always get a crush for the girls I can't get. Either too far away, not single, destined to move away, etc.

Done it again this weekend. A girl I have met a couple of times skiing. Really is perfect for me, except she lives in Montana (switerzerland), i live in Lausanne- 2 hours away, in a few weeks she goes home to Bavaria, Germany. She moves back to switerland in April, but like 5-6 hours away.
Utterly impossible considering I haven't kissed or dated her.

Why is it that it is impossible to find the right kind of girl where I live and who isn't already taken?

In the summer I met a very interesting and pretty girl form Lebanon who lives in Grenoble, 6 hours away. At easter I met and amazing girl in Krakov, Poland. My last girlfriend was from California, things were great but the distance killed things.


Rarely do I find a girl I like near at hand, when I do they are all in a relationship. This seems to get worse as I get older. Heck, half my friends are either married, engaged, or have childen.
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1) You don't have to be like your friends, I'm sure they like you whether you have similar lives or not

2) Do you think you are going after women that you deliberately cant have? This might be what's happening, or maybe not... there is no rule to say you have to be attracted to women within a certain radius...
 
maybe you have more confidence with girls from far away cause you know you'll never see them again so you don't worry as much what they think, so you are a lot more forward and talk to them more etc. etc.
 
Get out from your cubby hole room and go pull on the dance floor. sorted..
 
andr3w1984 said:
Get out from your cubby hole room and go pull on the dance floor. sorted..
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I've tried this and after about 5 minutes realised what a berk I probably looked and went to get a drink, and sat down chatting to my mates. That's my idea of a night out, I never go out to get with someone, I go out to enjoy myself. :)
 
KNiVES said:
I think you have two choices:

1. Turn homosexual
2. Get plastic surgery

Now naturally you can keep trying of course - relationships aren't just something you can go outside and simply start, they need effort. See all those couples? They were in your situation once.
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Yes, I try to put the effort in, but you need somewhere to start from.
 
Cobra said:
You'll get over her. And the others.

Keep looking, your time will come.
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I know I will get over her, but this just keeps happening. And I Kind of feel that I shouldn't just accept the fact that things will never happen and fight it more. But this is stupid for a girl I barely know.
 
For a start, stop trying to meet girls on the internet were they probably are, more than likely, going to be MILES away! Just go out man and enjoy yourself!
 
TimBrad said:
Maybe he's so ugly that him looking away makes her....nevermind.

To the OP don't drag yourself down so much, head out to local places meet local girls, was your last girlfriend over there with you? you with her? or online only?

There's always going Emo... :(
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I tr and go out to as many local clubs and bars as possible and every social event. In fact, I have to be careful to balance my time better.

I guess a big problem I have is my French is very feeble, well especially my listening skills in a noisy club.

I met my last GF in CA when I lived there.
 
cleanbluesky said:
1) You don't have to be like your friends, I'm sure they like you whether you have similar lives or not

2) Do you think you are going after women that you deliberately cant have? This might be what's happening, or maybe not... there is no rule to say you have to be attracted to women within a certain radius...
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1). I don't necessarily want to be like my friends. I'm just afraid of a dark and lonely future. It took me a long time to find my first girlfriend and to fall in love. Indeed, I didn't think love really existed until I fell in love with my ex. That hurt real bad, and I swore that I never wanted to love again. I'm over that now and seem to be stuck in some longing desperation to replenish the amazing power of love that I have lost. Even then, the last couple of months I haven't bothered searching so deep but seem to have met more girls.


2) I don't think so. I think the problem is that i have particular tastes and fairly high standards for the personality of the girl. I have 2 numbers of girls on my phone that I could probably arrange a date with anytime... but I don't really feel like it because I don't feel anything special.
 
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