Why does me wanting some quiet make me a pariah?

Buy him some wireless headphones

the image of you being a cool stepdad buying him some new headphones hiding the fact you just want him to STFU!

Win all round!
 
Try and have a conversation with him so he has to turn it down to participate? You can be his friend aswell as his parent.
 
DB_SamX said:
Not to mention that as he should respect you as an elder.
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Que? Why should you get respect automatically for being older? I would never deliberately be rude to someone older than me on the first meeting but some people demonstrate the intelligence of a table leg (whatever age they are) and I will usually treat them as such - with the notable exception that a table leg is at least useful.

There is no logical reason why being older should grant you automatic respect, respect is earned through behaviour/conduct or it should be.

LordSplodge said:
3. Despite this being an Autocracy I am always in the wrong.
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At the risk of being given a "duh". Well of course you are, you don't really think that autocracies are normally run by people who are loved universally? I'd be more worried if you weren't in the wrong, it would suggest that you are no longer in control.
 
Tom0 said:
Try and have a conversation with him so he has to turn it down to participate? You can be his friend aswell as his parent.
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I'm very friendly with my parents and always have been, but at 14 my Dad wouldn't have had reservations throwing my hi-fi out if I were being ignorant and selfish with it. He would have explained exactly why it's ignorant and selfish first, and told me not to do it again, but if I ignored him I would have had to wave goodbye to my hi-fi. I think that is/was the best way to deal with that kind of thing.

Loud music is something that can really ruin a household IMHO. Even in the nicest house, if there's constant loud music (especially bad loud music), it's about as pleasant as being in a drug den...

*possibly an exaggeration, depending on what you call a 'drug den'... :-P
 
semi-pro waster said:
At the risk of being given a "duh". Well of course you are, you don't really think that autocracies are normally run by people who are loved universally? I'd be more worried if you weren't in the wrong, it would suggest that you are no longer in control.
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I'll take the risk of always being in the "wrong" as I'll be cold and long dead before this house becomes a Democracy! :p Although it does often get run in a Matriarchal fashion when Her-Indoors decides to wear the trousers. Till I knock her out that is! ;) :D

With regards to the automatic respect of elders. I was taught this when I was younger and I agree with it. However, like you said when meeting somebody for the first time respect should be given no matter what the age. It should be earned after that though.
 
Blooooody hell that OP sounds so familiar!!!

Kind of different circumstanes as im living at home at the moment (placement year at uni, one more year left).

I start work in a very busy IT enviroment at 7am, and get very little time to myself all day. I should finish at four but rarely get home before half 5 resulting in nearly an 11 hour day.

I walk in the house and all I can hear is crappy club dance music, every day for the past few monthes. It's soo annoying. Working all day you just want a few hours to wind down. It's not even the music it's the bass!!! Thud thud thud. It's crap,... it's not needed... there's no justification in playing it at 6pm in the evening. I don't even know why he needs bass when his system is crap.

Riles me so much. Mum does ask him to turn it down but he doesn't listen. I've had to refrain myself numerous times, i've had him up against the wall quite a few times and only stop myself because it'd cause some serious arguements.

I don't see the need at all, i've told him to get a decent set of surround sound headsets as afterall its him who wants to listen to the music, no one else.

Ahhhh well, another year and I get my own place.
 
Gilly said:
Theory confirmed ;)



Of course there is. There's no justification for 6am. 6pm is quite reasonable.
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No there isn't. 6pm is the prime time for people coming home from work and wanting to relax.

I don't care if playing dance/trance relaxes him, there's 5 people in my house and there's no reason for him to be playing it. I could perhaps let it go at 8pm - 10pm ish as i've had a few hours to unwind.
 
Gilly said:
Theory confirmed ;)



Of course there is. There's no justification for 6am. 6pm is quite reasonable.
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There's never a good time to be playing loud music in the house where even one person is annoyed by it, throw his speakers out the window:mad:
 
Gilly said:
Of course there is. There's no justification for 6am. 6pm is quite reasonable.
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It's never reasonable to play loud music if there are other people in the house who don't want to hear it, regardless of what time it is...

edit; :eek: beaten to it! twice!
 
manoz said:
There's never a good time to be playing loud music in the house where even one person is annoyed by it
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Thats not what he said though. He said there's no justification for music at 6pm, when of course there is. It isn't early and it isn't late.
 
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