why me?

helpimcrap

helpimcrap

helpimcrap

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the above question has yet to be answered.. i should have died in my accident but i didn't. i should have but i didnt. only thing i can be thankful for is that my dad(deceased in 2003) has kept me here for a reason,but i still keep asking myself - why me????? theres no rhyme or reason, in a way it would make it easier. i sit here and why, why am i buggered!!!!! and in a way it angers me to the point til i get angry at myself. i swear to god im going nuts!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
If someone / something has helped you for a reason then make damn sure that you don't waste the chance :)

Use every moment that you get to make the most of life and appreciate why you have been left here :) Ultimately, perhaps think of a way to re-pay those people who helped you through the tough times e.g. Fund raising for the hospitals etc.

Time is the ultimate healer and although you are suffering memory loss, be thankful that you are mentally undamaged and will eventually be able to make the most of your life.

Good luck dude!
 
Minxy said:
Something or someone was obviously on your side that day.
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my dad :) thats what i like to think.

ci_newman said:
If someone / something has helped you for a reason then make damn sure that you don't waste the chance :)

Use every moment that you get to make the most of life and appreciate why you have been left here :) Ultimately, perhaps think of a way to re-pay those people who helped you through the tough times e.g. Fund raising for the hospitals etc.

Time is the ultimate healer and although you are suffering memory loss, be thankful that you are mentally undamaged and will eventually be able to make the most of your life.

Good luck dude!
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i thought id reply to all those who have answered, sorry for whinging and thank you. how frustrated i am it is not funny at all!!!!!

to answer the above there was a trackday in my honour and we raised £2000+ for air ambulance! everyone who turned up was a star!
 
Most of my cases (95%) are road traffic accidents and i can tell you that there is no why, although you suffered serious injuries but if you can walk and you still have a sound mind, i can tell you that you are very very lucky. I have seen many many cases where the guy on the motorbike just did not survive, many died at the scene.

There is no why, it just is.
 
Raymond Lin said:
Most of my cases (95%) are road traffic accidents and i can tell you that there is no why, although you suffered serious injuries but if you can walk and you still have a sound mind, i can tell you that you are very very lucky. I have seen many many cases where the guy on the motorbike just did not survive, many died at the scene.

There is no why, it just is.
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in some ways theyre the lucky ones though as its over and thats it. with life i have all the memory issues and also have to reaffirm my views and for what????????????????

in many causes i often wonder why. i know i should be grateful but all i feel is frustration!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
helpimcrap said:
in some ways theyre the lucky ones though as its over and thats it. with life i have all the memory issues and also have to reaffirm my views and for what????????????????

in many causes i often wonder why. i know i should be grateful but all i feel is frustration!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Speaking from an insurance company's POV, it would be cheaper if the claimant had died. Sad but true.

I suppose you can call it a second chance, get your insurance money (it'll be a few years!) and then start a new life with it. You can now experience lot of firsts again, there are lots of down sides but there are some up sides too, like discovering the West Wing ! :D
 
Either lay off some of the pills, or some of the booze. ;) :p

Seriously though, try not to think of the why etc. but think of what you are now free to achieve because you've got a second chance. :)
 
Can't imagine what you're going through but i guess you may never know. But what i wouldn't do is try and think too hard about it, because there won't be an answer for you and it'll just drive you nuts. Just get well for now, then do something great like curing cancer :)
 
First of all: Your dad isnt keeping you here. Harsh as that sounds, its true.
Now, you survived because your body was able to take the impact of the accident, good job your body.

My accident left me nothing like yours (in a german brick rather than on a bike), but the thoughts going through my mind for a few months after were terrible. I did my best to not think about it as much as possible. tried to not have any time where my mind was free to wonder, read loads of books in that time!

You werent meant to die that day, for whatever reason, now do your best with what you have, you can still make a decent life :]
 
Morba said:
First of all: Your dad isnt keeping you here. Harsh as that sounds, its true.
Now, you survived because your body was able to take the impact of the accident, good job your body.

My accident left me nothing like yours (in a german brick rather than on a bike), but the thoughts going through my mind for a few months after were terrible. I did my best to not think about it as much as possible. tried to not have any time where my mind was free to wonder, read loads of books in that time!

You werent meant to die that day, for whatever reason, now do your best with what you have, you can still make a decent life :]
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Great advice

Chin up chap your a soldier :)
 
This is a question I think I can help answer to some degree .

It was you cause it was ment to be , You cant change the fact it happened and if you keep asking yourself " why me? " it will eat you up inside and put you in a place you dont want to be .

For the first 6 months with Bethany I was always asking why ?? But I look at it now as it can be fixed . I look at the people that there children have been taken away from them without any warning and I am thankful which will be what your mum will be thinking aswell .
 
no point thinking like that mate, just be glad that you pulled through :)

good to have you back, hope you're on the road to recovery now
 
I'm a great believer in the idea of Destiny / Fate

I lost my mum to cancer this year. She was diagnosed with a grade 4 brain tumour and given a year to live ... she lasted about 14 months.

She was diagnosed with the brain tumour the same week that i lost my mother in law to a massive heart attack. I have a boy of 5 now who will never really have a grandma. He does remember both of them though if you show him photos, but he will miss out on so much.

It would anger me severely that we both lost our mothers young. But i keep myself going with the following thoughts : There are always people worse off than you. When she was in the cancer ward at leeds general, there was a woman across the ward from her in her early thirties. She left behind 2 kids, one aged about 7 and the other about 9. We lost our mums, but were both in our 20s had a family of our own now. It could have been so much worse.

Equally, i think that some things are meant to be. Quite clearly this just wasnt your time, in exactly the same way as unfortunately it was my mums time at the age of 56.

We've had to deal with death a fair bit in our family, if you fancy a chat drop by on MSM sometime. Its my forumname @hotmail.co.uk
 
When your times up, its up.

Thankfully for you, you have not been called back to the Boathouse of life just yet. :)
 
I get where you're coming from, it's natural to wonder following a life altering event what the hell happened and how, it's all part of the human need to understand what went wrong so we can learn. What you probably can't get your head around yet (as it's an utter head ****) is how and why you're hear now, you're looking for a reason and the honest truth is you'll probably never find one. I can't telly you how to live your life and I can't tell you how valuable that life is, no-one can. What I say is once you begin to accept that in the overall scheme of things knowing the answer to the question isn't that important it's a hell of a lot easier to move on with your life. It may not make much sense now but in time it will.
 
Morba said:
First of all: Your dad isnt keeping you here. Harsh as that sounds, its true.
Now, you survived because your body was able to take the impact of the accident, good job your body.

You werent meant to die that day, for whatever reason, now do your best with what you have, you can still make a decent life :]
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