Working at the same place as your partner..

J86 · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:05

There's a job going at my girlfriend's place (in a smallish office - we'd be working together). She said I should give in my CV.

Do you think this would lead to arguments?

Good or bad idea?

LOAM · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:06

Cupboard sex

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El_Watcher · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:07

Would you be working together, under her, over her, or in a completely different department?

J86 · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:08

El_Watcher said:
Would you be working together, under her, over her, or in a completely different department?

Sorry my explanation wasn't very good. Edited. We'd be working in a smallish office together.

Cosimo · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:09

In the same building ok, on the same floor not ok. There would be blood.

Nix · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:10

Personally I'd avoid unless I was absolutely desperate.

Vonhelmet · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:12

I worked in a place a while back with a husband and wife. It was hideous.

Dave · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:13

I'd avoid. Thankfully no problem for me as I do computational science, and my partner's background is management/marketing!

Sho · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:14

Same building il be alright with that. Same floor/Department? No thank you.

CreAtiv3 · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:16

Didn't work out for me and my ex a while back but we were in a smallish office in the same department.

However two friends of mine got together, same office but different department, and they are now engaged after two years.

I say go for it just promise not to talk about work when your not at work.

J86 · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:18

Lol the comments are making me have second thoughts. We get on really well and never really argue. Just a bit worried working in a smallish office together would cause arguments..

sbi5ar · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:19

I work in the same university as my girlfried... Same department, same building, same floor... and our offices are right next door to each other...

It works for us and I really enjoy it

Its nice to see her for brief encounters during the day and then go home together.

The only thing I would say (and this depends on the nature of your work) is that it might be difficult for you to take time off together if they need X number of people manning the stations. As for us that doesn't matter so it's all good

Edit... We started in a large open plan office with 24 people and it was fine... Works even better now that we are in smaller offices

Greebo · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:21

Nix said:
Personally I'd avoid unless I was absolutely desperate.

This. I have never seen it work. Ever.

She will be your ex gf before you know it.

kEn_sct · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:21

depends on how stressful the job is imo. if its a layed back job you will be fine.

Greebo · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:23

Fisha said:
Lol the comments are making me have second thoughts. We get on really well and never really argue. Just a bit worried working in a smallish office together would cause arguments..

Not only that but if your in the same office together all day and talking you will have very little to talk about when you are home.

That's only the start of your problems. If one of you gets favourtism over the other then the arguments start.

There is good reason some companies expressly forbid it in their rulebooks.

J-FRO · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:33

Greebo said:
This. I have never seen it work. Ever.

She will be your ex gf before you know it.

And then you'll either have to quit, or be stubborn and stay riding it out hoping to become her senior in the company.

simisker · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:38

It can work.

I had a girlfriend that I lived with, commuted 60 miles daily and worked under.

Didn't cause a single issue

Though yes - if the relationship turned sour, that'd obviously be awkward or even untenable.

Morgoth · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:39

My Brother and his wife worked together, they didn't have any problem with it. Other people did though.

Nexus · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:51

I'd avoid if you can.

Depending on the line of work and the other people you work with, there could be some resentment there. The other issue is that it means your lives become even more entwined, that may be fine for some, but if you come home and all you do is talk about work and everyone else you work with, it will become a bit rubbish. At least if you both have different jobs elsewhere, you have something different to talk about.

I dated a girl I used to work with for over a year and we kept it secret from our colleagues. We did just end up talking about work all the time and gossiping, I knew eventually I felt so much like it would be nice to hear about somebody else's life instead. I was gone before it happened, but if you break up, that's going to be a world of trouble.

MuttsNutts · 30 Jun 2011 at 10:54

Fisha said:
There's a job going at my girlfriend's place (in a smallish office - we'd be working together). She said I should give in my CV.

Do you think this would lead to arguments?

Good or bad idea?

She has Trust Issues and wants to keep her eye on you...LOL

I can see the plus side though.

Way up the Pro's & Cons:

Pro's
Office Sex - Tick
Get to know her better - Tick
Office Sex - Tick
See what she gets upto (if you have trust issues) - Tick
Office Sex - Tick

Con's
She keeps and eye on you an gives you evils when you perv on the other office totty - Family Fortunes "uh-oh" ( X )
She has probably told some of her office friends dirty secrets about you and her & you have to wonder why some of them snigger at you when they look at you LOL - Family Fortunes "uh-oh" ( X )
you could fid out she's banging the boss - Family Fortunes "uh-oh" ( X )
She maybe earning more than you - Family Fortunes "uh-oh" ( X )