Working closely with a colleague you don't get on with

Pretty much as has been said. There's much worse people you can work with and there's much worse situations to be in.

Just focus on work and don't focus on it too much is what I'd say. It's natural to have people you don't get on with, just keep plodding on through it.
 
FortuitousFluke said:
Could it be that, on a subconscious level, you're actually infatuated with her? If so you need to start the charm offensive, my suggestions:

1. Start sending her anonymous love letters detailing the fact that one day you will be together and that you will be working towards this goal. Consider catchy phrases such as "I'm going to get you" or "I'm coming for you".

2. Try to spend more time with her outside of work, perhaps walk her home of an evening, but obviously you don't want to come on too strong at this stage so escort her from a safe distance, and protect your identity by wearing a rain mac and hat, and ducking into alleys every time she looks behind her.

This should be a good start.
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This seems like the best advice to me.
 
Next time you're on a training course go out for plenty of drinks one night. You will either both wake up much closer and have a few stories to tell or you end up exactly where you are now.

There have been people I have worked with in the past that I've barely spoken to for no particular reason. A good night out solved this.
 
Its always annoying to not get on with a colleague, but in life you'll find people you get on with and people who rub you up the wrong way.

I've worked closely with a girl the past year who is similar to what you've described, she's very sarcy and a one word answer type which comes across as rude, I've been really patient not to get annoyed and even spoken to my boss explaining how difficult working with her has been, but the last month or so she's been a bit friendlier and chattier, even cancelled some holiday so I could have it.

I'm starting to think she was just very shy. Or most likely has fallen in love with me :p

Maybe this is the case with yours, op. Give her a chance.
 
Fortunately not encountered too many people in my working life I don't get on with atleast normal colleagues - had a few bosses that I detested but generally didn't have to work with them on a day to day basis.

One woman would wind me up though - after 10 years in the job she still didn't know how to do many things that were central to the role and was unwilling to learn either from instruction or (also in general) from her own mistakes which used to drive me up the wall and seemed to have no idea when she was getting in other people's way and/or would make more work for people almost incidentally just by being there, etc. all I could really do was be civil and keep my cool but it was incredibly frustrating.
 
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