workplace infidelity and the strictly curse

[HangTime]

Yeah on one hand I think they should simply be judged on their dancing, on the other hand there is an added complication in their case in that Katya's husband also works on the show.

I suspect that in a regular workplace HR might not be too happy if there was an aggrieved party on the payroll too.

This is the issue - the husband has to sit there and watch them being intimate, spending hours in each other's company etc, following them having been spotted kissing and him getting dumped over it.
Jealously must be bad enough even without evidence, in that situation surely he's got to put his foot down and say either you stop dancing with that ***** or we're splitting up? I get that pro dancers are probably used to them having physical contact with others but getting clocked outside of work is a game-changer.

As for the broader topic, I suspect it happens in most workplaces which is hardly surprising really given that people spend more time at work than they do with their partners, and the fact that we are naturally disposed to procreate - monogamy is inefficient at growing the population.

 

[Malevolence]

One of my colleagues got caught finger-blasting someone up by the 3rd floor lockers, he was married, she was a newbie.

He got dragged in to appear before HR and denied anything happened.

His wife kicked him out and he's now, unsurprisingly, shacked up with this girl...

I give it 6 months before she's getting ploughed by the rest of her shift.

Was she also dragged in front of HR, or was she given a pass 'cause she's a woman?

 

[fatiain]

Was she also dragged in front of HR, or was she given a pass 'cause she's a woman?

I don't think they even spoke to her...

 

[413x]

I'm glad I don't watch this stuff lol.
Didn't realise what the thread title meant. Didn't know it was related to a TV show.

I'm proud of my ignorance!

Yeah I know of relationships that have ended because of something developing in work. But thought it was fairly common?

 

[fatiain]

Was she also dragged in front of HR, or was she given a pass 'cause she's a woman?

I don't think they even spoke to her...

Actually it's a bit more complicated than that. She (and I) are external-contracted staff, he's employed by the force company.

 

[dowie]

We had a girl on a temp contract who sat on the lap of a long time employee (happily married) at the Christmas party and was flirting rather a lot with him. It was noticed by an MD and she was never seen again. I certainly wouldn't say that this sort of thing inevitably goes in favour of the woman... in this case one person was a permanent employee who was important/valuable to the company and the other person was a temporary employee of minimal value and who could easily be replaced.

 

[413x]

If there's one thing I'm sure of is my gf would leave me if she didn't want me. I'm glad if that. I've told her before when she gets down and says negative stuff its one of the many things that puts her above most people in my eyes.

To a large extent I do think you can 'tell' the type who will cheat. Not all the time, but you can.

 

[datalol-jack]

Aye, don't fiddle the tribble if it purrs to another's tune.

 

[easyrider]

First 'Love Island' and now this.

 

[GGizmo]

Ok, lets ask this question.. if an extremely attractive person of the opposite sex (or same sex if you are gay) dropped their robe and appeared nude in front of you... how many people here would go for it, even if you are in a relationship?

 

[easyrider]

Ok, lets ask this question.. if an extremely attractive person of the opposite sex (or same sex if you are gay) dropped their robe and appeared nude in front of you... how many people here would go for it, even if you are in a relationship?

I guess it depends if you really loved your partner?

 

[deusexlumina]

Ok, lets ask this question.. if an extremely attractive person of the opposite sex (or same sex if you are gay) dropped their robe and appeared nude in front of you... how many people here would go for it, even if you are in a relationship?

I can honestly say I've had a couple of women make themselves available while I've been in a long term relationship, and I said no. But the jokes on me to be honest as she ended up cheating on me anyway!

I think there are probably quite a lot of stories about people saying no. It's just we'll only hear about the affairs etc. because that's when the **** hits the fan and things become public.

 

[mrk]

Does anyone work in a workplace where you know of no one having an affair or having cheated on their partner? It seems to me that it inevitable happens that one or two people will do so.

Actually yeah! One of my long time mates from my old workplace as it turns out was pork swording another colleague. He had been married for nearly 20 years with 2 kids, nice house and dog etc, the works. Yet he chose to sleep with someone 12 years younger than his Mrs.

 

[dowie]

Apparently it has caused a lot of awkwardness on the show as detailed by the below highbrow publication:

https://www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/7538528/katya-jones-neil-jones-wont-dance-together-strictly/

Comic Seann's behaviour has been described as “cocky and arrogant” after the indiscretion - and the insider says that, for the first time in the show's history, there is a genuine atmosphere backstage.

They continued: “Seann's sheer arrogance and cockiness is unforgivable. Katya has been a little more subdued than usual, but he has shown no remorse whatsoever.

“It's the first time there has ever been a divide in the camp, and that it is becoming more marked as the days go on with the feeling being that the sooner they go the sooner everyone else can get back to being 'the Strictly family'.”

Ok, lets ask this question.. if an extremely attractive person of the opposite sex (or same sex if you are gay) dropped their robe and appeared nude in front of you... how many people here would go for it, even if you are in a relationship?

That isn't really normal behaviour, plenty of people would find it an odd situation and would reject the offer.

I don't think most people intend to cheat or would suddenly flip like that out of no where, it's probably more like the fable involving boiling a frog, it needs to be heated up slowly for it to work. Someone just dropping a robe is like throwing the frog into a saucepan pan full of boiling water, it will immediately get out of there. Whereas someone who has worked late nights with another person, perhaps regularly goes to lunch with them and confides in them, hangs out regularly on Fridays in the pub, dances with them a bit when drunk at the Christmas party then when they're both walking away from the venue leans in... thats where it happens. It's built up over time.

 

[SexyGreyFox]

Ok, lets ask this question.. if an extremely attractive person of the opposite sex (or same sex if you are gay) dropped their robe and appeared nude in front of you... how many people here would go for it, even if you are in a relationship?

I can answer this very easily because I've had a lifetime of offers and now at 60 I'm too old to do anything anyway.
I've been a front man in bands since the age of 12 and BECAUSE OF ALCOHOL, on most gigs I will get propositioned by men, women & couples (mixed) and I've always said no.
Some have been munters but a lot have been way above my batting average but I've always declined.

Oh and what Dowie says in the above post, I've never heard the boiling frog story before but yeah, I'm a boiling frog.

 

[datalol-jack]

Indecent exposure is a crime too.

 

[Pawnless Endgame]

I can honestly say I've had a couple of women make themselves available while I've been in a long term relationship, and I said no. But the jokes on me to be honest as she ended up cheating on me anyway!

The only time I've ever had girls asking me out is when I already had a girlfriend. So what you wrote there reminded me of that. Is it sod's law that this happens or is it some sort of human nature that attached people are seen as more attractive?

 

[wingman]

The only time I've ever had girls asking me out is when I already had a girlfriend. So what you wrote there reminded me of that. Is it sod's law that this happens or is it some sort of human nature that attached people are seen as more attractive?

The old adage of desiring what you can't have.

 

[Maccy]

Wow you pushing for another name change @dowie ?

 

[checjb]

I've never heard it called 'ladder theory' before. My own analogy is based on monkeys, i.e. a monkey never lets go of one branch before having a hold of the next.

My ex-wife is a prime example. I'd been seeing her (at uni) for a whole term when she let slip that she was going home to split up with her boyfriend. I really wish I'd actually used my thinking brain at that point.
18 years later, she leaves me for a work colleague. The joke was on her though as he immediately went, "Er, no thank. I'll stay with my wife and kids. Thanks for th sex though."
She then met another fella but (and I kid you not, these are her words) he has to pass a trial period before she would consider him a boyfriend. During that period she was caught several times with randoms.
The sad thing is, her new guy is really nice and the kid of bloke I'd happily go for a pint with. He's even realised that she was lying to him when she told him that the reason she left me was because I was abusive. God knows why he's still with her knowing that lot though.

As for the Strictly curse, whether it's true or not, I think it's sad that people follow that path. Have some respect for yourself and your partner. If you don't love them, leave them THEN move on.
On the flipside, damn those women are hot!