Would it bother you if...
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So it doesn't bother you, but she's obviously had a go about I assume something you've got around that she doesn't like because its from an ex?
Assuming that is the case, you can either see it upsets her and do something about it, or see it upsets her but use the excuse that she's kept something from an ex to make you even and keep whatever it is.
Well thats the impression I get from the post, so why not tell us what the argument was over and I assume what it is she wants you to get rid of?
The fact is, it didn't bother you before, hypocrisy doesn't really come into it. You weren't and aren't bothered by the ring, otherwise you would have been bothered about it before. She is bothered by something, if its at all reasonable get rid of whatever it is. Had nothing been bothering her, but you were completely bothered by the ring and asked her about it, maybe asked her to get rid of it. She could either get rid of it just because it bothers you, or find something to get equally bothered about that you have. One's looking for an excuse, one's doing something nice for your partner.
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Isn't the general rule if she breaks it off, she gives the ring back, if he does, she gets to keep it?
No, not ergo that at all. You are making an unwarranted logical leap.
She uses tact in not discussing it because the listener might believe it to be wrong, not because it is wrong. That is the logical leap.
On the strength of what you've said then, yes, I don't think I would like it, although I'm not sure to what degree.
Nah, that is ******. Why should she need to use tact if she believes there is nothing wrong with what she is doing?
If she is so sure she was in the right then why should she be tactful?
And to be fair, WHY should she care what others think? If it is upsetting to her boyfriend, then she should either remove it or explain why she needs to wear it.
It's up to each of them to decide where to go from there.
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My money is on he ditched her and she would jump his bones at the drop of a pasty.
However, if she ditched him, then the ring is indeed just a pretty bit of jewellery.
Sure, she can say what she likes, but she might not want to wade into a 5 page thread style argument about something she doesn't think is wrong.
And she may not want people thinking she still has the hots for Mr Ex.
I can see where she is coming from with a regular ring; but an engagement ring? It stinks of 'still not over him'
I do, yes. Marriage would definitely be conditional on her not wearing an engagement ring from an ex as I would interpret her wearing said ring as a sign that she wasn't serious about the current relationship.
Or if your question was just about the notation, I probably use "=>" occasionally as well. Most of this forum will have met conditional statements, and if those that haven't read "iff" as "if" then it's not so bad. Not a deliberate attempt to appear l33t, I can't program worth a damn so would be fooling no one
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The engagement ring itself, despite physically being "only jewelery", is a symbol of a bond between him and her.
I would be upset if she decided to continue wearing it, not only because of the symbol it represents but also because of the type of person it would reveal her to be if she decided to simply "forget" what it meant and continue to wear it on a different finger; a sign of utter, and cheap, contempt that forgoes any semblence of decency.
In my opinion.
I would be upset if she decided to continue wearing it, not only because of the symbol it represents but also because of the type of person it would reveal her to be if she decided to simply "forget" what it meant and continue to wear it on a different finger; a sign of utter, and cheap, contempt that forgoes any semblence of decency.
In my opinion.
Odd, its just plain rude! An engagement ring is a sign of commitment, its not just a ring, its the meaning behind the thing.... every sane woman should know this, and would not just annoy me, but would be a HUGE BIG sign of things that are coming
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I suppose it is just a ring but at the same time she is still technically engaged imo unless she takes the ring off. So I would be a bit WTF.
Not knowing much about rings, there isn't a special ring that are "engagement rings" its just a name right? it is about the finger you wear it on?
Which finger is it on?
Maybe sell it and give her some more money and buy her a better ring.
Not knowing much about rings, there isn't a special ring that are "engagement rings" its just a name right? it is about the finger you wear it on?
Which finger is it on?
Maybe sell it and give her some more money and buy her a better ring.
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