Would you give her a key ? (ex)

I would strongly recommend going to the CCB and talking to your solicitor. If your x wants to be a ***** about this she can really upset your plans, finances and put enough strain on your current relationship to test it to its limits.

As I said if she puts up a fight she could put you in the position where you can not sell or transfer the deeds (assuming her name is on them).

You should review all of your bank statements to identify the cost of you and your ex, buying, mortgaging, moving in, maintaining, billing and eating in that house.
You should present these costs to your solicitor to have them validated and then get him to make her an offer outlining that what she receives from the sale of the house will be the profit after costs have been deducted. If she does not see this as fair then a writ will be issued summoning her to court to prove that she deserves more, make it clear this is the final offer and that any legal action you feel necessary to take against her will be covered by her share of the profit of the sale should you win in court.

If she rejects your offer have your solicitor issue a writ and put the wheels in motion to take her to court. One of 2 things will happen, she will back down and be reasonable, or she will dig her heals in and bury her head in the sand.

Hopefully by being forceful you will make her see sense. Sounds to me like she is being a greedy selfish *** that is bitter and can not let you get on with your life.
 
I'd give her the key, and set up a webcam to watch the place.

Frankly if she's ready to be an arse about it she can cause you a lot of trouble. This way you can protect yourself (any funny business while you're out and you can go straight to the police) while maintaining harmony.
 
When you buy a house setting up a deed of trust with a solicitor costs a £150-200 however covers you in these circumstances and if you do break can save you thousands of pounds. Just thought would add this advice for anyone thinking of buying a house as an unmarried couple.

Kronologics above post contains some very good info.
 
Mr Jack said:
I'd give her the key, and set up a webcam to watch the place.

Frankly if she's ready to be an arse about it she can cause you a lot of trouble. This way you can protect yourself (any funny business while you're out and you can go straight to the police) while maintaining harmony.
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What can he say to the police?
The woman who co-owns the house with me has entered the house and wont leave?
She took something? - he'd have to prove she had no right to take what ever it was.

Giving her access to the house may appease her but she probably has malicious intents, she has no need to have the key to help sell the place as Estate agents normally take a copy and let them selves in. Why would she need to let people in? Its clearly a lie. She might vandalise the place, steal things or worse move in. Once she takes up residency there. She will not be moveable. Malenko will have to continue to pay for her to live there until court proceedings go through (and it will take going through the courts to get her to pay whilst living there) which could take months.

As the mortgage is coming out of Malenko's account he will get the negative credit rating and will not be able to get another mortgage, until the dispute is resolved.

I would simply tell her that she can have the key when she agrees (in writing and signed by a solicitor and 3rd party) to a value of the sale and that she will in no way by her action or inaction prevent/delay the sale of the house.
 
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I'm in the exact opposite position to you and I don't expect a key. I could gain entry to the house if I wanted to but I don't have any need. As long as you don't have any of her stuff and you're paying the bills then just don't give her a key til her solicitor gets in touch.
 
kitten_caboodle said:
legally.... she's got a right. But I don't think you're being unreasonable. I wouldn't give her a key.
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Agreed.

How about a compromise? You allow her 'accompanied access' to the property, i.e. you give a key to a family member or trustworthy neighbour who accompanies her. That way you keep your security and she would be hard pressed to argue in court that you didn't allow her access.
 
Do you really expect her to come in and cause trouble though? If I were you I'd give her the key for the sake of an easy life. I appreciate that if you've had a nasty breakup you might have reasons to be against it, of course.
 
I think Kronologic has given you some very good advice. Don't give her a key, as she does seem to be proving herself to be rather vindictive. If she is behaving the way you say, then I would probably deal with her only through your solicitor and not directly, as that way you will have documentation of what is said and agreed.
 
Kronologic said:
I would strongly recommend going to the CCB and talking to your solicitor. If your x wants to be a ***** about this she can really upset your plans, finances and put enough strain on your current relationship to test it to its limits.

As I said if she puts up a fight she could put you in the position where you can not sell or transfer the deeds (assuming her name is on them).

You should review all of your bank statements to identify the cost of you and your ex, buying, mortgaging, moving in, maintaining, billing and eating in that house.
You should present these costs to your solicitor to have them validated and then get him to make her an offer outlining that what she receives from the sale of the house will be the profit after costs have been deducted. If she does not see this as fair then a writ will be issued summoning her to court to prove that she deserves more, make it clear this is the final offer and that any legal action you feel necessary to take against her will be covered by her share of the profit of the sale should you win in court.

If she rejects your offer have your solicitor issue a writ and put the wheels in motion to take her to court. One of 2 things will happen, she will back down and be reasonable, or she will dig her heals in and bury her head in the sand.

Hopefully by being forceful you will make her see sense. Sounds to me like she is being a greedy selfish *** that is bitter and can not let you get on with your life.
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My earlier advice was good ;) , but this is probably better :p
 
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