Would you take your wife's name?

dowie said:
Did you already have a double barrelled surname or were you just saying you were happy to take her double barrelled name and since that would be a bit ridiculous you knew she'd say no but you still get credit for being willing to? :D
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I have an single barrelled 12th century Hiberno-Norman surname which I have always considered rather boring. My wife's maiden name is a posh double barrelled Anglo-Norman surname that originated in early 19th century Cheltenham (at least, that's the furthest we've been able to trace it back).

I honestly had no idea how she would respond to the suggestion of a triple barrelled surname, but it turns out she wasn't keen. She's also more conservative than I am when it comes to marriage conventions, which is another reason she preferred to take my name.
 
My individual family name is just a name given to me - nobody asked me ever to love or to hate it.

Founding a family of my own was a deliberate decision met by me and my wife. We did not care
who's name is going to get our familiy name. Really important to me and my wife was to have
the same name for each of us, our kids, my wife and me. This name is meant a ribbon that ties
together all of us.
I will accept my children adopting the family name of their partner when they are going to found
their own family because it's their family as it is their own life.
 
dowie said:
well no, with a double barrelled name you have that issue, whereas if the wife maintains her surname as a middle name you don't, she's just made her surname a middle name, those don't all get inherited unless perhaps one gets selected... their daughter's surname is "Clinton"
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So it's still the father's family name that's kept. I don't see that as a solution to the problem.
 
I would not ever consider doing it.

My issue would be two fold :

1)My surname is kind of unique and I identify myself with it. I also believe that my father would turn in his grave if I ever considered it, let alone do it.

2)My second problem relates to why the turn against custom?

Brutal biff said:
My mates younger brother took his wife's name due to her family line would end due to her father not having any sons to carry it on
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Its great that someone could bring themselves to do this, but personally even in this circumstance (which is not rare by any stretch of the imagination) it would not be enough for me to trigger the change. It is obviously important to your friend's brother's father in law to keep his surname going so should not this also be important for the husband? On this conclusion, no, it was not important for him, and each unto their own.

I would have no problem if my wife has maintained her surname, but from her culture (Indian) this was never going to happen. Culture here dictates that she also takes my first name as her middle. Yes....get your head around that.....my wife's middle name is a bloke's name.

I would never want my children to have anything other than my surname though, not even double barreled. I also want my son to continue my family name.
 
Nope. My Mrs' name is Piwowarska. It would be very odd for a man to have a female surname. I suppose I could take Piwowarski but that would cause a load of problems.
 
No I would not and I also wouldn't let her keep hers. You marry me you take my name, if you want to keep yours then you dont get married. Simple
 
My wife didn't take my name when we got married. I wasn't fussed either way.

We had our first child last year and she has been given my wife's surname. Again I wasn't particularly fussed about what name she took and my wife has a more unique surname than me.

It's just a name, who cares at the end of the day?
 
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