Would you tell them?

See, this is the thing. And they're all the way over in Cuba, its not like its close.

I'm going to speak to my uncle in the morning (I found out by answering machine message) and find out what the arrangements are going to be. If the funeral is within the time they're away I have to tell them. There's no way I could not.

Its going to be a toughie though if it is after they get back. Do I let them have a few days worth of holiday and then maybe return or stay out there and have a crap time? Its my dad's dad. I need to let him have the choice, but if I can let them at least have some holiday first I think it might be worth it.

And this is my dilemma.
 
Sorry to hear you bad news :(

I'd tell your parents though as if it was you in their position then surely you'd want to know.

RIP :(
 
Really sorry for your loss Mat. You have my number if you need to chat, call any time.

As for telling your parents, I think you have to. One of them has lost a parent, I think they need to know.

RIP Gilly's Grandad :(
 
Sorry Gilly :( I'm sure he would have had a great life! Rest in peace.

Hope everythings ok with you, and I think you know the right thing to do.
 
m8, I'm sorry to hear that. Yes you have to tell them. I know I would be really upset if I was not told. Thoughts are with you.
 
Gilly said:
Its going to be a toughie though if it is after they get back. Do I let them have a few days worth of holiday and then maybe return or stay out there and have a crap time? Its my dad's dad. I need to let him have the choice, but if I can let them at least have some holiday first I think it might be worth it.
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Imagine how guilty he would feel knowing they were having a brilliant time, and your grandad had passed away, thats some guilt to live with :(

I think I would want to know
 
Gilly said:
I need to let him have the choice, but if I can let them at least have some holiday first I think it might be worth it.

And this is my dilemma.
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Really sorry to hear your bad news mate. Oddly, I have thought about this before. Personally, if the funeral isn't until they come back, I would let them have a few days holiday then tell them. At least then, they will have had a few days to relax and then your Dad can think about whether to stay out or come back. You may find they choose to stay out there, so that your Dad can grieve.
 
Hard call but could be easier if he's going to be buried after their holiday.
Talk to your Uncle and between you make the decision.
Obviously if the funeral is in the next few days then you need to make that call.
 
Sorry to hear about the loss mate. :(

You need to tell your parents straight away though, I'm sure they would like to know, after that it’s their decision.
 
iCraig said:
First of all, sorry to hear of your loss mate.

I think you need to tell them.

It would be worse to come back from their holiday to find out whilst they've been out having fun, your Grandad passed away the day they left. They'll feel guilty.

R.I.P :(
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Sorry to hear that. R.I.P :(

I agree with iCraig comments.
 
Kitchster_uk said:
In the same situation, my parents instructed me NOT to tell them if my grandmother died, but it never arose.
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To put a lighter note on it (not wanting to trash your thread or be disrespectful Gilly.. :( ) you thought it was going to be an "I've cheated on my little girlfriend with a norty ho, should I tell her" thread didn't you Kitchster?!!!! :D
 
Daft question but they'll be fully insured, so if there's a bereavement would that be covered? I mean, would they get back their money and be able to switch flights or whatever?
 
YES TELL THEM NOW....................................

my parents would go mental If I didn't tell. I'm under stricter orders to tell them when he goes in to hospital when there away. Has his wife wont tell them.
 
At the end of the day it's your call, but IMO you should tell them.

Doing these sort of things over the phone isn't ideal, but it's never easy however you decide to handle it. Get it out in the open as soon as possible, don't let it fester. People always want to know, things like holidays come second at times like these.

Good luck.
 
If my folks were so far away, I'd give them as much holiday as possible, they don't need to know right now.

:(
 
AcidHell2 said:
YES TELL THEM NOW....................................

my parents would go mental If I didn't tell. I'm under stricter orders to tell them when he goes in to hospital when there away. Has his wife wont tell them.
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Can't tell them now. A) I'm in the office working nights and B) They didn't leave contact information.

I think I'm going to have to wait for them to call me. My uncle might have details though.

Thats also a good call mr Poole, I'll discuss how to handle it with my uncle.

My brother is away too. Don't have info for him either.
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If my folks were so far away, I'd give them as much holiday as possible, they don't need to know right now.

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I think unless the funeral is too close for me to be able to do that, thats what I'm going to do.

Although if they call me I'm not going to act as if everything would be OK, that'd be lying to them and I don't think that would be right.
 
I live away from the rest of my family, so I've been informed of a few family deaths/illnesses by phone now. It's hard, really hard, not having people to talk to. I ended up phoning a counselling service just to find someone to talk to. Having said all that, I would be even more upset if I wasn't told. So, yes, I would personally want to know whatever the circumstances. Of course, I don't know your family, so things may be different with you.

If you're going to find out the arrangements tomorrow anyway, that would seem like an appropriate time to tell them.

Gilly said:
Daft question but they'll be fully insured, so if there's a bereavement would that be covered? I mean, would they get back their money and be able to switch flights or whatever?
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It would be classed as a family emergency. They'd have to check their policy, but it probably would be covered.
 
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