Would you tell them?

You have my condolences too Gilly.

It was hard enough for me when my Nana passed on but I still let my father know as soon as I found out. Please tell them as soon as you can.
 
Despite your dislike of me, I'm sorry for you loss; please accept my condolences.
As for the question ........ hard one ...... but personally I'd not tell 'em; they can't do anything, so why **** up the holiday? ...... they will still be able to pay due respects etc.

It really depends on how you feel about the family etc.

Kind regards.
 
I'm sorry to hear that.

Personally, I would tell my parents, as I think they would want to know. After all, it is probably rather more personal to your Dad than it is to you (not being nasty there - but you see my point).

It's a really hard thing to have to do though. If you need to track them down in a hurry, I'm sure you could get onto the travel agent or something - do you know who they booked it through?
 
Tell them, Gilly. They need to know.

Cheers to your deceased grandfather. He lived a good long life and left life with the love of his family and friends. If only we could all go that way.
 
Sorry to hear your news Gilly :(

I would tell them but not sure i could do it the same day as i got the news, as would be upset myself. I'd tell them the next day once i had worked out how to break the news to them and also if i had heard of when the funeral was possibly being held, so they could at least know what date they would need to return for. As might take a few days to sort the arrangements for them to get back.

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I think what they'll end up doing is simply paying for the tickets back themselves and claiming back from the insurance company, if possible and if indeed they do return early.
 
I'd tell them.

What would ruin their holiday most? You not telling them, and finding say a week later when they come back? Or knowing straight away, and hopefully being able to return home to pay their respects.

RIP
 
I wouldn't tell them. Let them enjoy their holiday. No point telling them whilst they're on hols...be sad for the rest of it, and come home early.
 
Really sorry to hear that mate :(
Sounds like you're fairly sorted with what to do but I'd say go with what your gut feeling is telling you to do.
 
I'd be a mess after a nightshift with the added stress of this happening. Do you have anyone who could fill in for you?
 
i know its hard but they have to be told

dont leave it, you might think your sparing them for a day or so but it will may cause arguments and make the whole thing even more upsetting, if you dont tell them now then they will feel guilty about having been going out and having a good time and its not going to be easy to take already

im not implying in any way you should pass the buck but maybe your uncle should tell them, might have been your grandfather but he was their dad your uncle might be able to calm him better, not to mention some folks feel they need to put a strong face on in front of their children but are more relaxed around siblings
 
Cybermyk said:
I'd be a mess after a nightshift with the added stress of this happening. Do you have anyone who could fill in for you?
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Nah, not really. I think I'd best do it. My brother could have I guess but like I say he's away too.

n3vrmind said:
im not implying in any way you should pass the buck but maybe your uncle should tell them, might have been your grandfather but he was their dad your uncle might be able to calm him better, not to mention some folks feel they need to put a strong face on in front of their children but are more relaxed around siblings
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Fair point and thanks for raising it, but I can say with utmost confidence that he'd rather hear it from me. He and I are closer than he and his brothers. He has my mum there to grieve with once I've told them the news.
 
I'm so sorry Mat :( It's a horrible responsibilty, having to pass on news like that, especially when it's complicated by other factors.

I would look at it that they wont look back and be upset that you cut their holiday short, but they may well look back and be upset you didnt tell them sooner.

All the best.
 
At the end of the day it's only a holiday. I know exactly how you feel though, when my parents went on holiday to Mexico my grandad died, we ended up phoning them and letting them know and they got home as soon as they could. I think my dad would have hated us not telling him :(
 
Condolences, IMHO you have to tell them, but you make the choice you feel is right.

You mentioned that your Grandad had been ill for a time, would your folks be expecting to take a call like this? There is never a right time for news like this. :(

RIP Gilly's grandad.
 
Well when I heard the tone of my uncle's voice I knew pretty much straight away what I was about to be told. I think it has been coming for some time. I expect it will be the same when I speak to my parents on the phone. They'll know something is up and will probably guess at it even before I tell them.
 
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