Would your opinion of someone change....

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If they started smoking?

GF used to smoke years ago when she went through that teenage "it's well cool to smoke" phase. And she hasn't smoked for about 3 years.

Now, on Saturday night the conversation between me, her and 2 others came up about smoking and I said about how much I detest smoking. She asked me straight out if I would change at all if she started smoking - I honestly said that at first I probably would and then I'd get over it and try to get her to stop.

She said it's her choice to smoke, fair enough - I'm not saying it's not - What I'm saying is I wouldn't want to go out with an ashtray. Then the convo moved onto something else before anything major kicked off :p

So my question is, if someone very close (I mean REAL close) to you, began smoking - What would be your first reaction? Would your opinion of them change? Would you try to get them to stop? ???
 
I hate it and if the missus started smoking (which she wouldn't; she isn't stupid enough) my opinion would change. It's stupid.
 
GF smoked in her teens long before I met her and she says she has craved them now and again on nights out but I don't think she ever would start again. I would be gutted if she did and do my best to make her stop. I guess i would be really disapointed with her more than anything that she was so weak and wanted to abuse her body when she is so intelligent and knows how damaging smoking is.
 
If the wife decided to smoke she is more than welcome to but, she would not be allowed near the kids when she smokes and she might as well move into a seperate bedroom as I cannot stand the smell.

Stale smoke has got to be one of the vilest smells ever - you can walk into a lift 10 minutes after a smoker has been in and it still stinks.

I really don't know why people think that its not that bad - rolling in excrement is about the only thing worse.
 
To be fully honest, yes, my opinion of them would change, and I would feel compelled to at least try to talk them out of it, but never force them.
 
paradigm said:
To be fully honest, yes, my opinion of them would change, and I would feel compelled to at least try to talk them out of it, but never force them.
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How would your opinion change mate?

And I'm the same - I would atleast try and talk her out of it - but I wouldn't take the cig out of her mouth whilst she was smoking it.
 
My best mate (not that i'd kiss him) started smoking in his early 20's (you know who you are if you're reading!!!! ;) ). Basically because of the people he was hanging out with at the time, he's not a heavy smoker and yes I did try to stop him at first.

Have a given up completly now, he's a lost cause ;)
 
My opinion wouldn't change as I respect my wife's right to make her own choices, even if I don't like them.

However, I would point out that I stopped smoking because she didn't like me doing it. Then I'd snipe, moan, whine and grumble until she got sick of it and gave up. Or left, but that's not likely to happen over such a petty issue as smoking.
 
It wouldn't happen, most people start smoking in the late teens as in the OP 'cool phase' For some reason when your an idiot teenager you think you know better.

Its then when you realise your an idiot you try to stop, more difficult for some.

No sane person who hasn't smoked starts smoking past their early 20's.

I would not put up with it if my wife decided to start. Of course I can't stop her it's her life but I'd go back to seperate accounts etc, I wouldn't fund her habit.

If I was single again, I wouldn't date a smoker no matter who they were.
 
dannyjo22 said:
I would not put up with it if my wife decided to start. Of course I can't stop her it's her life but I'd go back to seperate accounts etc, I wouldn't fund her habit.

If I was single again, I wouldn't date a smoker no matter who they were.
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There is a 0% chance of my wife ever taking up smoking but in the hypothetical situation that she did take leave of her senses, my views would be the same as dannyjo's.
 
My opinion would change, there'd be massive disapointment and pure disgust. Fortunately it's not going to happen as we're far too smart to burn our money on something so pointless. :D
 
Why should your opinion of someone change because they smoke - if something hasnt suddenly changed about that persons nature, or their actions ... then why should how you are towards them change?

If anything, a person who feels they can change how they feel about someone as quickly as it takes them to light up a fag ..... then maybe they have a problem in themselves.

Obviously its up to a person what kind of people they surround themselves with, and perhaps 'smokers' wouldnt be a first choice depending on what you do .... but to suddenly ostracise a friend on that basis smacks of extremism to me.
 
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