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You made it worse by turning up at 12am tbh.

Just arrange a time, and turn up. Don't bother waiting for confirmation that she's in, because she will string you along and start inventing excuses as to why you can't.

I'd be surprised if it's not already on eBay.
 
Sounds like your dealing with a psycho, send someone else to get your stuff as i could see u ending with police called if u went as she would claim u punched her or something if she already seems mental.
 
matdom said:
Well its like rubbing her nose isnt it, how would you feel if your x sent a male friend round.
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How's sending a person of the same gender rubbing someone's nose in it? Grown ups have friends of the opposite gender.
 
[TW]Fox;26186430 said:
I bet there is no other side to this story at all. Let's use half the story to condemn the female as a nutcase.
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She is showing signs of a classic nutter tbh, being a dr of life i diagnose that she is clearly an odd job and should be treated as such
 
matdom said:
Yep, i know but i'd like to get the stuff back rather than do that, however if i can't then thats the only option.
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Going to the county court will get your stuff back...

matdom said:
Its not its brand new items for my flat which I left there because she needed her car back, plus some clothes and my phone charger.
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Well phone charger is the kind of stuff that falls under tat, a 50p usb cable essentially.
 
Wow she sounds like a drama llama!

Kinda sounds like you're enjoying the drama though?

Just send a female friend around to get your stuff. Job done. Why should it matter what she thinks? Get your stuff back and block her out of your life.
 
matdom said:
Some clothers, my phone charger and brand new boxed Ikea furniture worth £160.
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Is there anything you need? Is there anything you can't afford to replace? Is there anything of major sentimental value?

If the answer to those questions is "no", then tell her she can keep the stuff and be done with it. It's cheaper to walk away and stay away.

If the answer to any of those questions is "yes", then ask a woman you know if she would get it for you unless you think she'd be at risk of being attacked by your ex. If you think that, seek legal advice.

You are placing yourself at risk by going there. You could suffer serious, lasting harm as a result. It isn't worth doing so. It wouldn't be worth doing so for anything - even if there was something of enormous value to you it would still be better to have someone else fetch it.

There is no sensible reason for you to go back there, none at all. If the stuff isn't of great value to you, write it off. If it is, get someone else to get it for you. A woman if you're doing it informally, an official if you're going through the court system and doing it formally. But not you. At best, you'll have stress and drama and leave empty-handed anyway. At worst, your life will be severely damaged. There is no upside to going there yourself.

It doesn't even matter if you're telling us the whole story, a biased view of the story or a pack of lies. It doesn't matter if she's a nutter or you are or neither of you are. Who's at fault and who isn't or the extent to which either of you are at fault has no bearing on the best course of action, which is for you to not go there again.
 
matdom said:
Well its like rubbing her nose isnt it, how would you feel if your x sent a male friend round.
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Absolutely fine as long as I knew to expect him and she was willing to take responsibility for whatever he does with the stuff (i.e. if he does a runner with it then it's not my problem). I don't see what relevance the gender has, in fact I'd imagine a girl might prefer a random female came knocking than a random male from a safety perspective.
 
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