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I've been in a relationship with my current gf for 18 months now and it's never been easy going. I'm 32 and she'd 26, and we have a real love/hate relationship. We tend to argue over the pettiest of things and although we always make up in the end, these arguments can be pretty draining and have started getting me down.
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This is red flag material, right there. What you're doing is putting up with a situation either because you don't think you can find anybody else or you don't want to put the effort in to finding anyone else. You're settling for something which is great sometimes and terrible other times IN EQUAL MEASURE.

Don't be semi-happy for the rest of your life. I mean who would do this? Just get a better girlfriend! Or don't and just be happy on your own. But to put up with what sounds like a really ****** relationship is what teenagers and people in their early twenties - people who have no idea what they're doing in life - do and not men who are 32 years old.
 
I'd take the job, I will never put up with someone like you have described ever again and I had one. In the future you will see these, as magnolia put it, red flags in other women much earlier and avoid the whole situation all together.

Because from what it sounds like you're close to critical point with her anyway and leaving, except you'll wish you did it sooner and took the job.

Just hope you've got sea legs.. I don't :(
 
ive just noticed the job is 3months on 3 months off, that sounds good to me.

in fact does your mate have any more jobs going? id jump at the chance if i were in your shoes.
 
this sounds very familiar. We're about the same age, difference being iwas in this situation about 3 years ago. Go for the job & smash lots of foreign pasty is my only advice!! :D
 
Ahoy matey! Get to sea man, a woman in every port and you can play around with computers all day, and 6 months holiday!:eek: This must be a troll post.
 
Seriously, go for it! If she really, really loves you she'll understand. It sounds like she won't, though, and your relationship sounds very up-and-down. At 32 you're not exactly ancient, have fun while you can because your next 'proper' relationship will be prodding you and asking "Have you thought about having kids?" Plus, the job sounds interesting and is really well paid!

Go for it.
 
Dude that job sounds awesome. Too good to pass. You never know, she may be happy that you're home for 3 months 24/7 twice a year.
 
€6k a month tax free, jeez you could work for like 6 months and then do nothing for the other six, ditch the ***** (female dog) and go have fun, you will probably get laid a lot :)
 
Dump her and take the job.

By the way, I'm not convinced the earnings would be tax free. I'd be interested to hear how that works. Just because you do the work at sea doesn't mean you aren't still UK resident.
 
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The OP's woman sounds like my ex-wife, get rid right now! If you're the quite type get a quite girl, you'll be so much happier. Trust me
 
Take the job.

If you really love her, you'll get her back when you return. And you don't seriously believe that the whole "leave mysteriously to travel the seas after an argument" won't make her want you even more? ;)
 
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