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You’re in a love hate relationship, well she'll hate you even more and you'll love it. Take the job.
 
Thanks for all the replies!

I've been having a really good think about things overnight and have decided no matter what happens with the job I deserve to be treated better than I am at the moment, so the gf has to go. I have this habit of going for firey women as I like the challenge, but this really needs to change. I want marriage, kids etc in the new few years and I can never see that happening with the current gf the way things are. I can't bring myself to commit that heavily on something which isn't 100% stable.

I'm sorting my CV and will get it submitted for the job tonight. I'm actually really excited about the whole prospect; it's scary as hell considering it'd be a complete change of scenery and I've never worked at sea before, but I like a good challenge! I've been in my current job for almost 7 years now and things have gotten pretty stale so this would be a good change of gear in my life and it's not very often you get an opportunity like this!

As for the tax-free wages bit, as long as I work abroad for more than 183 days a year then I can claim Seafarer's Earnings Deduction which gives you 100% tax relief. At the end of the day though, even if I do end up working less than the threshold and pay tax, I'll still be getting a really good wage considering the 6 months I'll be at sea I won't have any outgoings; I'll have a cabin onboard to sleep in and all food and drink would be provided.
 
scratch said:
As for the tax-free wages bit, as long as I work abroad for more than 183 days a year then I can claim Seafarer's Earnings Deduction which gives you 100% tax relief. At the end of the day though, even if I do end up working less than the threshold and pay tax, I'll still be getting a really good wage considering the 6 months I'll be at sea I won't have any outgoings; I'll have a cabin onboard to sleep in and all food and drink would be provided.
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Cheers for that, I'll look it up. Always worth knowing a bit more...

EDIT: Yep, s378ff ITEPA 2003. Work more than 183 days on a ship and you can get your wages tax free.

In that case, you should definitely do it.
 
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scratch said:
Thanks for all the replies!

I've been having a really good think about things overnight and have decided no matter what happens with the job I deserve to be treated better than I am at the moment, so the gf has to go. I have this habit of going for firey women as I like the challenge, but this really needs to change. I want marriage, kids etc in the new few years and I can never see that happening with the current gf the way things are. I can't bring myself to commit that heavily on something which isn't 100% stable.

I'm sorting my CV and will get it submitted for the job tonight. I'm actually really excited about the whole prospect; it's scary as hell considering it'd be a complete change of scenery and I've never worked at sea before, but I like a good challenge! I've been in my current job for almost 7 years now and things have gotten pretty stale so this would be a good change of gear in my life and it's not very often you get an opportunity like this!

As for the tax-free wages bit, as long as I work abroad for more than 183 days a year then I can claim Seafarer's Earnings Deduction which gives you 100% tax relief. At the end of the day though, even if I do end up working less than the threshold and pay tax, I'll still be getting a really good wage considering the 6 months I'll be at sea I won't have any outgoings; I'll have a cabin onboard to sleep in and all food and drink would be provided.
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Could this be a GD success story? :eek:

For what it's worth I think you are making two very good decisions. Very good indeed. Good work that man.
 
scratch said:
Thanks for all the replies!

I've been having a really good think about things overnight and have decided no matter what happens with the job I deserve to be treated better than I am at the moment, so the gf has to go. I have this habit of going for firey women as I like the challenge, but this really needs to change. I want marriage, kids etc in the new few years and I can never see that happening with the current gf the way things are. I can't bring myself to commit that heavily on something which isn't 100% stable.

I'm sorting my CV and will get it submitted for the job tonight. I'm actually really excited about the whole prospect; it's scary as hell considering it'd be a complete change of scenery and I've never worked at sea before, but I like a good challenge! I've been in my current job for almost 7 years now and things have gotten pretty stale so this would be a good change of gear in my life and it's not very often you get an opportunity like this!

As for the tax-free wages bit, as long as I work abroad for more than 183 days a year then I can claim Seafarer's Earnings Deduction which gives you 100% tax relief. At the end of the day though, even if I do end up working less than the threshold and pay tax, I'll still be getting a really good wage considering the 6 months I'll be at sea I won't have any outgoings; I'll have a cabin onboard to sleep in and all food and drink would be provided.
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Go for it dude! Must say I'm jelly, I'd love to do something like this. Have to agree with the others, you're obviously not happy with your current relationship. If it were me, I'd do the same thing you're planning. Ditch the gf, and get yer pirate hat on, arrrrrrggghhhhhh matey!

Have fun, smash lots of holiday pasty, and keep in touch!
 
DarkShadow said:
Understand game and how to be in control. The whole Alpha/Beta traits come into play. You sound quiet beta. There's nothing wrong with that a few tweaks here and there you'll realise the arguing and bitching will drop. Might be of benefit: http://www.marriedmansexlife.com/2010/01/little-more-on-alpha-and-beta-male.html
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So i'm supposed to be more like Jean-Luc Picard? Make it so! What a load of crap that link is...

Oh and to the OP: Go on the cruise. dump the drama queen. You don't need permission to go and it sounds like she isn't the one for you anyway.
 
scratch said:
I was happily in a relationship at the time so kindly refused but have always regretted the decision as that particular relationship fizzled out.
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You say you were happily in a relationship then which fizzled out and you have regretted the decision to turn down the offer for several years now. I think this answers your question, doesn't it? You are not very happily in a relationship now and I'm thinking that if you turn down the offer again you will regret it again. What are the chances you're going to get offered something like this for a third time?

Three months are not the end of the world. The right woman wouldn't mind taking this sacrifice considering that this is something you've wanted to do for several years and also considering that you've got debts. As you say, she wouldn't "allow" it, you also say that you argue over the pettiest things, doesn't sound like she's the right woman for you. Definitely not the one for whom you should sacrifice your future/career. As others have said, three months away from each other is probably the best thing that can happen to you. Maybe she'll use the time wisely to figure out that her behaviour isn't very healthy for a relationship.

Sit her down and talk about it. Tell her that you're unhappy about many things in the relationship and that this is an offer that you'd rather not turn down.

Edit: LOL just read your update on your decision. Good job, mate.
 
By the way, make sure you're allowed to take guns on said ship especially if you're headed out Ethiopia way....
 
Sounds like an awesome job, with a very decent wage and a total change in life. Even if you only do this job for 1-2 years, you would have earned a lot of money and have new experiences.
 
If she actually cares about you, and your life as a couple, why wouldn't she let you go?

With that kind of money you could easily settle down.

Get rid. Find someone better with your monies!
 
[FnG]magnolia;19042426 said:
Could this be a GD success story? :eek:

For what it's worth I think you are making two very good decisions. Very good indeed. Good work that man.
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Couldn't agree more...
 
For that kind of money, tax free, my wife would be kicking me out the door to go work it! Would come in extremely handy for us.

Still, from your OP it's easy to see that you know the correct answer here. You're not happy -- ditch her, and take the job. Opportunities like that don't come often.
 
Go for it man. You'll regret it if you don't. If your relationship is meant to be then it won't suffer as a result of this.

*Just read thread. Good luck fella.
 
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