Eye contact when communicating

[Ed]

Personal space is one thing that should be respected. The reaction to a simple cough without covering your mouth is a good judge of whether infringment of space has occured. However, the eye contact issue is a fundamental part of effective communication. It denotes receipt of the message and to me is very important.

The people I spoke to had no confidence issues either, in fact quite the opposite. It appeared to me more of a trait. But I still don't get it.

If I'm talking to someone, I want, expect, to be faced and looked at directly. To me this means they're listening. Anything else deserves a white glove slap.

 

[Ed]

Not always. I don't like to look at the eyes of people anyway, I have no explanation for this.

This can ultimately be taken as not being taken seriously by the speaker and is seen as quite rude. Do you find people are 'off' with you at times when socialising due to this?

 

[Moredhel]

What is good about "eye contact"? I like to look at whatever is the most interesting/important thing (this seems logical to me).

Angus Higgins

Do women slap you a lot?

 

[Angus-Higgins]

This can ultimately be taken as not being taken seriously by the speaker and is seen as quite rude. Do you find people are 'off' with you at times when socialising due to this?

I cannot tell. What does "off" mean?

Angus Higgins

 

[Ed]

I cannot tell. What does "off" mean?

When people talk to you, and you don't appear to be communicating effectively due to lack of eye contact, do you find people don't take you seriously, or are offended by it, or even just leave you alone and talk to someone else?

 

[Angus-Higgins]

When people talk to you, and you don't appear to be communicating effectively due to lack of eye contact, do you find people don't take you seriously, or are offended by it, or even just leave you alone and talk to someone else?

I talk to people when I need to, people just take the information in that they give them as I intend them to. I see no problems with it. (Very few people comment about it).

Angus Higgins

 

[Heofz]

My friend was telling me how during his job interview he didn't break eye contact nor blink ONCE According to him, after 2 minutes of focussing on not blinking you simply stop caring. He must've practiced it though cos when I try to keep my eyes open I blink involuntarily...

Psychologically I reckon its pretty advantageous to stare the interviewer out, makes them feel smaller if they feel they need to break eye contact. Freaks 'em out.

Needless to say, he got the job.

 

[gillywibble]

I cannot tell. What does "off" mean?

Angus Higgins

The very fact that your name is your sign off proves geekiness. Fact.

(kidding )

 

[churned]

people just take the information in that they give them as I intend them to

 

[Mattus]

I talk to people when I need to, people just take the information in that they give them as I intend them to. I see no problems with it. (Very few people comment about it).

Just information? Do you not communicate with people on a social basis as well as a transactional one? Things like eye contact are important in building relationships.

 

[Mr^B]

Just stare at the eyebrows. Sorted.

 

[Angus-Higgins]

Just information? Do you not communicate with people on a social basis as well as a transactional one? Things like eye contact are important in building relationships.

I don't talk to people all that much. I answer a question if they ask me one, and I tell them some information when necessary. I prefer to type.

Angus Higgins

 

[yhack]

I look into peoples eyes when talking, but sometimes it feels weird when you're just staring at the persons eyes for ages, so I look at something else for a second.

 

[Mattus]

I don't talk to people all that much. I answer a question if they ask me one, and I tell them some information when necessary. I prefer to type.

I can express myself better in writing as well. Fact is, though, none of your life's most memorable moments will feature you looking at a screen or a keyboard! It's a big world and the vast majority of face-to-face communication is non-verbal (93% IIRC, most of which is body language). So what is actually being said constitutes only 7% of the information you receive in a conversation.

 

[benjo plz.]

Just stare at the eyebrows. Sorted.

nah, right between their eyes is best. I love eye contact... actually have to avoid doing it too much.

 

[Fraggr]

I don't talk to people all that much. I answer a question if they ask me one, and I tell them some information when necessary. I prefer to type.

Angus Higgins

Do you mind if I ask why?

 

[Angus-Higgins]

Do you mind if I ask why?

I am not completely certain, but I like to type more (I believe) because it is only words. People cannot change the meaning due to some other factor as with speaking. Typing is simply text.

I do not know however for certain.

Angus Higgins

 

[Fraggr]

I am not completely certain, but I like to type more (I believe) because it is only words. People cannot change the meaning due to some other factor as with speaking. Typing is simply text.

I'd disagree with the 2nd half of that. Smilies change the meaning drastically, as they show the emotion and the tone of the post. It's the same as with facial expressions and tonality with speech.

 

[Ed]

I am not completely certain, but I like to type more (I believe) because it is only words. People cannot change the meaning due to some other factor as with speaking. Typing is simply text.

I do not know however for certain.

Angus Higgins

You're 'special'. I've read the other thread about you.

Does anyone know who this is?

 

[Angus-Higgins]

I'd disagree with the 2nd half of that. Smilies change the meaning drastically, as they show the emotion and the tone of the post. It's the same as with facial expressions and tonality with speech.

But they are simple, you can mouse-over the ones you do not know (I think) for their meaning.

Angus Higgins