views on casual 'arrangements'
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Been with 2 lasses like this in the past. Both parties are right.
First lass, great, see each other when we feel like it, bit of fun... all good adult fun, no-one get's hurt ("ground rules" were laid from day 1)
Second lass. She got attached and clingy, i ended it pretty sharpish.
If you are sure you can handle it, then go for it, just be aware it can go pear shaped.
First lass, great, see each other when we feel like it, bit of fun... all good adult fun, no-one get's hurt ("ground rules" were laid from day 1)
Second lass. She got attached and clingy, i ended it pretty sharpish.
If you are sure you can handle it, then go for it, just be aware it can go pear shaped.
Actually, it is.
LOL, how can all women be against it? who are we all having sex with? bikes.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/scotland/glasgow_and_west/7095134.stm
O RLY? Since when were you a professor on the subject?
In nature very rarely do you get males that go from one female to another mating and then leaving them in a mammalian species that only produce a single offspring.
Ah so that's how that thread ended!
I've done this more than once. Most memorable was a work colleague who had her own place not far from work. Whilst she was quite annoying in many ways, she just wanted sex and so it was good for that. In my experience, girls who want no strings sex are either about 18 or 30+. Girls in between, I.E 20's, seem to try to find a relationship 1st and sex 2nd. It's almost like a rise and fall in morals for them.
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Then why is adultery so common? Why did we invent matromony to "tie" us down? Why was it so acceptable for aristocrats to have many mistresses despite being married? Why do we still find other people attractive when involved with someone? If it isn't natural, we wouldn't get the urges.
Believe me, you can
I know what you're getting at though and agree.
Surely you've just agreed and disagreed in the same post
Well, I guess it depends what you define as natural. I think we as a species have transcended the boundaries of nature.
We can flip it around if you like. Why do you think we feel intense love for another person, love for a child you have had with them and the desire to care for that child, if we weren't supposed to become attached and look after them until they are able to fend for themselves?
If we were supposed to go from one mate to the next without becoming attached and caring for them and the potential offspring, why do we have these feelings?
Immature.
[TW]Fox;10591807 said:Surely you've just agreed and disagreed in the same post
I presumed he was making a generalisation for the sake of simplicity, so I said what I've found to be the truth and then made sure I explained that I did however see what he was trying to say and that indeed sex is normally better when you've known someone while.
Ah the good old hump with no feelings, never works never. Well not to me anyway, always ends with some one falling for them or there boyfriend finding out or them getting married!
Or there brother finding out, don't do it kids its bad mckay!
Or there brother finding out, don't do it kids its bad mckay!
Kinda the point, most people are young when you do it!
And face it when your young most relationships don't last so why bother with them?
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Not true, it happens more with people aged in their 30s - hardly immature then, besides the sex is better as you get older! 
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Not true, it happens more with people aged in their 30s - hardly immature then, besides the sex is better as you get older!
Just don't be hurt when he finds someone else mate.
You can care for more than one person. I've been there before :/
As for transcending nature.. hardly. Many cultures still encourage multiple partner relationships (mostly for men) such as that chap who recently had his 90th-odd child by his 40th wife (all still married to him) or similar figures.
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I've been "casually" seeing a house mate for about 6 months now. I try not to think about emotions but they do pop into my head, occasionally. It's pretty difficult to keep it completely no strings unless you're both very strong emotionally.
