that sort of lateral thinking is wasted on those go-team, applauding morons!
The dreaded ex......
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that sort of lateral thinking is wasted on those go-team, applauding morons!
Nothing to think about here really, she needs space because she's so stressed about everything; i've been in the same situation myself (with the psycho ex of many years) and its pretty overwhelming. Give her space, being clingy will just make things worse.
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Can we make an "I need advice on girls - emo Megathread" and put all these questions into one big thread where the many many relationship gurus we have on the forums can lend a hand.
Hey I dont think there is anything wrong with threads like this (the fact that this is mine has nothing to do with it). The token anonymity on online forums lets people vent their feelings and get some advice - often really useful!
its that same anonymity that means most forums are full of flame wars and trolling - the fact that there forums is the reason that I visit!
its that same anonymity that means most forums are full of flame wars and trolling - the fact that there forums is the reason that I visit!
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Never said there was anything wrong with it. I'm just saying that we could facilitate better help by having a succinct megathread.
Made me laugh, come on, whats the magic number?
Women are emotionally weak in general, she can't handle what her ex is saying/doing and therefore can't even begin to handle trying to impress or even be herself around you, women can find relationships demanding in the first few months (and it's your fault, things like the above quote). They put in way too much effort, so the question is what can you do? Not much really, just wait and see what she really wants to do about it all, and also you should really decide whether you want to be with a women who is so obviously emotionally insecure.
I dont really think you can grow to love someone in a few months!?! Sure you can be obsessed with them, want to spend all your time together etc but love? No sir -e- bob!
Love takes a long time to build imhoQ! People tend to say it far too early in a relationship, my best mates girlfriend was saying it for like 6 months before he said it back simply becauise he didnt love her! Takes more integreity to not say it....
Love takes a long time to build imhoQ! People tend to say it far too early in a relationship, my best mates girlfriend was saying it for like 6 months before he said it back simply becauise he didnt love her! Takes more integreity to not say it....
hehe, some women are like pebbles; But this bird sounds like the proverbial millstone!
Stay well clear of the ones who 'don't know what they want but they want it' - they know exactly what they want and it isn't your good nature or kind hearted humour. It's having someone else come a running when they call... it's a self esteem thing, or rather a lack thereof.
Whatever the case 'there's plenty more fish in the sea'
only trouble is that the deeper you go, the uglier they get 
Stay well clear of the ones who 'don't know what they want but they want it' - they know exactly what they want and it isn't your good nature or kind hearted humour. It's having someone else come a running when they call... it's a self esteem thing, or rather a lack thereof.
Whatever the case 'there's plenty more fish in the sea'
only trouble is that the deeper you go, the uglier they get 
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I can fall in love with someone in a heartbeat. It's probably why I never admit my true feelings
I believe Johnny Depp said, quite well: "I don't date, I fall in love".
Sucks!
Seems to be the norm.
Havn't read all the thread but theres plenty of awful of advice in it for sure.
Give her time but tell her you arn't prepared to wait around forever <-- easy simple, best sollution.
Those saying that she isn't worth it... what? What are you on about really? You have no idea what she is like and if she feels obliged to do what she is doing then that should be fine. Theres a difference a man drawing a line, and being a total idiot, and I think I'd know which one of those quite a few replying fall into.
Give her time but tell her you arn't prepared to wait around forever <-- easy simple, best sollution.
Those saying that she isn't worth it... what? What are you on about really? You have no idea what she is like and if she feels obliged to do what she is doing then that should be fine. Theres a difference a man drawing a line, and being a total idiot, and I think I'd know which one of those quite a few replying fall into.
nitefly: Thanks for the advice but I actually tend to agree more with the cynical posters! Obviosly im going to know the situation a little better as...well its happening to me!
Its been almost 2 weeks now with diddly sod out of her, she knew that I cared for her and that im happy to give her space but I think its downright out of order to simply not contact me or let me know whats going on! To do anything but just ditch her would without doubt leave me as a 'sucker'.
Its been almost 2 weeks now with diddly sod out of her, she knew that I cared for her and that im happy to give her space but I think its downright out of order to simply not contact me or let me know whats going on! To do anything but just ditch her would without doubt leave me as a 'sucker'.
Ah, I did not know this was the current scenario. 2 weeks is enough for you to call it a day I agree, and only you will know if thats suitable or not. Good luck!
I got 'dumped' last night too I was thinking after february as she is just coming up to her birthday..
She phones up, is straight forward that she feels that there's no real spark and we then have a chat about it after. So she'd only pre-empted it before I got there (as I feel the same too).
As you can see - a real man/woman doesn't just run away without talking about it and treats you as a human being.
So 2 weeks shows it's time to forget about her and move on and thank your lucky stars as she's missing a spine like her ex!
I was thinking after february as she is just coming up to her birthday.. She phones up, is straight forward that she feels that there's no real spark and we then have a chat about it after. So she'd only pre-empted it before I got there (as I feel the same too).
As you can see - a real man/woman doesn't just run away without talking about it and treats you as a human being.
So 2 weeks shows it's time to forget about her and move on and thank your lucky stars as she's missing a spine like her ex!
Depends who you are...