Dating sites

The problem I would have with these sites is the precedent set that you are there to meet people for relationships, so there is kind of an expectation about how you are going to interact.

I prefer it when i meet people through friends or out and about and just chat to them and get to know them, there is no expectation then which makes me more comfortable. It hopefully then leads onto something more ofc.

Each to their own though, I think the stigma surrounding internet dating is decreasing, and rightly so. There is nothing wrong with it.
 
Jesmond said:
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*Signs up* :D
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Bah - birthday dancing ***! ;)


Sara - I was merely joshing - but I know you knew that ;) Yeah I can imagine it's a good way of tayloring who you want to go out on a date with. Easier than traditional methods of trial and error I guess! Cheaper too! :D
 
Eriedor said:
The problem I would have with these sites is the precedent set that you are there to meet people for relationships, so there is kind of an expectation about how you are going to interact.
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In a way it's also easier though - because if there is no such expectation, you could be talking to someone, and then one mentions maybe going out together sometime - and it might be a total surprise to the other person who may have been totally platonic and is then suddenly put off/worried about leading the other on/sad that the other is only after one thing ;)

Haha FF yes I did know but I felt the need to reply :D












...cheapskate ;)
 
I've been a member of match.com for six months - signed up for the 'make love happen' package. The one where you are meant to get an additional six months if you haven't found someone..

I think match.com might have had quite a few apply for their additional six months..:p I've had fun, but also a lot of dis-honest members... Pictures of only their head, when you finally get to meet or get a full length picture, they are like 300lbs..!! Ok - some call that being shallow, but I like Curvy hourglass - not full figured.. It seems the rule is if they put down average = chubby and curvy = full figured.. etc..

Ok, now for good points... Recently took a girl out who was honest..!! Said she was curvy and she was... Not quite J Lo but not too bad... Took a lot of girls out, and its just not clicked. Made a few friends, nothing has happened... Have to see what happens with the one I'm dating at the moment...

If you have confidence issues or low self esteem I can not see how online dating is going to help, you need to be confident enough to phone them once you get a number - confident enough to make the first date etc... I think it overcomes the problem of walking into a pub or something and asking a girl direct that you feel attracted to.

You have to think though - online dating is almost a blind date. Sure you get to see a picture, but that picture could be a million miles away from what they a really are like.. And if you have no chemistry or attraction, then its pointless.

Obvously if you meet and you hit if off, it clicks and you feel attracted then online dating can be a good way to meet a nice partner.

And I have no issue talking to folks offline about how I get dates at the moment...

plentyoffish is also meant to be quite good for getting quick dates - although not put up a profile yet..
 
sara said:
In a way it's also easier though - because if there is no such expectation, you could be talking to someone, and then one mentions maybe going out together sometime - and it might be a total surprise to the other person who may have been totally platonic and is then suddenly put off/worried about leading the other on/sad that the other is only after one thing ;)

Haha FF yes I did know but I felt the need to reply :D












...cheapskate ;)
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:eek: Cheeky bint! I'll have you know that I don't go dutch until at least the 6th date! ;) :p
 
sara said:
Faceparty doesn't feel right to me, before that's suggested, as it somehow seems a lot more shallow.
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I used to live with a mate that used it as a boff tool, plenty of success, but the saying is true; If you try and get laid on Faceparty, the odds are good, but the goods are odd. He brought some straaaaange girls back.
 
That plentyoffish site is pretty damn good, hell of a lot of people on it. I'm on OK cupid too, but finding that there aren't that many people active around my area, spoke to most of the ones that are too lol. Match.com well I don't really fancy paying for a website such as that to be honest lol. And I use Facebook for mates, not for finding a date or anything like that.

Deffinatly recommend www.plentyoffish.com
 
I've obviously got my Fedora Of Cynicism on this evening, but I would have thought that there's a much greater chance that anyone you meet on a free dating site is likely to be tight as a gnat's chuff [1].

Conversely, of course, the same line of logic suggests that only the desperate pay, and well... they're desperate for a reason.

I paid. Mind you, I appear to have struck gold :p :)


[1] - Erm, financially, I mean :o :D
 
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Whats wrong with everyone typing like they hate vowels on these dating sites? I really can't be bothered with anyone who types like that.
 
I have used a few in the past and at first I was under the assumption that the women were all serious about meeting someone.

I would say about 90% of them, that I had contact with anyway, were just playing the numbers game.

I got fed up of it after a year or so (used match, loopylove, girlsdateforfree, dating direct and plentyoffish) so now I just play thier game and date as many as I feel like.
 
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