Why can't parents discipline their kids by means of a slap?

chucky said:
A smack on the bum didnt do me any harm. Once the wooden spoon came out, i knew not to push my luck.
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aye, the same for me and my siblings

we got the belt over our bare backsides, it taught us not to mis-behave
 
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2Thumbs said:
Nail on the head!

All this started in the late 90's, media having a riot saying smaking your kids causes mental and emotional strain later in life.

Then kids starting shopping their parents to the police for assault. :rolleyes:
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Ha! What a joke. I got a wooden ruler broke over my back by the teacher for not sitting in my chair properly when I was 8 in Primary School. That was 10 years ago. :rolleyes:
 
Ascendancy said:
Parents reluctance to physically discipline their children is the reason kids are such little ****** these days in my opinion.
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i agree

back when i was younger me and ALL my mates got routinely beaten if we stepped out of line

and we showed respect to our parents
if we dared back chatted or anything like that we knew it would end in an instant backhand to the face

cant believe the way a lot of the kids these days behave and talk to their parents
 
I got smacked as a kid and ill be doing it to mine (if and when i have any :P) if they step out of line.
 
ill smack my own kids when i have them , as this is how i was bought up , right from wrong etc
 
I've always believed that discipline by means of a slap or whatever has done me no harm, i've grown up to respect other people, with manners etc, i also believe that making it wrong to do so has caused nothing but trouble, i don't need to explain why, look at the youth of today, no gratification, no manners, parents have no control in a lot of cases, in others, the parents couldn't give a toss but that's a different subject all together.
 
I got spanked something like 2-3 times in my entire childhood. From there on it was talk of 'i'm telling your father when he gets home if you carry on like this' and then you knew to stop mucking around. Funny thing is i can never actually remember him ever hitting me, only my mother!

To say it causes you to be violent to others to get what you want is nonsense - i never got into a single fight at school for one. Oh ok there was one but he kept pushing and pushing it to happen.. :p
 
wez130 said:
I've always believed that discipline by means of a slap or whatever has done me no harm, i've grown up to respect other people, with manners etc, i also believe that making it wrong to do so has caused nothing but trouble, i don't need to explain why, look at the youth of today, no gratification, no manners, parents have no control in a lot of cases, in others, the parents couldn't give a toss but that's a different subject all together.
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amen
 
snail1 said:
Wolly liberal comment ahead.

I will never hit my son to discpline him. In my opinion, it only teaches children that violence is a way to solve problems and impose respect.

There are far easier ways to discpline any child: they all want things it may be a toy, or a food treat such as ice cream etc. Denying them these pleasures is carries far more influence on their behaviour. The key is to follow through with your threats and keeping your discpline. Smacking is, again in my opinion, just a excuse for lazy parenting, as the other tehcniques require far more work.
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What age range are you talking about here? Denying them indulgences and other treats for something they did 4 hours earlier when they're <5 is completely pointless; their brains simply haven't developed enough to link the cause and effect. Physical punishment is far more clear cut and they can understand the consequence of their actions far earlier in their life, as young as 2 in most cases.

Between 6-12ish, physical punishment should come after reasoning, and fair warning that they will be smacked if they continue. After that the child is being defiant, and should be smacked.

As for the whole "they see it as acceptable", no, they don't, again, their brains simply haven't matured enough to see the wider picture, they are far more focused on what just happened and what just happened to themselves.

This is all my opinion, I was slapped as a child, not often only when I stepped out of line in a big way or on purpose. I haven't raised a fist in anger since I was about 11-12ish, in fact I haven't had to get physical with anyone I've had disagreements with since the same age. That was more of me growing conscious of my actions and choosing to better myself. Sure, i was hit after I was 12, but I would never retaliate, I just had a very high pain tollerance and they would get bored when I just talked back at them without even wincing.

Yes, when I have kids, I will undoubtedly smack them when they get out of line. Anyone who wants to tell me how to raise my own otherwise can stop sticking their oar in. I'm not going to inflict a bruise, just hard enough to cause pain. A slap across my backside from my parents caused more pain than the dull pain of a dead arm from one of my mates, but it lasted only a matter of seconds.

But, this is all my opinion, and there's plenty of people on here who are going to disagree, call my parents lazy, whatever. I really don't give 2 hoots though, I have turned out perfectly well mannered, polite, non-violent, non-aggresive guy. I judge my personal traits/qualities on what the world would be like if everyone was like me, and the result is pretty harmonious. That may be true of everyone else, but you think of chavs who immediately become aggresive towards someone just for looking at them, the world quickly slides to the mad max end of the scale.

/ramble off :D
 
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