After being with your girlfriend for a while you run out of things to do...

hmm I just bet who buys dinner on her football game... but as she's selecting the restaurant, she's playing in the football match.

"A brilliant plan Mr Rimmer with two minor flaws"
 
I'd recommend doing stuff for both her and you. I really like the idea of the holiday thing. Might try that myself. Take her out for a walk and cook for her it doesn't have to be expensive. I take her out shopping in return for me being patient around her girly shops she doesn't moan to much when I proceed to venture into every game shop in the city. Bike rides are also good. Going to the zoo is a winner :D. Trips out to city/towns/poi. Mine also hates games and doesn't realise how awesome they are!

Aero

P.s. Ishamy congratulations my mate got engaged on saturday.
 
Vixen said:
It really sounds like your problem is that you don't live together. I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 1/2 years and we only ever struggled to do things together before he moved in. The biggest issue for us was that we would have a certain amount of time together and felt almost forced to spend it doing something. Now we spend time together when we feel like it, and more importantly, we try to spend time on our own.

We don't do a huge amount together (mainly because I can't go out much) but I can't remember the last time we were struggling to find something to do. We had a lovefilm membership for ages, and watched through a lot of tv series like someone else has suggested, we also play games together. One of my favourite things though is to go swimming together. Our gym has a small, quiet pool, and it's fun to just splash around for half an hour.
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Pretty much everything you said makes perfect sense to me. Pretty much the women of the forum have re-assured me of what i thought might be the issue in the firts place, and then you got the little hormonal teens who just say have sex duh, yeh sex, haha sex.
 
PESolution said:
Pretty much everything you said makes perfect sense to me. Pretty much the women of the forum have re-assured me of what i thought might be the issue in the firts place, and then you got the little hormonal teens who just say have sex duh, yeh sex, haha sex.
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omg did some1 mention sex, just have sex, my and my girlfriend just have sex,
 
I think the advantage of living together is that you never (rarely) feel under pressure to 'do something'. When you live apart, it kinda feels like any time you spend together without doing something exciting (whatever that may be - holidays, cinema, pubs, meals, gaming, dancing, 'unclean antics'...) is almost like wasted time. When you live in the same house, it really doesn't matter if a couple of days go by and literally all you've done is sit in front of the PC while she's watching soaps. Because you know that you haven't 'wasted' any effort/money travelling to meet each other, getting ready etc.

Now maybe this is just my attitude (some might suggest it means I've never found true love), but I don't think that you need to spend every spare minute with someone doing something to have a good relationship. We're there for each other when we're needed, but part of being an individual is being able to make your own fun. Something don't have any trouble with - I never get bored at home, there's always more games to play / films to watch / books to read etc.
 
Nix said:
You do realise that talking to yourself is the first sign of madness, right?
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talking to myself is the first sign of madness he said, just follow the yellow brick road he said

HangTime said:
I think the advantage of living together is that you never (rarely) feel under pressure to 'do something'. When you live apart, it kinda feels like any time you spend together without doing something exciting (whatever that may be - holidays, cinema, pubs, meals, gaming, dancing, 'unclean antics'...) is almost like wasted time. When you live in the same house, it really doesn't matter if a couple of days go by and literally all you've done is sit in front of the PC while she's watching soaps. Because you know that you haven't 'wasted' any effort/money travelling to meet each other, getting ready etc.

Now maybe this is just my attitude (some might suggest it means I've never found true love), but I don't think that you need to spend every spare minute with someone doing something to have a good relationship. We're there for each other when we're needed, but part of being an individual is being able to make your own fun. Something don't have any trouble with - I never get bored at home, there's always more games to play / films to watch / books to read etc.
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Amen to that
 
PESolution said:
sitting in on a night bored and not being able to think of anything to do other than go out for meals/cinema/on the drink.
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I think you'll need to get outside of M'bro and have a search for a dance class (salasa, etc) where you get to meet more people and you don't get hammered. Have a look around like Guisbrough etc.. I know it sounds 'olde' but you'll need to make an effort.

As others here have said - go for making a meal (take the "Cooking with Jamie" book for example) make the effort with you both cooking, sorting out the place and invite friends over. Get a old fashioned game like Twister.

Book for you and some friends to go somewhere for a weekend.

Quote after me: "This is not the way to live!" .. I've adopted that as my mantra whenever I get into that static hole or things need to change!

You could move completely to a new town/city.. new jobs etc. You're young..

PS.. I spent from 92-96 in Middlesbrough.
 
Ross1234 said:
Its time to get married and have children! (or go to the zoo)
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Hehe either that or:
a) Get Cats (!)
b) Go travelling and see the world

Make a list of things you want todo before you die. Then place about the time you're both 33-38 that you'll have kids by that point.. then both work to those goals. Hell you may/may not see them all, things may change but it's a driver.

There's a couple I know spent 15 years together. Then one day in bed in their new house "I want kids", he said "I don't with you.". I met her later and she talked about her 3 year plan (the bio clock was running out).
Now she's expecting, is married and in a loving relationship - with her 'squash' instructor instead. He's in the US living and working.
 
PESolution said:
not my scene at all! however i know she would love this, perhaps i should try it
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Yes.. unfortunately me and the other half went to Ceroc and it was a bit like a singles club :/ we need to find a Latin American/Ballroom class and go to that as I used to do both when I was younger :)

Why don't you do something she likes - dancing and do something that you would like and she probably wouldn't.. erm kickboxing or something else?

BB x
 
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