What made you choose your partner?

1.Decided to go out with the most beautiful, intelligent and witty girl alive
2. Found said girl.
 
I used a dating website and set a criteria for the type of woman i wanted. Own house, own car, good job and doas not smoke. I Dated two women, the 2nd one I'm married too and have two fantastic kids (one of each).
 
First serious boyfriend - we just clicked instantly, was like finding the other half of myself. The second was probably the most opposite person I can imagine; I loved the way he smiled and the way he made me feel about myself.
 
Reading this thread makes me realise something about myself. I've stubbornly never really considered the slightest possibility of the reality of actually having a partner. Now considering a lot of people do have partners, why on earth would I think like that (whilst at the same time wishing and fantasising about it all the time)? It's genuinelly frightening. I've deliberately gone out of my way more than once to ensure it doesn't happen. I'm actually messed up.

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Robosapien said:
Reading this thread makes me realise something about myself. I've stubbornly never really considered the slightest possibility of the reality of actually having a partner. Now considering a lot of people do have partners, why on earth would I think like that (whilst at the same time wishing and fantasising about it all the time)? It's genuinelly frightening. I've deliberately gone out of my way more than once to ensure it doesn't happen. I'm actually messed up.
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Fear of the unknown, or rejection.

I can sympathise. But get (your leg) over it :)
 
Robosapien said:
Damn, I just remembered that these forums aren't the place to come to for a self esteem boost but now that I've been quoted...doh!

Cheers for the advice anyhow! :)
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I meant, I'm exactly the same. I want a relationship, but any girl that has potential I push away.

For me it's fear of rejection, having had a few nasty relationships.

But the solution is, simply, to get over myself :)

Peace.
 
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