Would you SLAP your child..?

I would hit my child without a second thought. Not a punch or anything like that, but something for them to think about. Also never hit the face, not even a slap, a good slap on the back of the head however..

My dad hardly ever hit me, but my mom, boy o boy what didn't I get hit with.. Slippers, belts, spoons etc. I turned out good though I think :)
 
POW! Right in the kisser!
POW! Right in the kisser!
POW!! Right in the kisser!

Don't know why I thought of that when starting to read this thread.

I'm no expert on kids, don't have any yet, probably won't for a few more years yet. I was slapped as a kid (more like a tap on the arse/hand) only when I was really naughty, parents always said it hurt them more than it did me.

I think Gilly was spot on, don't know if I will need to or not. I would probably beat them around the arse if they ran out into a road without looking, tried to put fingers in 'leccy sockets or grab at a hot iron/kettle. More through the shock factor to ensure they didn't do it again.

If it was more a challenge and the kid just gave me some back chat or something, I'd think of more devious/embarrasing/power elevating punishments than just a quick smack on the hand.
Examples: "You aren't having this, or going here, or doing this" as a result of what you have just done.

Oh...and the lawn needs mowing - get on it!
 
Tricky decision really: there are some parents who may well be able to discipline their offspring with voice and reward etc ...... unfortunately,they are in a tiny minority; there are many, many more parents who have not the slightest idea of what repect/discipline or restraint are and that's where the problems arrise.

I see young mothers and fathers out in public, on a regular basis, where the child of 3 years old is dictating what will happen, NOT the parents! if they can't influence their child at that age, they are going to be hard pushed in ten years time: These are also the sort of people who will pick up on the corporal punishment regime and totally overdo it. IMO

There is no easy answer; we all think we know what is best, but what works well for one family may not be of any use to another, where the dynamic is different.

Retarded young kids who become 'parents' when they don't know right from wrong themselves are never going to be able to bring up their offspring in the way we all would think reasonable, and their grandchildren will be the same or worse; to sit back in our middle class comfortable lives and say " one should NEVER hit a child" is very naive.

Smack/hit a child on a fleshy part if necessary but NOT because you are angry.
 
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my dad smacked me lots of times when i did wrong, eventually i punched him in the face, i was then beaten.

i wouldnt change a single moment of my life in that aspect if i had a time machine

every man should be severely beaten at least once in his life
 
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i wouldn't do it to be spiteful only if there was a reason. kids do irrational things and you have to allow for it but discipline is something thats clearly lacking today. i had it done to me once when i was a kid. hurt so much i didnt repeat it. thats the way it should be. a friend told me one of the most hurtful things said to them was when their child said 'if you hurt me i'll go to the police'.

they're really mild mannered who wouldnt dream of hitting the kids i gather they just wanted to teach discipline so to get that response says everything about todays socity.
 
I've only ever been slapped on the back of the hand, when it was to stop me hurting myself, e.g. trying to touch a fire. A slap on the hand hurts a lot less than a burn. Other than that, I've never been hit, and I don't think I turned out all that bad.

I would never think of slapping a child unless absolutely necessary. But if a child gets that bad in the first place, it's usually the parent's fault (bar a few cases).
 
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D D Danneh said:
I've only ever been slapped on the back of the hand, when it was to stop me hurting myself, e.g. trying to touch a fire. A slap on the hand hurts a lot less than a burn. Other than that, I've never been hit, and I don't think I turned out all that bad.

I would never think of slapping a child unless absolutely necessary. But if a child gets that bad in the first place, it's usually the parent's fault (bar a few cases).
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me neither. i wouldn't dream of going out fighting or stealing like todays lot.

but likewise i would never allow myself to be scared or pushed around. god help someone if they try it.
 
we should be able to hit other peoples kids aswell! non of those chavs would be kicking off , robbing cars , houses and god knows what else if they thought they would get a beating and they would have some respect for there elders :D
 
randal24 said:
On the flip side to that they were also rewarding of good deeds and behaviour, in my mind something that is absolutely paramount if you are going to discipline children.
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100% pure. So often the good gets overlooked. I've often seen this, and I imagine that if I had children I would be proud of the good stuff, and tolerant of the bad stuff to a point. That point should serve as an rare or hopefully one off example in life's lessons. But the positive, man it drives me crazy knowing how many parents just don't appear to cheerlead good doing's or achievements.

This too, like my drunk and loud friends makes me sad. :(
 
arknor said:
we should be able to hit other peoples kids aswell! non of those chavs would be kicking off , robbing cars , houses and god knows what else if they thought they would get a beating and they would have some respect for there elders :D
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As crazy as that sounds I think you are onto something even though if it might not be spot on ;)

Back in the day (before I was born), if a group of kids were mucking about and causing trouble you'd have stories of other mothers/house wives comming out of their houses and schooling the lot of them - and it working.

These days you go out to tell a bunch of kids to move along or stfu and you get stabbed.
 
Cuchulain said:
I don't know how to reply to this other than laugh, could you tell me how you came to this conclusion as currently I'm siding with "pulled it out of thin air"?
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What does it matter? :confused:

I believe that the reason we see so many kids that need a clip round the ear is that they've never had one, nor ever thought theyh might be in line for one.

It might not even be as far as that. If a kid pushes a boundary and isn't put back in line it's gonna push further and further.
 
I say yeah, if their behaviour warrents punishment then go ahead. Went to boarding school myself when I was young and the cain was in use. Trust me one lot of lashes with a cain and you soon learnt that doing bad things was a bad idea!

Kids these days need it, most kids just have no respect for authority at all.
 
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