Would you SLAP your child..?
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It's probably the upbringing I've had. My parents never smacked us. I personally see it as cowardly. My friend's father used to smack him when he was very young. He's a big lump now, however, and when his dad tried to smack him at the age of 13 he slapped his dad back and his dad hasn't done it since. I know people are different, but in this case smacking didn't work and only bred resentment. There are, however, people who were smacked and think it did them good. It depends on the individual. I wouldn't take that risk with my children.
In my experience it's unnecessary. Maybe I come from a household that, in not smacking, is in the minority.
As a parent myself I'm not going to get into a disagreement with other parents who hit their children, how they choose to discipline them is between them, their kids and social services. However, if you hit a stranger the chances are you'll be arrested and probably charged with assault, the same should apply to your own children.
Man of Honour
It's thinking like this that has caused many of the problems in society today IMO.
Soldato
Only if when he/she's reached the age of 18 and hasn't brought round enough booty to use the swimming pool I will inevitably be building if I ever have kids!
Soldato
+ another one.
No, it is between the parent and the child. Social Services should only be involved if ABUSE is reported. So where do you draw the line? That's where we are all screwed up these days. Abuse is too easily a judgment call of the observing individual. If they are like some on these forums, it can be anything from grabbing the arm to downright smacking a kid across the room. It should be up to the parent and TRAINED professionals to make that call, not Joe Schmoe on the street who was neglected by his parents as a child, grew into a junkie, and now feeds off the working class near the local convenience store.
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I disagree, I think the mian cause of problems in society today is a lack of responsibility rather than children not being hit. Far too many parents seem to think it is up to someone else to raise their kids and for far too long it has been allowed to happen.
It isn't about how you set the boundaries for your child it is the fact that you are setting and enforcing them. Rather than fobbing it off on someone else to do.
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Smacking a child on the bottom is an acceptable form of discipline IMHO. But it should be used appropriately, not when the parent is at the end of his/her tether.
I do not condone anything more than a smacked bottom. Certainly not slapping in the head or similar.
I do not condone anything more than a smacked bottom. Certainly not slapping in the head or similar.
Man of Honour
I have and will never slap my 2 year old - never.
How about when he's three?
My dad used to threaten with steel toe cap boots haha. He struck the fear of god into us all so we never disobeyed. I don't disagree with hitting kids as a punishment, as long as you arent breaking bones or causing internal bleeding, if they're being little ****s they need to be put right and usually words are wasted on younger kids.
Soldato
What I don't get is when you hear the odd parent say "This is gonna hurt me more than it hurts you!" I'm sorry but that is total ********
Man of Honour
You're just echoing what I said about boundaries earlier, but a well balanced parent will always, IMO, withhold smacking their child but will be realistic about the fact that it may be required at some point.
I'd rather they just took their sprog away with them.
I'd much rather gtfo than make a big scene of beating their child in front of me.
Associate
2 words - Parade Belt
My mates dad used to welp them with his old army parade belt (big black plastic strap, with huge silvery buckle) and they still acted like muppets.
When I seen these kids in TV programs kicking the shins of their mums, breaking everything and going into tantrums, then the mother going "Stop doing that, it's naughty" I thought: If you just grab him, bend him over your knee and skelp the **** clean off him, I guarantee he'll drink his juice and be a momma's boy forever.
Even though I have very little experience of children, I say they need to have their minds occupied, rather than firing them in front of the TV or playing a games console, have them help out around the house, doing chores etc. that way they can appreciate the effort their parents put into raising them!
But Yes to the OPs question, disciprin is necessely. Just look at the Army - most squaddies begin as little more than crap on the end of your shoe, at the end of the day they end up as an effective, organised force. (even if they are all raging alcoholics off duty
) It certainley shaped up my brother, my step father and a lot of mates I went to school with.
My mates dad used to welp them with his old army parade belt (big black plastic strap, with huge silvery buckle) and they still acted like muppets.
When I seen these kids in TV programs kicking the shins of their mums, breaking everything and going into tantrums, then the mother going "Stop doing that, it's naughty" I thought: If you just grab him, bend him over your knee and skelp the **** clean off him, I guarantee he'll drink his juice and be a momma's boy forever.
Even though I have very little experience of children, I say they need to have their minds occupied, rather than firing them in front of the TV or playing a games console, have them help out around the house, doing chores etc. that way they can appreciate the effort their parents put into raising them!
But Yes to the OPs question, disciprin is necessely. Just look at the Army - most squaddies begin as little more than crap on the end of your shoe, at the end of the day they end up as an effective, organised force. (even if they are all raging alcoholics off duty
) It certainley shaped up my brother, my step father and a lot of mates I went to school with.
Man of Honour
I see your point but unfortunately there are adults that don’t know their own boundaries let alone enforce them on children – sadly. The product of this is not knowing where to draw the line.
The only time I would go back on my words in where I think Daniel is in danger. i.e. fingers in electric sockets etc.. My older kids are both now teenagers. I did smack them when they were younger and although they have turned out alright, we had problems bringing up Peter – you may recall Gilly.. and this I blame myself for the way I was with them when they were younger. It sicken me becuase I was just like my own father.. who used to put a cricket bat or a yard stick (which broke once) across my arse or legs. Of course, I used to think this was "the way" to bring up children.. I was wrong.
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Man of Honour
Yeah, I remember a rather sage discussion around that. If it isn't needed then that's great. I only smacked Josh because I needed to know he wasn't going to do what he did again.