Would you SLAP your child..?

jake has had a couple of smacks.
he is not scared of me, but he knows where certain boundaries are.

Yes he runs near roads, but we are tackling that by making him in charge of stopping us before we cross, checking that its safe and making sure we keep looking while crossing :D
 
wannabedamned said:
I wasnt sure whether to say this, But thats exactly what I was thinking.

These kids who get yelled at for misbehaving are no doubt the same chavs we see on the streets.
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What a load of rubbish...

Another sweeping statement.

So all children who have never been smacked turn into chavs?

Oh dear.

I would be ashamed typing this drivel.
 
Cuchulain said:
Perhaps you should keep a better eye on your children rather than letting them run amok and then giving them a slap for your own carelessness? *shrug*
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Maybe you need to realise that smacking a childs bottom isnt harsh and evil.

Im not saying its the only thing a parent should do, It should be a last resort. But are you telling me a smack on the bottom if it stops your child running into the road should not be done?
 
Tute said:
I would, but there is a line that separates slapping from beating. I would be careful not to cross that line.

I used to get a slap when I was younger if I did wrong, I don't think it make me worse for it, only better.
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Well obviously! :p
 
easyrider said:
What a load of rubbish...

Another sweeping statement.

So all children who have never been smacked turn into chavs?

Oh dear.

I would be ashamed typing this drivel.
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Yeah....It was kinda sweeping lol

But i still think the lack of control parents have over their kids because they have had their hands tied has directly resulted in an increase of chavs, or kids out of control in general
 
easyrider said:
What a load of rubbish...

Another sweeping statement.

So all children who have never been smacked turn into chavs?

Oh dear.

I would be ashamed typing this drivel.
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No, you should learn to read.
He is saying that the chavs on our streets probably never got a smack.
Not that any child who didnt have a smack is a chav. Its very different.
 
Morba said:
No, you should learn to read.
He is saying that the chavs on our streets probably never got a smack.
Not that any child who didnt have a smack is a chav. Its very different.
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Whatever he's saying does not warrant analysis.

Its BS from any standpoint.
 
I don't SLAP or HIT my children. But there has been the occasional smack. Anyone who panic smacks or slaps their kids without warning needs to take a look at themselves and their self control. When my children need a smack they are sent to their room to wait. They are then told why they are getting the smack and more often then not, express remorse and just get a telling off. A smack is the last course of action too - if there's another suitable punishment then we stick to that.

Every child is different too - my eldest has only ever had a couple of smacks in her life (she's seven). This is because her temperament responds to our tone of voice (that and she's really well behaved). My five year old son gets up to a little more mischief and has had the occasional smack. He's now at an age where he knows he's done wrong and responds. If his action warrants a smack then a 'pat' on the back of the hand is enough. My three year old daughter is feisty and stroppy. When she's having a 'moment' then a smack won't help and she's given time outs. When she does misbehave (such as pushing other children over) then she is firmly told off, then told she will get a smack for being naughty and only then smacked on the back of the hand.

Kids should never have to fear their parents. If you do smack your kids then you shouldn't be trying to inflict pain or shock them by catching them off guard. Everything you do at this early stage of their lives will effect their behaviour and how they deal with conflict with others later...

For the record, I was smacked and occasionally hit. I don't begrudge my parents doing it, they did their best with the parenting resources available to them a the time. I take my own approach with my kids based on what I have learnt myself. As I said, kids are different - some respond to verbal, others need physical discipline. It's how you apply this as to whether it's right or wrong.
 
i was badly beaten by my father as a child and i really really dissaprove of any 'slapping'
if i see any one hit a child i loose my temper and make sure they know what it feels like, i will not stand for any child abuse
 
Im definitely not the right person to comment on this subject. But, im 20, was never slapped or smacked, and have never been in trouble with the police, i dont smoke, i dont binge drink. So, you dont have to slap your child for them to be disciplined.

There worst feeling for me when i was a child (and still now to an extent) is when my parents are disappointed in me. That feeling is a lot worse than anything else i have experienced.
 
A well placed flap of the ear, crack of backside certainly kept me in check when I was a kid.

For example my old boy caught me trying to lever the socket for his drill out of the extension plug with a screwdriver when i was very young, a smack of the hand then and i never again dared fool about with plugs.

Its the knocking 7 bells out of a child for crying in a supermarket im less understanding off.
 
Alexdaredevilz said:
i was badly beaten by my father as a child and i really really dissaprove of any 'slapping'
if i see any one hit a child i loose my temper and make sure they know what it feels like, i will not stand for any child abuse
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And what do you do to "make sure"?


A simple slap is far from child abuse imo
 
JBuk said:
And what do you do to "make sure"?


A simple slap is far from child abuse imo
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if i see a child getting hit i make sure the offending person knows what its like to be hit or slapped by a adult to see how they like being hit when theres nothing they can do about it, its just simply not on, its assault in every way, no matter how you look at it
 
Alexdaredevilz said:
if i see a child getting hit i make sure the offending person knows what its like to be hit or slapped by a adult to see how they like being hit when theres nothing they can do about it, its just simply not on, its assault in every way, no matter how you look at it
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So , to punish somebody for what in your opinion is an assault you take the law into your own hands and commit assault yourself?
 
easyrider said:
Whatever he's saying does not warrant analysis.

Its BS from any standpoint.
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I do agree.

It is very clear that the reason there is scum on the streets nowadays is because they dont get punished severely enough.

I hate to sound like some old dude (I'm not I'm only 18 but I can see sense) but things wernt like this 40 odd years ago because people PUNISHED their children when they did something wrong. They got hit when they were at school. Nowadays if a teacher were to hit a child at school he would be sacked and the parents of the child would be crying about how traumatised their child was.

I see this first hand because some piece of scum drove my head teacher crazy for 5 years until he eventually hit him - ofcourse the head teacher got sacked instantly and that piece of scum student went to my high school and continued making peoples lives a total misery.

Fact of the matter is - if a child gets punished properly and in the right way, from a very early age they begin to learn that their doing something wrong.

Saying that some children react differently is BS. If a child has been brought up, and never hit - only told off, then fair enough they will react differently when hit for the first time but if it had always been that way for them then there's no way that being hit wouldn't work.
 
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