How scary is the L-word, really?

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Dinomania

Dinomania

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OK, so declaring my love was very scary. Like he might get instant cabin fever and run away. But he didn't, he just hugged me tighter as I got my words out in a really clumsy manner.

I didn't expect it straight back, that was like 7 or 8 months in, and I'm his first true girlfriend.

It's our anniversary tomorrow - part of me hopes he's saved it up, another part hopes he doesn't feel under pressure, the final part worries he'll never love me.

BUT it's pretty clear from everything else he says and talks about, that he probably already does. Just hasn't quite figured it out yet, or just not dared to let it out.


Does it scare the bejesus out of you?

Or are you the type to blurt that stuff out fast?
 
It's a pretty poor tv show...

My gf tells me she loves me on a daily basis and it annoys the hell out of me. Yeah I love her but it feels watered down when it's so often ¬_¬
 
if i feel it i blurt it if i dont i wont simple as that really i wont lie to someone and say i love them when i dont but i wont hold bak on telling someone how i feel
 
You'll probably find most women think it's this big, meaningful thing to say I love you for the first time and from then on whereas most men already know that they love their woman and just say it to shut them up once in a while.
 
Hahaha! Afraid not, mikeossy :D

I've only brought it up the three times, or maybe twice - hrm - since (and including) the first mention.

I don't like it being said constantly either.

It would... just be nice to know.
 
int said:
It's a pretty poor tv show...

My gf tells me she loves me on a daily basis and it annoys the hell out of me. Yeah I love her but it feels watered down when it's so often ¬_¬
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exactly my view. if you say it so normally you take the special meaning out of it.
 
I tell my other half nearly at every chance I speak to her I love her. I should cut it down but I can't help the way I feel. She doesn't need to say it to me, as what she went through for me, is enough for me to understand on how much she does.

Love is poison if not used right, but when it is, best feeling in the world. :cool:
 
sara said:
I've only brought it up the three times, or maybe twice - hrm - since (and including) the first mention
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Before you said it, how did you end text messages and stuff? What did you say to him before you went to sleep? I think that might be why I got it from her so soon, it just seems like a natural thing to say to a boyfriend/girlfriend at certain times of the day.
 
Text messages end in smileys or a couple of kisses. I say 'goodnight' before I go to sleep... His messages are always fairly cordial, he doesn't translate affection into text, it isn't his way...
 
My ex was incapable of love (according to herself). When I asked her why she stayed over 2 years with me, and 3 years with her ex, she cleverly averted the issue and never replied to me. Yes, I loved her to bits and was very patient, but in vain.

Women - go figure! :rolleyes: (Yes, I know I'm generalising.)
 
[TW]Fox;13937230 said:
Before you said it, how did you end text messages and stuff? What did you say to him before you went to sleep? I think that might be why I got it from her so soon, it just seems like a natural thing to say to a boyfriend/girlfriend at certain times of the day.
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i see what you're saying. like programming? i.e stereotypical i 'must' say it because thats what expected etc.
 
I take it that it's just me that isn't really arsed about the whole 'saying I love you' thing?

Surely it's the experiences you share together and the things you go through that actually show your love?
 
Neither of our families are the kind to sign off phone calls and all messages with 'love you' so I guess it doesn't really come naturally, I suppose...
 
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