How scary is the L-word, really?

int said:
I My gf tells me she loves me on a daily basis and it annoys the hell out of me. Yeah I love her but it feels watered down when it's so often ¬_¬
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I get it (no sniggering at the back please) about 10 times a day; what makes it worse is that sometimes she gets mildly annoyed if I haven't said it back. It's almost got to the stage of being a 'stock phrase' she'll use to break a period of silence.

Yes, we do love each other but it should mean more than simple reassurance.
 
My ex used to say it all the time and I thought it was pretty meaningless when said every day tbh. Personally if it's mutual, I don't think it needs saying often - actions speak louder than words.
 
If he hasn't said, but does love you, he probably still won't say it without some from of encouragement. It will probably sound clumsy too.

I don't see why it's such a big scary thing to do, but it is, at least the 1st time. I'm much more comfortable with a regional variation, probably because it matches everything else I say, it's not a script.
 
One of my best friend said it to his gf back in February, her reply - "Thanks"

3 days later she dumped him.

2 weeks later they got back together

Last weekend, she moved into his flat and now living together.
 
With one of my exes, we always used to say 'I love you', but she made a big thing (when the time came) when she said 'I am in love with you'. She saw it as a totally different level of commitment, and one at the time that she was ready to make. I must admit I'd never thought about it that way, but it made perfect sense at the time.

Now, I'll only say it if I really mean it.
 
acevuk said:
With one of my exes, we always used to say 'I love you', but she made a big thing (when the time came) when she said 'I am in love with you'. She saw it as a totally different level of commitment, and one at the time that she was ready to make. I must admit I'd never thought about it that way, but it made perfect sense at the time.

Now, I'll only say it if I really mean it.
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Kind of like if I said I love my pet rats but don't take them out to dinner , serenade them with miniature mandolins or leave tiny boxes of chocolates on hand sewn pillows.

I love 'em but im not IN love with 'em...

I really need to sleep.
 
I think a lot of people use the "L" word far too easily.

Im an old codger (30), been around a bit and experienced many things. Love is something sacred, I just wish people were more careful with using it.

Congrats to the OP though, all the best :)
 
I've had it said to me by a lass as early as just over two weeks. Didn't know if I was supposed to take it seriously or not. Didn't last too much longer after that anyway so I guess it freaked me out in some way. :p
 
"Love" is a word that is thrown around all to easily in my opinion, and yet i feel it is the hardest thing in the world to describe.

Good luck to you Sara, you seem happy and if the feeling is reciprocated then it is a truely amazing thing.
 
FosterK said:
I find there's a massive difference between 'love you' and 'I love you'.

Anyone else?
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Me too, I say "Love ya" quite a lot but seldom "I love you". I would tell someone I am "Falling for you" before saying "I love you" anyway so it's not like they didn't see it coming.
 
I have to be honest, i only really say it to my girlfriend because it keeps her happy. I mean, i do love her and all that, but i dont see a reason to keep saying it every five seconds. She should know i love her by my actions towards her, the things i do for her on a daily basis. to be honest sometimes i feel that she doesnt notice these things and would probably let them wash right over her unless they're punctuated with "because i love you". ;)

Girls, eh? I think the guy could have probably said it at least once by now though. Once in a year isnt much to ask.
 
About 16 months into this relationship, I'm waiting for her to say it first, shes waiting for me.

The last time I loved someone and told her it hurt me real bad for 2 years and I swore never to love anyone ever again. Now I'm a bit of a cold hearted ******* and try to distance myself form my feelings. However, I know the feelings are there, I just don't want to admit to myself that I've done it again. Let alone the fact that I more confused than ever about what Love is. I used to think it didn't exist or was some imaginative state of being. Then I fell in love with my ex and the feelings over took me. When that world shattered I was left devastated, lonely, embittered, and hardened to outside emotion. I don't feel the way about my current GF as I did about my ex, but I know I do care for her immensely. I want to say I love her, but do I?

I'll wait for her to tell me, then I will say "Ditto"....
 
Ugh, I wouldn't expect it unless they knew me like my best friend, anything else and its not love.

One of my ex's did and no, she didn't love me really, she even tried to mould me into the man she wanted.

Never going to make that mistake again and I'd never accept it so early on, when it's fresh and new you have no idea and it can cause problems.

It's liberally thrown around too much with some people :o
 
D.P. said:
About 16 months into this relationship, I'm waiting for her to say it first, shes waiting for me.

The last time I loved someone and told her it hurt me real bad for 2 years and I swore never to love anyone ever again. Now I'm a bit of a cold hearted ******* and try to distance myself form my feelings. However, I know the feelings are there, I just don't want to admit to myself that I've done it again. Let alone the fact that I more confused than ever about what Love is. I used to think it didn't exist or was some imaginative state of being. Then I fell in love with my ex and the feelings over took me. When that world shattered I was left devastated, lonely, embittered, and hardened to outside emotion. I don't feel the way about my current GF as I did about my ex, but I know I do care for her immensely. I want to say I love her, but do I?

I'll wait for her to tell me, then I will say "Ditto"....
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Awwwww, that's quite touching but sad in a way.

But you can't live the rest of your life with the fear of being heart broken again. This could be a better relationship than you last one, if you let yourself open up to it and to her.
 
Well I'm in the same position as the above, I've locked myself down because I turned into something I'm not, I had tunnel vision for this one girl, I was deluded and stupid.

I just have to be careful.
 
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