When your mum tries to add you as a friend on Facebook...

My parents and I don't really have a kind of open 'tell everything' relationship. I think this stems from the fact that I've been living away from home since I was 8 (went to boarding school) and thus got used to dealing with everything myself. I would never for example tell my mum I got drunk and slept with someone that I shouldn't have slept with. Some of my friends tell their mums when they had their first BJ and stuff like that. Me; I can't imagine it!

Mum will be told nicely that her request has been denied. When the inevitable complaining and guilt-trip tactics ensue, I will tell her it's in her own best interests.

Wicksta said:
You haven't told her about the brand new diesel Golf you bought and you are embarrased - that's the truth isn't it. :D
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It's a petrol not a diesel. She's had a ride and she loves it (so to speak)!
 
Your being a bit mean to your mum dont you think? Its just Facebook.

Mums need more respect and love. She brought you into this world, the least you can do is do something for her.
 
Talbs13 said:
Your being a bit mean to your mum dont you think? Its just Facebook.

Mums need more respect and love. She brought you into this world, the least you can do is do something for her.
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So because she brought me into the world, I should respect her love for me by subjecting her to pictures of her son vomiting down himself and dressed in a Bugs Bunny costume? Besides if it's 'just Facebook' she won't be too disappointed.

The last thing I want is to be mean to my mum, I'd class it as being 'cruel to be kind', which is why I want to let her down gently.
 
Talbs13 said:
Your being a bit mean to your mum dont you think? Its just Facebook.

Mums need more respect and love. She brought you into this world, the least you can do is do something for her.
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I would think that you'd be doing her a favour to be honest... :p You're completely different with your parents than you are with your mates - and it is shown in the pictures you add to facebook and the banter you have with your mates :p
 
I'm lucky in that my parents think that adults over 40 are cringeworthy on facebook, trying ot be like the kids. However, if my mum wants to see my facebook she just asks my sister who is my friend.

While there is grotesque stuff on my facebook from time to time, I couldn't care less if my mum sees it. She knows who I am anyway.
 
Mr. Anderson said:
I'm lucky in that my parents think that adults over 40 are cringeworthy on facebook, trying ot be like the kids. However, if my mum wants to see my facebook she just asks my sister who is my friend.

While there is grotesque stuff on my facebook from time to time, I couldn't care less if my mum sees it. She knows who I am anyway.
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Apparently, my mum has seen all the pictures on my facebook anyway through my sister (who is also not my friend :p) - however, she has friends who has friends who are my friends and through that they are able to see my pictures :eek:
Madness!! :p
 
Marky said:
Apparently, my mum has seen all the pictures on my facebook anyway through my sister (who is also not my friend :p) - however, she has friends who has friends who are my friends and through that they are able to see my pictures :eek:
Madness!! :p
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You need to change your security settings then!
 
dmpoole said:
I can't see a problem.
Both of my daughters (who are in their 20's) have added me and we can all see each other in embarassing situations.

eg
Lol Daddy, how drunk are you?
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or...
"check out *dmpools daughter name* with me, omar and tripod bubba!"
 
I have a policy of no immediate family or work people on facebook. If mum added me on it, I would just tell her my policy. I can't think of a reason why she would get offended?
 
Klo said:
I have a policy of no immediate family or work people on facebook. If mum added me on it, I would just tell her my policy. I can't think of a reason why she would get offended?
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Your mum is obviously thick skinned. My mum would take that personally, citing all kinds of her friends who have their sons and daughters added on facebook. This isn't milfbook blast and dammit!! I would also struggle to contain my displeasure at the inevitable fact that all my mates will add my mum just to take the urine.

Someone needs to design a Saga-book for >40 year olds.
 
In my job i advise mums and dads to add get their kids to add them to their facebook. It's one of the best ways to know what your kids are up too.
 
ivrytwr3 said:
In my job i advise mums and dads to add get their kids to add them to their facebook. It's one of the best ways to know what your kids are up too.
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If the "kids" in question are 18+ then I think they should let them get on with it and stop prying into their life. If they accept willingly it's a different story, but the ones with parent relationships like that probably tell them everything regardless.
 
I have a similar dilemma at the moment. The Mrs' mum has added me and I have left it on ignore for a good few weeks now.

To be honest everything on my facebook is pretty good, embarassing pics and things I can stand. The odd wall post might be a little obscene.

I could add her to a restricted group and just not let her see conversation with my friends, that will probably work nicely!
 
Dad and brother tried to add me, ignored them both and they haven't mentioned anything. My dad said he wanted to see my pictures from a trip, so I sent him an email link.

At the end of the day, if my family want to talk to me, they can - don't need Facebook to do that...
 
Robbie G said:
So because she brought me into the world, I should respect her love for me by subjecting her to pictures of her son vomiting down himself and dressed in a Bugs Bunny costume? Besides if it's 'just Facebook' she won't be too disappointed.

The last thing I want is to be mean to my mum, I'd class it as being 'cruel to be kind', which is why I want to let her down gently.
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Can't you allow her to see a limited profile?
 
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