What would you do in this situation....


if your invited to a a meal and told 20-30 people surely logic dictates that the person must have booked it and paid for it all in advance?

its not as though you can just turn up to a restaurant with 20-30 people and expect room for everyone
 
So, it seems that the common concensus is thus: Turn up and expect to pay, anything other is a pleasant surprise.

Glad we got that sorted by the internet.:D
 
arknor said:

if your invited to a a meal and told 20-30 people surely logic dictates that the person must have booked it and paid for it all in advance?

its not as though you can just turn up to a restaurant with 20-30 people and expect room for everyone
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That's a rather curious interpretation of logic, why must they have paid for it in advance? Particularly when it's an uncertain number of people? What happens if it isn't a set menu? What if anyone has wine or other drinks? Maybe it's just the age I am or the people I'm friends with but if there's a table booked for XX number of us then I wouldn't immediately assume the meal has been paid for nor that it will come out at a set fee.
 
I'm surprised by how many people would expect to pay for their own meal if they were invited to someones birthday celebration meal.
 
Even if you expected to pay, I never pay an equal share of the bill. I always pay for what I have eaten / drunk and the service for that. I order my food according to what I can afford / want to spend - don't want to be paying for someone else's expensive taste!

And I would have been in 2 minds, probably have thought it would be pay for yourself - hope it would be paid for, but take money anyway.
 
I'd always expect to pay if invited for a meal unless it was made clear that it was "on them" or something.
 
Mr-White said:
you expected him to pay the £900 bill, what nice friends he has lol

MW
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I think you'll find it was his wifes birthday and it was an "acquaintance". I don't think expecting a husband to pay for his wifes birthday party is really asking too much, £900 isn't exactly a large amount of money anyway.
 
Jokester said:
I'm surprised by how many people would expect to pay for their own meal if they were invited to someones birthday celebration meal.
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maybe spie will invite you all to his birthday party at some pimp restaurant and then expect you to pay for your own meals :D

or
hey guys were having a christmas party and your all invited (dont forget to bring your own money for the meal)


seriously how can people expect to pay for their own meals? ive never ever been invited to a birthday do and then been expected to pay my way.
 
arknor said:
seriously how can people expect to pay for their own meals? ive never ever been invited to a birthday do and then been expected to pay my way.
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I know. It's like going to a wedding or taking your kid to a birthday party and being expected to pay for it, you're the one doing them a favour by turning up to their special event.
 
Energize said:
I know. It's like going to a wedding or taking your kid to a birthday party and being expected to pay for it, you're the one doing them a favour by turning up to their special event.
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if your paying anyway you may aswell choose your own restaurant, pick a time that suits you and book the table you want. ;)
 
Strange how the arguments made on here are the exact same ones used by my colleagues at work.

My counter argument was this: Would you phone your friends and ask them if they are coming out to the pubs and a club with you to celebrate your girlfriends birthday, then pay for all their drinks.....NO, they get their own and maybe/probably make sure the birthday girl didnt buy a drink all night.
 
zootfloot said:
Strange how the arguments made on here are the exact same ones used by my colleagues at work.

My counter argument was this: Would you phone your friends and ask them if they are coming out to the pubs and a club with you to celebrate your girlfriends birthday, then pay for all their drinks.....NO, they get their own and maybe/probably make sure the birthday girl didnt buy a drink all night.
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Going to the pub with friends is an everyday event, it's hardly the same as being invited to a birthday party at a restaurant.
 
Energize said:
Going to the pub with friends is an everyday event, it's hardly the same as being invited to a birthday party at a restaurant.
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Agreed, however that is not what he said it was....he said they were going to a restaurant for a meal to celebrate her 40th birthday.

The Birthday girl and her husband are merely friendly acquaintances, not close friends or family.

And going to the pub is a regular occurance for many people, however going out to pubs and clubs to celebrate someones birthday is a once yearly occurance per person, therefore more of a special occassion.

Damnit, now i am being drawn into an argument of my own making, next thing i will be arguing with myself :o
 
if your invited to a large gathering that includes a meal generally the meal is paid for the drinks arent.

if your invited to a night out at a pub or club people dont expect free drinks because its a common thing people do regardless and a birthday is just an excuse
 
zootfloot said:
Agreed, however that is not what he said it was....he said they were going to a restaurant for a meal to celebrate her 40th birthday.
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It's semantics.

The Birthday girl and her husband are merely friendly acquaintances, not close friends or family.
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Even more reason to expect not to pay tbh.

And going to the pub is a regular occurance for many people, however going out to pubs and clubs to celebrate someones birthday is a once yearly occurance per person, therefore more of a special occassion.
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It's not an event organised by someone though, it's no different to any other night of the year expect for the fact that it happens to be someones birthday.
 
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