GFs Religion

[anything I don't mind]

surprised that you never spoke about religion after knowing each other for that long, i wonder how her response was when it was discussed. did she lie ?

that would be kind of an ironic thing to lie about, being a christian.

 

[Glaucus]

Read the relevant posts. She's told him that it's part of the deal - she's expected to marry within the sect, which means that her husband will have to join.

No it does not. That's what is expected by her parents. She has not said that at all.

 

[Maximum Triceratops]

Dont know about you but I have a girlfriend not boyfriend!

Hehe, on a serious note, as has being said, you need to have a long chat and see just how religious she is and also if it would cause any issues later in life. would her family resent the fact that you arent religious? would she expect you to join in with these freaky religious sessions? also if your serious about her, would you be willing to have a Christian wedding and all that it involves.
If she does then gtfo of there.

 

[Sankari]

I cant get much out of the religion thing, but she says she is a massive believer so looks like religion is a big part of her, I didn’t have a clue I feel quite daft really

She obviously cares about you a lot if she's having sex with you despite being a "massive believer" in a strict Christian sect. I reckon she must be pretty conflicted by now.

I am an educated person myself came out of uni 2 years ago with a few degrees so don’t play that game please.

"A few degrees"? That's at least three. Why would you get three degrees?

 

[4T5]

Tell her that Jesus was a Hippy & smoked weed, Then give her some & do her back pasty.

 

[Rroff]

Hehe, on a serious note, as has being said, you need to have a long chat and see just how religious she is and also if it would cause any issues later in life. would her family resent the fact that you arent religious? would she expect you to join in with these freaky religious sessions? also if your serious about her, would you be willing to have a Christian wedding and all that it involves.
If she does then gtfo of there.

I'd have thought if this was her agenda she'd have brought it up before now. Sounds to me like she want as normal a life as possible while not unduly upsetting her parents.

 

[Settleddown]

She obviously cares about you a lot if she's having sex with you despite being a "massive believer" in a strict Christian sect. I reckon she must be pretty conflicted by now.

I think a poster a while back said looks like she is trying to get out, I think she maybe too! It must have taken her a lot to tell me so she is obviously thinking about something?


Malc you are coming out with some crakers

 

[Stag]

No Christians that I know believe that Dinosaur remains were implanted into the earth. However, if you ask why they are there; then they will say how they are planted there by God to remind us of Hell, or something along those lines. It's a symbology thing, as is the entire bible.

I am actually a very tolerant person, I have no issues with most religions and they can believe what they want, but if something is demonstrably false then their faith is akin to brainwashing.

If you think that all Christians believe god put bones in the ground you are as ridiculous as the few Christians that actually do.

I doubt 5% in this country believe in YEC as we are a fairly educated country, though who knows. It is a position in America which is quite common however...

See the debate about teaching creationism next to the theory of evolution for exactly how America is so bizarre.

 

[Rroff]

It could be she is a believer but doesn't believe in the way of the religious group her parents belong to - having it as a guide to her life rather than rituals and meaningless rigidly enforced rules about how you should act to be a christian.

 

[Angilion]

"A few degrees"? That's at least three. Why would you get three degrees?

Some people like their music

 

[Angilion]

No it does not. That's what is expected by her parents. She has not said that at all.

I said "she's expected to". Not "she expects to".

 

[Sankari]

Some people like their music

 

[Maximum Triceratops]

I'd have thought if this was her agenda she'd have brought it up before now. Sounds to me like she want as normal a life as possible while not unduly upsetting her parents.

Her parents must know that he isnt religious though ?
what do they expect? to dump him and marry someone they hand pick for her?
Whatever the case she is going to have issues by staying with him, possibly having to pick between him and her Parents.

 

[Gaidin109]

After some thought and with the limited info you provided about it all im going to stick with my original statement.

She is obviously ashamed and wants to possibly escapee - you can/will provide that.

You will never be accepted by her family / religious community unless you convert - they will whisper behind your GFs back about her and her heathen lover.

That or its just over hype

I have never been accepted by my wifes family either, we have been married for 14 years and the original problem (Being a Royal Marine) is now defunct. Trust me its no big deal, my wife see her family without me and I go to the Pub with my buddies, win win.

 

[Rroff]

Her parents must know that he isnt religious though ?
what do they expect? to dump him and marry someone they hand pick for her?
Whatever the case she is going to have issues by staying with him, possibly having to pick between him and her Parents.

That is a possibility... but most likely IMO they will get used to it eventually. The only groups I know of in the UK that still take it to extremes are the jimmies/taylor brethren (almost deffinatly) and jehovah's witnesses (sometimes).

 

[Glaucus]

I said "she's expected to". Not "she expects to".

No, you said YOU WILL be required to join her faith.
which just isn't the case in most incidents.

 

[Gaidin109]

That is a possibility... but most likely IMO they will get used to it eventually. The only groups I know of in the UK that still take it to extremes are the jimmies/taylor brethren (almost deffinatly) and jehovah's witnesses (sometimes).

I've got a close friend who is married to a Jehovah's witness, (hes a Catholic), and they get on fine, been married for over 20 years and the families tolerate each other fine. I have been to a few dinner parties with all of them present and you wouldnt know they were from different faiths or anything.

If She belongs to some kind of cult, she wouldnt have been allowed to date him in the first place if her parents couldnt tolerate the relationship moving on to something more serious. I think that she was more concerned with what his reaction would be (and reading some of the reactions here I can understand why) than what her Parents might think.

 

[Rroff]

I've got a close friend who is married to a Jehovah's witness, (hes a Catholic), and they get on fine, been married for over 20 years and the families tolerate each other fine. I have been to a few dinner parties with all of them present and you wouldnt know they were from different faiths or anything.

If She belongs to some kind of cult, she wouldnt have been allowed to date him in the first place if her parents couldnt tolerate the relationship moving on to something more serious. I think that she was more concerned with what his reaction would be (and reading some of the reactions here I can understand why) than what her Parents might think.

I'm not very well up on JWs but the ones I do know are very exclusive - until recently they weren't even allowed to socialise with work colleagues, etc.

I agree she was most concerned over his reaction to it - if its anything like I imagine shes had to glaze over the details most of her life if she wanted to fit in - it takes more than a few days to move on from that.

 

[MrMoonX]

freaks! run away now!

 

[Slam62]

you only live once, just don't let them push you around