the friend who has now split up with his gf

cm1179 said:
you're wrong

the person in question is a long term friend who i have known for over 25 years. however, when he gets a girlfriend, he puts his friends on the backburner, he does this everytime. i remain in contact through text, fb, etc but whenever me and other friends would try and involve him in something it was always ''i can't mate, me and the missus are xyz''. fair enough, i understand this, however, although he will always be a friend, i find it hard to understand that he feels he can simply fit back in to the social scence, when as soon as he finds someone else, he will slip straight back out of it and repeat.
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Then go out for a drink with the guy and tell him not to be such a **** when he next gets his leg over. If you tell him in a nice way that all his mates think he's an arse for not hanging out with them, then i'm sure he'll get it.
 
Back in the days before all this mobile communication what did you do, ah yes see your friend once every so often, send letters and such. Did not stop people back then from being friends. Once a friend, always a friend no matter how long it is between communication periods.
 
Bunka said:
Then go out for a drink with the guy and tell him not to be such a **** when he next gets his leg over. If you tell him in a nice way that all his mates think he's an arse for not hanging out with them, then i'm sure he'll get it.
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haha i've done that before in a subtle but harsh way (hmm?) and he does ''get it'' but he still does it again :p
 
cm1179 said:
haha i've done that before in a subtle but harsh way (hmm?) and he does ''get it'' but he still does it again :p
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Are your requests fairly last minute?

I've always found that when in a relationship, free time is often much more planned, so if a mate asks me if I am free 2 days before the weekend, the answer is usually no.
 
cm1179 said:
you're wrong

the person in question is a long term friend who i have known for over 25 years. however, when he gets a girlfriend, he puts his friends on the backburner, he does this everytime. i remain in contact through text, fb, etc but whenever me and other friends would try and involve him in something it was always ''i can't mate, me and the missus are xyz''. fair enough, i understand this, however, although he will always be a friend, i find it hard to understand that he feels he can simply fit back in to the social scence, when as soon as he finds someone else, he will slip straight back out of it and repeat.
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No, you're a women in a mans body. Stop moaning and just go catch up with him and have a few drinks.

At lease he has contacted you. :rolleyes:
 
My mate just split up from a 4 year relationship, saw him once within those 4 years and i heard about the break up and that he wanted to go out with his mates, so i text him and gave him my support and said the night out can be done, he's a lot more calmer now. The problem is, it's natural for a guy to put dedication into his relationship, because there is a chance this could be the one you stick with, if you can't understand that, then you may as well be a alone for the rest of your life.
 
'Wes said:
My mate just split up from a 4 year relationship, saw him once within those 4 years and i heard about the break up and that he wanted to go out with his mates, so i text him and gave him my support and said the night out can be done, he's a lot more calmer now. The problem is, it's natural for a guy to put dedication into his relationship, because there is a chance this could be the one you stick with, if you can't understand that, then might as well be a alone for the rest of your life.
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you saw him once in 4 years?
 
cm1179 said:
you saw him once in 4 years because he was in a relationship?
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:rolleyes:, did you read my post? If you're convinced you shouldn't give him the benefit of the doubt, then don't, but i guarantee there will be a time when the same happens to you.
 
crunchman said:
Just a night out
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if a friend who spends the majority of his time with his missus and cancelled on me to go on a night out with her and i hadn't seen him in a long time, i wouldn't be calling him again. he could call me to arrange something but i would've got the impression he wasn't that interested.
 
Three of my friends have fallen off the radar with them being in long term relationships, one in particular I've lost complete contact with like we've fallen out? I wouldn't know what to say to him if we bumped into each other, it'll be awkward since he was my best friend!

The other two I receive the occasional contact from and the very occasional night out.

:/
 
AmTechFox said:
Three of my friends have fallen off the radar with them being in long term relationships, one in particular I've lost complete contact with like we've fallen out? I wouldn't know what to say to him if we bumped into each other, it'll be awkward since he was my best friend!

The other two I receive the occasional contact from and the very occasional night out.

:/
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just wait til it all goes **** up, they'll soon get in touch
 
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