Is this unreasonable?

seems a little harsh. can your dad actually stop you from going to college if it really came to it?

Yes, it's private.

You missed College because of a strike on something you don't use? :confused:

I think I said, or I meant, that I had not used the tube up until college. Now that I'm in college I've been using the tube since the start of the school year.

Asim? Is that you?

I think he's being very unreasonable though.

How does your dad know you are late etc? Do they send letters out or are you telling him? If its the latter then maybe you just shouldnt tell him...

My school sends a receptionist around every hour checking all the rooms to ask teachers who is absent or late. If you're found late or absent they call you parents up within the hour.

It also goes on your school report at the end.

That's who I thought of when I was writing this :D

You would be fired from a job if you kept being late or screwing up projects because of work being handed in late.

Good thing this isn't a job. I'm not saying I don't need to improve, but I don't think colleges and work exactly the same. Even if you think they should.

Yup. I have to commute to work everyday in London. I live in Milton Keynes I have to get to Westminster. I am never late even if there are tube strikes. Just learn to walk or use a bus instead.

Walking is not really an option, and I am using buses on strikes but when I'm so new to the tube system I'm not fully aware of when strikes are or what to do to deal with them. The first time I had to deal with a strike I had to find out which buses to take and you know, due to the strike, traffic is pretty heavy?
 
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Good thing this isn't a job. I'm not saying I don't need to improve, but I don't think colleges and work exactly the same. Even if you think they should.



Walking is not really an option, and I am using buses on strikes but when I'm so new to the tube system I'm not fully aware of when strikes are or what to do to deal with them. The first time I had to deal with a strike I had to find out which buses to take and you know, due to the strike, traffic is pretty heavy?

College is supposed to get you ready for the world of work - so yes, it should work just like a job. If you're consistently late for work, you'd be disciplined, the same should stand for college.

So, the traffic is pretty heavy during a tube strike? Get up earlier - simples.

I think your Dad's way of dealing with the issue is perhaps not quite the way to deal with it. But to have that many instances of lateness/absence in only a couple of months is a problem.
 
He'll remove you from education? Then what? You live in his house not doing anything being a college dropout? Yeah, great thinking, lol. Just tell him to think about it. And you try and improve getting to college on time, and handing stuff in on time.
 
College is supposed to get you ready for the world of work - so yes, it should work just like a job. If you're consistently late for work, you'd be disciplined, the same should stand for college.

So, the traffic is pretty heavy during a tube strike? Get up earlier - simples.

I think your Dad's way of dealing with the issue is perhaps not quite the way to deal with it. But to have that many instances of lateness/absence in only a couple of months is a problem.

Of course. I don't need you to tell me what I already know from experiencing the first strike I've had to deal with. I know how to deal with it now, I just hadn't known there was a strike and wasn't aware of the problems you can get on the tube. ie tubes stopping before busy stations. They wouldn't do that on South West Trains. brb

quick edit: My parents have been split for a long time, I don't live with the person paying my tuition.
 
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Of course. I don't need you to tell me what I already know from experiencing the first strike I've had to deal with. I know how to deal with it now, I just hadn't known there was a strike and wasn't aware of the problems you can get on the tube. ie tubes stopping before busy stations. They wouldn't do that on South West Trains. brb

Well then, if you know that now - there'll be no problem in the future will there? So that makes your original question null and void because your Dad will have no reason to take you out of your education in the first place.
 
Well then, if you know that now - there'll be no problem in the future will there? So that makes your original question null and void because your Dad will have no reason to take you out of your education in the first place.

No, my question still stands, I was wanting to know how many people would say it's unreasonable or reasonable.

I was not asking for help or here to complain.+
 
Tell him to sod off, move out and let him live his controlling non life on his own.

As you can tell, I have parental issues...:(

He doesn't live with the person paying for the education.
I don't think people appreciate what the dad is doing, paying for private education is not cheap. For it to be seemingly wasted due to poor work ethic is terrible.
 
He doesn't live with the person paying for the education.
I don't think people appreciate what the dad is doing, paying for private education is not cheap. For it to be seemingly wasted due to poor work ethic is terrible.

I'd like to note my Dad thinks it's wasted to an extent not because of the actual grades I'm getting (I get consistent As in tests and homeworks) but because of my poor organization and 'effort grades'.

If I wasn't putting in an effort to the extent he tries to imply that I don't, I wouldn't be doing things like the duke of edingborough
 
Which is what I was thinking, your work ethic is poor which is what he is unhappy about.
Grades will get you in the door of a nice job, poor work ethic will send you back out again pretty quick fella.
Make the most of what your dad is doing for you, for both your benefit and his peace of mind.
 
He doesn't live with the person paying for the education.
I don't think people appreciate what the dad is doing, paying for private education is not cheap. For it to be seemingly wasted due to poor work ethic is terrible.

That'll teach me to actually read the thread first. I thought he was at college...opps!
 
No, my question still stands, I was wanting to know how many people would say it's unreasonable or reasonable.

I was not asking for help or here to complain.+

Given your further info (i.e. private education) then I reckon your Dad is being reasonable.

If you can get decent grades and put no effort in go into public education, no need for your Dad to waste his money on something you don't seem to want (I'd guess this may be along his lines of reasoning).
 
Take your dads contact detials off the college records? Tell them you have moved out?

As far as am aware, the college has no need to tell your parents what you get up to at college? I was hardly ever there, passed mind you. Just.
 
Your Dad is probably trying to scare you into getting your **** together.

and so you should in my opinion!
If you don't want to be there, give it up and go do something you want to do.
If you do, then get the **** on with it, on time and with commitment to the course.
 
Your dad is a ****, but to be sure you better aim to get to lessons about 15+ minutes early and also set your own deadlines 1 day early, to be sure.
 
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