Cancer situation, what would you do?

Been in a similar situation myself, brought an end to a career. I regret it.

This will sound harsh but she is lucky she has her husband and your siblings too.

You can't just put an end to your own life, everyone dies one day.

Its not like you cant be back in the UK within 24 hours should she take a turn for the worse.
 
Sorry to hear about your Mum :(

I can only echo what's been said, speak to your boss and see if it can be delayed by a few months.
 
I know someone in our family that was diagnosed with 3 months, and lived 6 years.

Tough call. If your employer could postpone the position then it's certainly worth staying.
 
The most sensible thing to do is go for the job.

The right thing to do is be with your mum.



If you want to be selfish about it, just think how much you WILL regret it. History cannot be changed, so it's up to us to make the future right. :)
 
It's a very difficult decision and I can really sympathise with that.

I can't comment about your situation, but I know my mother would want me to go. Both my parents have made massive sacrifices to get me where I am today - she's proud of that and of me, and I know she would want me to make the most of my opportunities. I have a massive debt to her, which would both make me want to stay and to go. Saying that, job offers aren't likely to be one-offs - you're 29, so what's the probability of getting something similar / the same in a few years time? I suppose the real question is whether you can attempt to get the best of both worlds and argue for a postponement.

Good luck to yourself and best wishes for your Mum :)
 
very tough call, I don't know what I would do however my gut feeling says 'go'. I know my mum would want me to go. I would fly home as often as possible and make those moments count
 
Take the job, career progression is important and who knows this may be your only chance. Spend the time you have with your mother, and make her happy in the knowledge that you're happy in your career.
 
Ahleckz said:
Take the job, career progression is important and who knows this may be your only chance. Spend the time you have with your mother, and make her happy in the knowledge that you're happy in your career.
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This. I know it may sound harsh to some, but it really is what she would genuinely want. But don't forget to come visit her as often as you possibly can.
 
I just lost my mum which changes your view.

Dont mention the job to your mum so she has no guilt about you staying, then stay.

You can always get a pound note, you cant get another mum.
 
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Already have but not as conclusively as hoped. Her and the whole family insist I go and pursue my career. I know she is saying this because she is selfless and dreads the thought that she might be a "burden".



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I'm in the Forces, I'm just a number really. Having said that the forces are very good at welfare issues and a possibility of delaying my post to the US is high. I know they would make every effort to get me home ASAP should she take a turn for the worse in future, but I'm not sure I could live with just that. On the flip side she could live for many years. Life lottery and the hardest decision I have been propsed yet :(
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Firstly she is your Mum and like most of them they only want what is best for their children. I'm sure she is extremely proud of your achievement and knowing that you are doing well in life will be a far greater benefit to her rather than worrying that she is responsible for holding you back.

Secondly having a family member who has worked in the forces and also moved to the States as a posting (Washington D.C.) I know that these positions don't come along often and they are very much sought after and have such great potential to lead to even higher achievements. I'm positive you will be looked after in your situation should you choose to grab it. The very best of luck either way to you and your mum.
 
You have to ask???

Jesus christ, do you think your mum would leave you if the roles were reversed??

Anyway, sorry to hear the news and i cross my fingers for a happy ending.
 
Dirk said:
You have to ask???

Jesus christ, do you think your mum would leave you if the roles were reversed??

Anyway, sorry to hear the news and i cross my fingers for a happy ending.
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I agree to a point, these times are hard, losing someone is the worst thing in the world however, you may find the person you are losing understands you have a life ahead of you which will entail much more heartache, if this is indeed a once in a life-time opportunity, I hope his mother picks whatever the best choice is.

I can't say what I would do, we all react differently, if it was me, I don't want to be the reason someone missed out on something, but it could be the last time ever.

It's a crap situation, I hope for all the best.

I go with poster #5 though, speak to her.
 
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Not that kind of job though. If you read the thread he is in the Forces. Its a choice he has taken, though welfare in situations like this is generally pretty good and I would like to think they would bend over backwords to get you back if anything does arise.

My opinion is to take the posting, depending on your mother. Speak to your sisters/brothers for their opinions and more importantly make sure your Mum is ok with it.

In the other foot, if I had kids I know I would want them to get away and live out their lifes rather than worry about myself. Where would be the point in spending their life bringing you up, to see you worry and not doing what you want?

Only my opinion of course, but still not a choice I would like to have to make.

I hope everything works out!
 
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