Le relationship thread (keeping it short)

^^ hrmm maybe in a glass is half full kinda way... or otoh its a meaningless vapid phrase which doesnt really mean anything at all :)

but if you can accept that paradigm then it can make you feel a bit better.


If you want my advice then heres what you should do as a long term strategy :D

Monogomy 100% All or Nothing doesnt work.

Binary absolutism doesnt work in relationships.

So what you do is develop lots of female friends. Develop a social circle where it is possible to elevate one of the female friends into the gf sphere. (with a few nudges from you)

Never get so hung up on 1 woman because its a bit like playing BUCKAROO

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You load more and more of yourself onto 1 woman so when she does go nuts (she will - she is a woman after all) everything youve invested in that person she just chucks/throws off with disdain.. everything you have built with her.

Instead of one woman you should invest yourself emotionally with a few women (so thereby not loading too much onto the 1 but spread it out), but obviously only sleep with one (otherwise you might come across as quite the cad and bounder!)

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There is nowt you can do as her mate has already stole her from you & her in the bog this morning chatting to her mate says to me that this was planned & she has an agenda.
I reckon they've been kicking around with a couple of lads & your Missus has finally done the deed so now she has to take action against you.
If you want to try then Your only hope now is to tell her that no matter what has been done or said can be gotten over as long as you stay chatting to each other.
Trouble is Anything she says will be put passed her mate first so you don't stand a chance.
Personally I'd sack her & kick her out on her **** without giving her a chance to sort owt, Her Mate will Have to take her in & living together she will soon find out what colour that grass is & it won't be Green.
Once I'd kicked her out I'd sharpen myself up a tad with a few new outfits maybe a new motor & walk around with your head held high.
She will either come back begging or you'll pull somebody else.
This is only my opinion but if i was you i would get myself ready for the worst, Best of Luck to ya though. :)
 
My spidy senses tell me that soon regulus will be lloking for new accomodation and his Ms friend moving in together. I sudgest you talk to her and get it over with. How old is she?
 
Hello mate,

Do you know her mate at all? Would it be possible for you to talk to your GF's mate, and see if you can't get to the bottom of this?

I'm really sorry to hear this. Why not try telling her some of things that you've said in this thread (she means the world to you etc)

Either she's bringing up stuff from the past as an excuse to break up with you, or she's doing it because she's been 'brainwased' by her experience with her mate, and therefore doesn't feel right in the relationship.
 
I've been there before, it's not a nice place to be in. I've ended stuff like this before, as has the other half involved. Best thing to do is just play it by ear at the moment, and don't give her any reason to have a go at you. Perhaps take her out to dinner and try to remind her why you are both together. Women love attention, she's getting it from other blokes so step it up a notch.
 
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Hello mate,

Do you know her mate at all? Would it be possible for you to talk to your GF's mate, and see if you can't get to the bottom of this?

I'm really sorry to hear this. Why not try telling her some of things that you've said in this thread (she means the world to you etc)

Either she's bringing up stuff from the past as an excuse to break up with you, or she's doing it because she's been 'brainwased' by her experience with her mate, and therefore doesn't feel right in the relationship.
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Misery loves company, i'd be very surprised if her mate wanted her to work at their relationship.

On a night out you'll see girls getting chatted up by guys, this girl will then look to her friend/friends and with psychic jedi-mind trickery will be told if she should be talking to this guy or not. It's good in some sense as it allows them to look out for each other and not get chatted up by a total weirdo, but flip-reverse it and it means if one girl is wanting to hook up she'll generally encourage the other girl to as well.
 
Sounds like your partners friend has pressured your partner into doubting your relationship - that coupled with them both going out 'on the pull' like 'old times' has made her nostalgic about those times. She is now seeing what she has with you as an anchor, holding her back, despite all the great things you've done.

Awful situation. I've been there. Her friend is a witch, and you're in trouble. Prepare for the worst.

******* hate women.
 
I don't agree that she's necessarily cheated on you already. In my experience, women (and sometimes men) often exhibit the sort of behaviour that she is currently and it's often nothing more than a blip. If you and her have something worth salvaging (for want of a better word) then she eventually will come round. I'm sorry to say that it might result in a temporary break-up and perhaps all that it entails.

My advice in the short-term is to be nice to her, passive, not clingy or needy and definitely NO stalking. If the topic comes up in conversation then discuss is rationally and calmly. I know, it's often easier said than done, but try it nonetheless.

I'm usually a bit a of a PC thug about mosts things, but experience and evidence tends to suggest that women are incredibly fickle creatures.
 
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This is pretty much exactly what happened when my parents split up 12 or so years ago, the situation sounds pretty much identical. I won't go into it but I will say you should do everything you can to try and get her interested with being with you again before it's too late.
 
Shes probably not cheating on you, but going out and getting all that attention (any type) and excitement then coming home to same old same old is what shes annoyed about.
 
From my experience, when a woman grows tired of you, they try on any excuse to get away from you, and it seems like that is just what has happened.

Women generally don't know what they want, so they keep trying different things until they find what makes them truly happy (which they don't). They lack the ability to be happy with all the great things they have until they have completely matured up and see the world for what it is, instead of trying to chase a fairytale.

I know It's a tough time, I'm in a similar position as you right now.
I have tried convincing mine that we have a really good relationship that made us very lucky and had a lot of things going for us etc and whatever she's not happy about me with, I can try and change, but alas, that made her speak of more excuses.

Eventually I realised nothing I do can change anything (I even tried being more of what she described as what she wanted), Its only herself that can convince herself of what the world truly is and what we actually had in our relationship.

So my advice would be to prepare for the worst.
 
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