Le relationship thread (keeping it short)
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Sounds like you played it well, The test will be if you get her to do that weird thing you have always wanted to do to her, Take advantage now before she goes Mental again.
Guilt is a perishable currency my friend, cash in while you can!
Well my update is that last night went round my fiancee's place to see if we could somehow save things but sadly we couldnt...soon as i walked in the door i got it in the neck ie i didnt text her that much yesterday on blackberry messenger :/....ermm probably because yesterday was a manic day at the office but nope she couldnt and wouldnt back down
...so in the end i just told her that its finished....took my phone out and deleted her number and texts to show her how serious i was....which then led her into crying like a banshee :/.
Anyhow had enough, staying single for the time being...told her in no uncertain terms that she is not to contact me via email, text or phone calls as i will ignore her completely...she obviously didnt take in what i said because this morning i woke up to loads of texts from her and about 30 odd missed calls with 5 voicemails...all saying how much she loves me and cant be without me etc etc....i havent bothered to entertain her messages as i just cant be bothered....i did tell her last night that i do not feel im in love with her anymore which was heartbreaking but something that ive been thinking about since we have been rowing.
Im quite numb at the moment as within a space of 2-3 weeks everything has come crashing down around me....geez up until 2-3 weeks we were blissfully happy.
Oh well upwards and onwards as they say
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Sorry regulus if ive hijacked your thread...i hope all is well with you fella.
...so in the end i just told her that its finished....took my phone out and deleted her number and texts to show her how serious i was....which then led her into crying like a banshee :/.Anyhow had enough, staying single for the time being...told her in no uncertain terms that she is not to contact me via email, text or phone calls as i will ignore her completely...she obviously didnt take in what i said because this morning i woke up to loads of texts from her and about 30 odd missed calls with 5 voicemails...all saying how much she loves me and cant be without me etc etc....i havent bothered to entertain her messages as i just cant be bothered....i did tell her last night that i do not feel im in love with her anymore which was heartbreaking but something that ive been thinking about since we have been rowing.
Im quite numb at the moment as within a space of 2-3 weeks everything has come crashing down around me....geez up until 2-3 weeks we were blissfully happy
.Oh well upwards and onwards as they say
.Sorry regulus if ive hijacked your thread...i hope all is well with you fella
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Like Richard Pryor said, you don't become a man until your hearts broken.
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Well my update is that last night went round my fiancee's place to see if we could somehow save things but sadly we couldnt...soon as i walked in the door i got it in the neck ie i didnt text her that much yesterday on blackberry messenger :/....ermm probably because yesterday was a manic day at the office but nope she couldnt and wouldnt back down
Anyhow had enough, staying single for the time being...told her in no uncertain terms that she is not to contact me via email, text or phone calls as i will ignore her completely...she obviously didnt take in what i said because this morning i woke up to loads of texts from her and about 30 odd missed calls with 5 voicemails...all saying how much she loves me and cant be without me etc etc....i havent bothered to entertain her messages as i just cant be bothered....i did tell her last night that i do not feel im in love with her anymore which was heartbreaking but something that ive been thinking about since we have been rowing.
Im quite numb at the moment as within a space of 2-3 weeks everything has come crashing down around me....geez up until 2-3 weeks we were blissfully happy
Oh well upwards and onwards as they say
Sorry regulus if ive hijacked your thread...i hope all is well with you fella
Ouch man im sorry to hear that... but better now than years later down the line when it could be much worse with much more invested, good luck to you getting back on your feet.
Indeed...last thing i wanted was us to get married, have kids then divorce...i come from a broken family myself and its something that i wouldnt want to put my kids through.
Oh well such is life, u win some and lose some
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Sorry to hear that Spawn
Any news regulus? I hope all went well.
Hey sorry for the lack of updates. Work keeping me busy. It went nothing like I thought it would. We had a nice meal where nothing was really said. She went on about her day and showed tons of interest in mine.
Afterwards I started watching 'The Unborn' when she came up to me on the sofa and sort off grabbed onto me. Teary-eyed (why does women always start crying
) she went on about how she doesn't want to lose me, so sorry for her behaviour, etc etc. Also said she'll never go out with this girl again if that's what I wanted (I didn't). I also felt compelled to apologise for not doing more with her and allowing things to stagnate. It was very surreal having this conversation with her but it was probably long over due. In a moment of pure madness I even promised to go to dancing classes with her! She's coming to badminton with me tomorrow. We both agreed on making a much bigger effort doing more things together. Today she surprised me by coming round the site (cue wolf whistles from the guys) and taking me for lunch. Almost felt like a first date again. So yes, I'm holding quite a bit of hope for the survival of this relationship.
This about all that's happened so far. There's just one last tiny matter I still want to know but asking would perhaps take us back to square one. I'd like to know if there was another guy on the scene, however brief, when she was out all those nights. Leave it or touch upon later?
I'm 30 yes.
Hey sorry for the lack of updates. Work keeping me busy. It went nothing like I thought it would. We had a nice meal where nothing was really said. She went on about her day and showed tons of interest in mine.
Afterwards I started watching 'The Unborn' when she came up to me on the sofa and sort off grabbed onto me. Teary-eyed (why does women always start crying
I also felt compelled to apologise for not doing more with her and allowing things to stagnate. It was very surreal having this conversation with her but it was probably long over due. In a moment of pure madness I even promised to go to dancing classes with her! She's coming to badminton with me tomorrow. We both agreed on making a much bigger effort doing more things together. Today she surprised me by coming round the site (cue wolf whistles from the guys) and taking me for lunch. Almost felt like a first date again. So yes, I'm holding quite a bit of hope for the survival of this relationship.
This about all that's happened so far. There's just one last tiny matter I still want to know but asking would perhaps take us back to square one. I'd like to know if there was another guy on the scene, however brief, when she was out all those nights. Leave it or touch upon later?
All sounds very positive - good stuff!
I wouldn't ask those dark questions though. Ask yourself this; do you trust her implicitly and do you think she would entertain another male whilst in a relationship with you? If the answers are 'yes' and 'no' in that order, then you have no reason to ask such a dangerous question. Be happy and enjoy what you have!
Excellent suggestion!