Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Dated a girl on Sunday who I met via POF, we got on well & I liked her. As we were parting company she asked me to let her know if I wanted to see her again, normally I would have waited a day or so but I've been trying different things, just trying to change my approach, so thought to hell with it & said "yeah that'll be good I like you". We chatted a little longer then I kissed her & we parted.

So next day I texted saying I enjoyed meeting her & looked forward to seeing her again.... nothing. No response Tues or Weds either. So by this time I thought she was just another messer & texted something like "Hi, haven't heard from you for a while, are you ok? If you're not interested then fair enough but it would be nice to let me know".

Anyway, today I get a text from her saying sorry she hasn't been in touch, she's not ignoring me but has been busy with work someone was off sick blah blah & have I had a good week?

So I'm unsure what to do. I know I acted keen but as I mentioned I've been trying different tactics, normally I would have played my cards closer to my chest & not been so transparent. I'm inclined to just forget about her but I really liked her.

A couple of things I've been dwelling on:

She was a prompt communicator before we dated, never longer than a day between messages.

She is one of those people who has their phone close to hand, it was out on the table when we met rather than away in her bag (though she did observe dating ettiquette & silenced her phone when we sat down).

She has quite a high powered job & talks a lot about it, I had to steer her away a few times & she was cool about this, just got carried away.

I do like her, she may not be everyones cup of tea but to me she is gorgeous, huge blue eyes & a killer smile, very intelligent & easy to be around.

Any input much appreciated.
 
Just pretend it didn't happen, if she really didn't want to bother with you she'd just carry on ignoring you! It would've been much easier for her to do that than to bother responding and explaining why she's been offish.

Don't dwell on stuff like that, it might be hard but it'll do your head in

In saying that, I am a huge hypocrite - I am terrible with dwelling. I just sit and think and think and think and think.

Then when I'm done with that, I'll think a bit more and my head will explode.

Don't do it!
 
Agree with the others. even though personally I'm the kind of girl who will reply same day to someone regardless of how busy I've been there are some people who just need to get on with work then respond a little later on. You gave her the option to get out and she didn't so I'd take that as a good sign

Although I find it rude when people have their phones out on dates but with her hectic work maybe she needs to.
 
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Just ignore it mate, I usually text back same day to most people but have been known to think "im busy I'll do it later" then forget then a few days later suddenly realise, we are all only human after all.

Time for another browse on ye olde'cupid me tinks! :) - Really gone off POF.
 
Though I'd share our story on here.

In may I messaged a girl not expecting a reply. Luck would have it the next day she replied, turns out we got on very well and had very similar interests. We messaged each other for a week and swapped numbers. In June we had out first date, she was very quiet but very sweet and caring. The 1st date went very well and we had a 2nd a week later watching The Hangover part 2, Where we finally connected. After that we went to a pub for a little bit where we sat and chatted till final orders.

To cut a long story short 10 weeks later were in separable. Were going away for the weekend today and booked a holiday to rome :D
 
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Though I'd share our story on here.

In may I messaged a girl not expecting a reply. Luck would have it the next day she replied, turns out we got on very well and had very similar interests. We messaged each other for a week and swapped numbers. In June we had out first date, she was very quiet but very sweet and caring. The 1st date went very well and we had a 2nd a week later watching The Hangover part 2, Where we finally connected. After that we went to a pub for a little bit where we sat and chatted till final orders.

To cut a long story short 10 weeks later were in separable. Were going away for the weekend today and booked a holiday to rome :D
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Nice.... Saying that it wasn't a Groupon deal was it? As sounds like a similar story although we haven't booked! :p
 
Well Todays date went really well :D (hopefully).

Went for a walk around Chester walls then to the pub for a drink, had a few things in common but I find it's better to have a few rather than a lot! had to end it after 3 hours as generally I think it can get awkward if you're doing something for too long, I didn't ask them for a second date this time! which is where I think I was going wrong last time.

Now I'm unsure whether I should message her saying I had a good time, want to do something soon etc or leave it until tommorow, taking this one slower if things work out.
 
I can confirm, whilst wandering the streets of Cheltenham she was yet another fruit loop.
She had put on about 5 stone compared to her pics
She didn't shut up all night.
Spoke at a volume that the whole restaurant could hear.
Constantly repeated herself.
Spoke with her cake hole full of food so that when she spoke, bits fell out of her mouth.
Constantly adjusted herself, brushed off her dress like it was dirty, flicked her hair back every ten sseconds.
Talked about wanting kids before she was 40.
About how she wasnt into commitment.
Got totally trollied, lost her phone. Accused half the club of stealing it, Got in a strop and left the night club, not before asking to borrow 20 quid for a taxi home though.

Bye bye then lol.

The most stalky thing though is finding her umbrella on my passenger seat when I got back to the car. Bearing in mind I havent offered her a lift or taken care of any of her belongings at any point in the evening. The only thing i did during the evening is point out which car was mine when we walked past on the way to the next pub.
So... This would have been at the end of the night, after she left the club. WTF would you put belongings in someone's car you don't know but then immediately get a taxi home...
I can only guess she thinks that will be an excuse to meet me again.
Well she can jog on!

Crazy bitch is crazy..
 
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Oh dear.. Sounds like a date from hell! :p

I've been messaging this guy and he writes the longest emails ever. He can take one small sentence and turn it into an essay. It's good that he can make conversation, but his messages are so long.. He's kinda putting me off a little :o
 
Scubascorpion that is an epic date, how she managed to fit that into one night I don't know! I suppose she must have been a bit mmore reserved than normal with it beiing a date and all, imagine her without a leash.

MisChief, why don't you try a phonecall with the guy? He may just be used to typing huge emails for work and thinks nothing of it.
 
Well I went on a speed dating night and it was a lot of fun. There were a lot of people who didn't turn up so it was very short and we got the next event for free.

all 7 women ticked me as a "friend" interest but not a romantic one, my mate only got 1 friend tick, bless him.

Had a date a couple of weeks later from someone off match.com. Date went well and at at the end she said she'd like to meet again, however later on that night she said she enjoyed the day and my company, but there wasn't any "spark". Followed quickly by her removing me from facebook.

Oh well, the search continues...
 
Got a reply from one I actually like and made an effort with the Email etc. She's quite geeky and needs someone who can handle that. Not a bad looker either, but some might say otherwise.


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Scubascorpion said:
I can confirm, whilst wandering the streets of Cheltenham she was yet another fruit loop.
She had put on about 5 stone compared to her pics
She didn't shut up all night.
Spoke at a volume that the whole restaurant could hear.
Constantly repeated herself.
Spoke with her cake hole full of food so that when she spoke, bits fell out of her mouth.
Constantly adjusted herself, brushed off her dress like it was dirty, flicked her hair back every ten sseconds.
Talked about wanting kids before she was 40.
About how she wasnt into commitment.
Got totally trollied, lost her phone. Accused half the club of stealing it, Got in a strop and left the night club, not before asking to borrow 20 quid for a taxi home though.

Bye bye then lol.

The most stalky thing though is finding her umbrella on my passenger seat when I got back to the car. Bearing in mind I havent offered her a lift or taken care of any of her belongings at any point in the evening. The only thing i did during the evening is point out which car was mine when we walked past on the way to the next pub.
So... This would have been at the end of the night, after she left the club. WTF would you put belongings in someone's car you don't know but then immediately get a taxi home...
I can only guess she thinks that will be an excuse to meet me again.
Well she can jog on!

Crazy bitch is crazy..
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How did she put your umbrella in the car... do you leave it unlocked or your window wide open?

Either way she sounds like a complete horror, im surprised you didnt cut it short long before the end of the night!
 
With everyone seemingly banging their heads against a brick wall using PoF, last night I signed up to eHarmoney. Not handed over any dosh yet so got time to change my mind.
Did it as only people you a similarly matched to you get to view the profile.
Got sent a few "ice breaker" messages but can't view their photos until I pay for a full account.

Don't really want to reply without seeing their pics first!

Have any of you lot used this site?

The minimum amount to hand over for full access is £40 for 1 month, thinking it might be worth a punt, not gonna miss the money I suppose.
 
Seriously, don't sign up to e-harmony. In my experience it was absolutely terrible, you get drip fed matches most of whom haven't even uploaded a picture on their account and like match you have no idea if the people you are emailing are even subscribing. I paid £18 for 3 months and even that wasn't good value for money.
 
I'm avoiding e-harmony out of principle. My Ex and I were having some time out after 2yrs before Christmas last year while we tried to iron out a few issues, she joined their site & found a new bloke within 2 weeks and I haven't seen her since :(
 
Big Chris said:
I'm avoiding e-harmony out of principle. My Ex and I were having some time out after 2yrs before Christmas last year while we tried to iron out a few issues, she joined their site & found a new bloke within 2 weeks and I haven't seen her since :(
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What a ****ing *****. Seriously, I find it hard not to hate women sometimes. It seems like they're all just total snakes.
 
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